Unlike the previous generation, which pursued a stable marital relationship, young people's view of marriage and love has changed a lot, not only becoming more and more open, but also becoming more and more inclusive.
For example, more and more young people are now emphasizing that getting married and having children is not a necessary choice in life, and due to this change in thinking, the marriage rate and birth rate on the mainland have also dropped significantly in recent years.
At the same time, what is even more worrying is that with this change in perception, there is even speculation that monogamy may die out, accompanied by three patterns of marriage or "sweeping" over time.
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Questioning the notion of monogamous marriage
Back in the 60s of the last century, we had already formalized the institution of monogamous marriage. After decades of development, the vast majority of people have developed a solid understanding of monogamy.
Moreover, the vast majority of people also feel that the marriage system of polygamy is a great disrespect for women. It is also the beginning of women's sorrow in the context of a patriarchal society.
In the context of the new era, young people are more emphasizing equality between men and women, and women and men have the same social status. Given this social environment, it is no longer possible to continue to support polygamy.
However, some experts and scholars have different views, such as Professor Qu Limin of Beijing University of Chinese Medicine, who said, "Monogamous marriage is simply unreasonable!" She added: "95% of people get sick because of disharmony in their husband and wife's life and their desires are not satisfied!"
Some netizens said that what she meant was that men could "have multiple wives", which is the freedom of equality between men and women, and the foundation of social harmony!
In this regard, some people agree with Professor Qu's point of view, thinking that she told the truth, but some people think that it is better to be monogamous. If society allows monogamy to be "polygamous", wouldn't it be a return to the old society of the feudal era?
After all, human beings are also different from animals, and on the premise of solving physiological problems, moral issues must also be taken into account. Moreover, what Professor Qu said is contrary to human nature, but in fact it is also against human nature and human ethics.
Of course, along with the continuous rise of female power, there are also some people who put forward the idea of polyandry. Although many people agree with this, from a practical point of view, polyandry, like polygamy, has a certain narrowness. What is more recognized by society is a more free mode of marriage and love.
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Three new models of marriage and love have swept all over the country
1. Always stay single
Obviously, for the older generation, this model of marriage and love is difficult to accept, but for young people with more open and tolerant modern thinking, not getting married has become a best choice for them.
Especially for those young people with a strong sense of independence, if they can solve most of the things in life and work alone, then their thinking will also change because of this, thinking that why do they have to find someone to add to their troubles?
Moreover, it is not so much that it is the fear of marriage that causes young people to think like this, but that it is the reality of society that makes everyone have to have more concerns. After all, marriage not only means that two people live together, but also means that the interests of two people are bound, and once the relationship breaks down and goes to divorce, then the problems faced will become more complicated.
When two people love each other, they can ignore the gains and losses, but once the relationship continues to drain, everything will be different. The consideration of interests will become the first priority, affecting not only their own families, but even the families behind them.
2. Only love and not get married
This model is mainly between traditional and non-traditional, for example, some young people also yearn for love and hope to find a partner who has the same three views, but at the same time, they are hesitant to get married, hoping that both parties can always maintain a romantic relationship.
In fact, in reality, many public figures have maintained such a long-term relationship with their other half, and even lived together for many years and had children, but they never got a license. For them, love does not need to be proven with a marriage certificate.
They feel that the reason why two people who love each other enter the marriage hall is that they hope that both parties can take on the responsibility of marriage. This responsibility, although it will make the relationship between two people stronger, will also increase the constraints on each other.
Compared with becoming a husband and wife, maintaining a long-term boyfriend and girlfriend relationship seems more relaxed. While not marrying may result in the loss of legal protection, it also avoids some conflicts of interest.
Since there are certain pros and cons of getting married or not, it is clear that many young people prefer the latter.
For example, some young people who are more eager to pursue freedom are more inclined to long-term romantic relationships; There are also some young people with better economic conditions who only fall in love and do not get married, also because they pay more attention to the protection of their own property.
Of course, it is not excluded that some egoists use this method to shirk responsibility, so young people, especially some young girls, also need to think twice about choosing only to fall in love and not get married.
3. Maintain an independent life after marriage
The traditional view of marriage and family believes that once you enter the palace of marriage, you will slowly evolve from lovers to family, although love will continue to dilute under the influence of trivialities, firewood, rice, oil and salt, but family affection will continue to increase during this period.
But in the same way, the traditional marriage model has also seen that many young people have seen that women return to the family and become housewives after marriage, but it is precisely because of this that many people have also fallen into the tragedy of widowed marriage.
Insiders fell into a ruthless tragedy, and outsiders took warning.
As a result, more and more women have begun to pursue the embodiment of self-worth, and are no longer willing to bind themselves to the family.
As a result, more and more young people are more inclined to stay relatively independent after marriage. You have your career, and I have my life.
Epilogue:
In fact, compared with the traditional marriage and family, the above three new views of marriage and love are more respected by young people, especially the third mode of independent life after marriage, which makes people feel that it is more conducive to the stability of the family, and more and more young people are more inclined to this choice of marriage and love.
So, what do you think about this?
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