37-year-old Liu Yifei: When there is no man in my eyes, I see the whole world

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2024-06-24 14:03Posted in Zhejiang Parenting Creator

Liu Yifei's new drama "The Story of Rose", have you watched it?

When it was first screened, I watched 10 episodes in a row, and I plunged into the beauty of my fairy sister and couldn't extricate myself, how could anyone play a female college student at the age of 37, and there was no sense of disobedience at all!

But what I want to say is that the reason why this drama can become popular is not all because of Liu Yifei's appearance.

Like the previous popular TV series "The First Half of My Life", the original author of "The Story of Rose" is also the famous Yishu, in her pen, "Rose" is a lady who has never been to class for a day, so beautiful that she turns all beings upside down, a large group of men revolve around her, and she is also indulged in these ups and downs.

But the core of the TV series version of "The Story of Rose" is completely different, although it retains the setting of the heroine Huang Yimei's "extremely beautiful", but even if she is so beautiful and intelligent, confident and sunny, and has a good family background and high education, all the "configurations" that should be there are full, and it is still difficult to pursue the truth of self.

"The Story of Rose" is to concretize the difficulty of women's self-pursuit to everyone, in this story of "female growth" spanning 20 years, she has indulged, compromised, hysterical, felt the fiery pain of love and marriage, and finally reborn and lived a new self.

No amount of pain or time can take away her fighting spirit, she is like a rose from beginning to end, pure, innocent, and vivid.

We are watching Huang Yimei's story, but we are always looking at our own life.

There's a quote from the book "Color Purple" that I love: "You can see everything without a man in your eyes." In the same way, only by putting aside those love entanglements can we see the real shining qualities of Huang Yimei and the clear context of her growth.

01

Huang Yimei, 22 years old, just graduated, has a flamboyant and enthusiastic personality, and is full of youthful atmosphere.

Both parents are professors at Tsinghua University, and her brother is a young and promising architect, and the harmonious and loving family atmosphere gives Huang Yimei the confidence to be confident and free.

She knows that she is beautiful, but she will not be high, use beauty as a weapon, nor will she deliberately cover up her light, and the state of the whole person is very stretched and self-consistent.

Such a girl is destined to be surrounded by the eyes of suitors.

The boy who rushed downstairs to give her flowers came and went; The phone at home never stopped from morning till night......

Her mother was very dissatisfied with her, accusing her of running around all day and night, and mingling with the boys in an unclear manner.

Huang Yimei was very aggrieved and argued that those were just ordinary friends, and she didn't have any ambiguity with them.

But her mother didn't believe it, and told her earnestly: Girls should love themselves.

Huang Yimei said unconvinced: Why do you ask girls to love themselves? Why doesn't anyone let men love themselves? Circling around people like flies all day long, they can't get rid of them.

This dialogue paves the way for Huang Yimei's personality traits throughout the whole play-

She does not want to be disciplined, does not want to be a "good girl" in the traditional sense, does not accept any form of PUA, and pursues equality between men and women.

An incident that happened later made Huang Yimei's trait even more revealed.

Brother Huang Zhenhua introduced Huang Yimei to his unit and asked his friend Zhou Shihui to take her for an internship.

Huang Zhenhua originally thought that Zhou Shihui was honest and steady, and he was about to get married again, so there should be no incident. As everyone knows, the madness of honest people is the deadliest.

At the first glance of Huang Yimei, Zhou Shihui fell.

He fell into his own fantasy and misinterpreted Huang Yimei's politeness and politeness as being interesting to her, so he repented of his marriage on the spot at the Civil Affairs Bureau, which turned the world upside down.

After the eldest brother Huang Zhenhua heard about it, he angrily came to Huang Yimei Xingshi to ask for the guilt.

Huang Yimei bit the ice cream and said innocently: What does it have to do with me?

Huang Zhenhua questioned her, knowing that Zhou Shihui had a fiancée, why didn't she keep her distance from him?

Huang Yimei asked rhetorically: You should ask him, obviously he has a fiancée, why did he provoke me?

Huang Zhenhua impatiently asked Huang Yimei not to go to the internship, and he persuaded Zhou Shihui again, maybe he could change his mind.

Huang Yimei didn't understand, why did Zhou Shihui do such a thing, why did his fiancée still have the obligation to forgive him?

She said a word, and hit the nail on the head.

"Men just treat their feelings as clothes, and throw them away when they are old, and women also treat their feelings as clothes, three years of new and three years of old, and another three years of sewing and mending, right?"

This farce has a happy ending - Huang Yimei rejected Zhou Shihui sternly, making him completely dead, and his fiancée Guan Zhizhi also broke off with him.

When moving out of their new house, Guan Zhizhi took one last look at Zhou Shihui and said, "It's better to waste seven years to recognize a person than to waste a lifetime." ”

It was only after talking with Huang Yimei that Guan Zhizhi saw her heart clearly and bravely made the decision to leave.

Huang Yimei is like a little sun, she is smart, transparent, and can always easily infect the people around her and transmit energy.

02

Huang Yimei's second trait is that no matter what kind of predicament she faces, she chooses to take the initiative instead of passively waiting in place.

The first time she went to the interview, she accidentally got ink on the collar of her shirt, and when she was dealing with it in the bathroom, she looked up and saw a lady wearing a silk scarf walking in, and she immediately had an idea.

She generously asked if she could lend her a silk scarf.

It is always difficult for social terrorists to refuse in the face of social cattle, and the other party was stunned for a moment, took off the silk scarf and handed it to her.

During the interview, Huang Yimei found out that the lady was one of the interviewers and her future boss - Su Gengsheng.

Su Gengsheng gave her a question: Why did you choose to wear such a silk scarf?

Huang Yimei groaned slightly and gave a perfect answer:

"This silk scarf is supposed to be a niche brand in Northern Europe, and the design uses bright geometric shapes, which should be a reference to Malevich's design style. The designer's aesthetics are very important, because he determines the positioning and price of a product, and the aesthetics of consumers are also very important, because everyone determines the temperament of this society to a greater or lesser extent. ”

's words not only highlighted his professional level, but also quietly praised Su Gengsheng's taste, which can be described as leaky.

When Su Gengsheng reported to his boss Jiang Xueqiong, he praised Huang Yimei.

"Being good-looking is just a plus for her, she is quite good in terms of artistic taste and responsiveness."

After officially joining the company, Huang Yimei heard that Jiang Xueqiong encountered a problem - she had always wanted to make an appointment with Mr. Teng, but she couldn't find the opportunity.

This was not within the scope of Huang Yimei's responsibility, but she felt that as an assistant to the general manager, she had the obligation to solve problems for the boss, and there must be a solution to all problems.

She used her powerful search ability to find information that Mr. Teng was going to attend a drinking party, but the reception was of a very high standard, and she couldn't enter without an invitation.

What to do? Huang Yimei thought of an ingenious solution.

She contacted the staff of the hotel, saying that her company needed to book an exhibition hall and to see the venue in advance, and successfully came to the banquet hall where Mr. Teng was located from the staff passage.

Then, under the pretext of going to the toilet, she made a "big transformation" in the bathroom and changed her clothes to appear.

In this way, she successfully infiltrated the cocktail party and facilitated a meeting between the boss and Mr. Teng.

can actively think of ways to make the impossible possible, such a workplace person, which boss can not love?

Therefore, even though she is still a newcomer, Huang Yimei quickly won the appreciation of her boss and went all the way in the workplace.

03

Compared with the road to the workplace, Huang Yimei's road to love is much more twists and turns. A woman, no matter how beautiful and sober she is, can't escape the pain of love after all.

Huang Yimei met the returnee elite Zhuang Guodong, and fell in love with each other at first sight, handsome men and beautiful women, like a pair of wall people.

But on practical issues, they have too many inconsistencies, which give rise to endless contradictions.

Zhuang Guodong applied for an offer from a French company, but did not tell Huang Yimei at the first time, and after she accidentally found out, she was shocked and asked why Zhuang Guodong hid it from her.

At that time, Zhuang Guodong was on a business trip, and he didn't want to pay attention to her noise, so he simply turned off his mobile phone and used cold violence against her.

Like all the girls who fell in love and were splashed with cold water on their heads, Huang Yimei collapsed.

With tears in her eyes, she called Zhuang Guodong's phone over and over again, and all she got was a cold prompt tone; She was paranoid about calling all the hotels in Guangzhou, looking for Zhuang Guodong all over the world.

In the end, she hysterically smashed Zhuang Guodong's home until the downstairs neighbor called the police.

Although in the end, the two were reconciled. But this incident has become a rift in their relationship and can no longer be bridged.

From then on, Huang Yimei's feelings for Zhuang Guodong were no longer so hot, she knew that too strong feelings would hurt herself.

She stared at a painting she had painted on the wall, and said lightly: Time is precious, love enough first. What if I don't love you anymore before you're gone?

I like the composition of this picture very much, Huang Yimei's eyes are cold and clear, occupying an absolute dominant position, and the man behind her is completely reduced to a background board.

From the beginning, she didn't see herself as a passive party in the relationship, and after a brief period of confusion, she regained control.

She still treats her feelings wholeheartedly, but she will not lose herself in them again.

After Zhuang Guodong went to France, Huang Yimei poured her energy into her work and successfully planned an exhibition that won a full house.

The differences between the two in life planning also made her finally sober up.

Zhuang Guodong said excitedly that he was going to apply for permanent residency in France, after which the two of them could live in France.

She felt incredible, how could it be his turn to arrange her life? What kind of work can she do after going abroad, and what will she do with her family back home? Why did she revolve around him for the rest of her life?

Later, Huang Yimei saw a sculpture, like a flash of inspiration, and she suddenly realized her relationship with Zhuang Guodong.

Just like the two people in that sculpture, they are going in two opposite directions, and what they once thought was close to each other is actually just passing by and drifting away.

After understanding this, Huang Yimei calmly and calmly sent a text message to Zhuang Guodong and proposed to break up.

In the house where she once lived with Zhuang Guodong, she silently removed all traces of herself.

Then walked into the rain, let the rain wash his face, and completed the farewell to Zhuang Guodong in his heart.

This is Huang Yimei's first love, with a vigorous beginning, earth-shattering process, and a quiet ending.

For Huang Yimei, it is a catastrophe and a gift.

She lost part of herself, but also gained a part of her new self.

This is the third trait I like about "Rose", she will love others and herself, and she will not forget her own growth in a fully devoted relationship.

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After the end of this first love plot of "Moth to Fire", many netizens impatiently gave bad reviews, which is nothing more than saying that they are not self-reliant and self-reliant at all when they talk about love in the coat of "big heroine".

I think this assessment is biased.

Who said that males and females must be absolutely opposite species? Who said that independent women must be locked in love? Who said that falling in love is something that cannot be put on the table?

Love, it is not shameful, it is not contemptible, it is not a flood beast.

Everyone, at every different age, has the freedom to explore love.

Love and marriage are all a practice, in this process, we can see more clearly the relationship between ourselves and others, and the world, and then become a better version of ourselves.

Love and independence have never been an either/or relationship, they are too extreme, but they go against the original intention of feminism.

True feminism is not about not marrying, having children or falling in love, but about understanding and respecting everyone's choices.

A woman, only by overcoming the difficult mountain of love, can she live the life she really wants to live, and can she free up her energy to become a better version of herself.

Finally, let's end with a line from "The Story of Roses" that I like very much.

"From then on, the world was in front of me, pointing to wherever I wanted to go. I completely, absolutely, preside over me. ”

May we all be firm and fearless, free and free, with both the courage to give our hearts and the confidence to take the helm for our lives.

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Personal opinion, for reference only