"Relatives who are admitted to graduate school and go ashore have a hair circle yin and yang me" is on the hot search: You won't know how jealous the people around you are

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2024-06-21 18:41Published in Fujian

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Seeing a hot post "Successful in the graduate school entrance examination, relatives blew up", it made people sigh.

The subject successfully went ashore this year, and after the list of candidates to be admitted came out, the subject sent a simple circle of friends, no specific list, and no picture of the school information network, but simply with a chicken soup picture and said that he went ashore.

is such a simple circle of friends, but it adds a lot of troubles to the subject.

The subject has a relative, and the two families have a good relationship on weekdays. Even if there is an age gap between the subject and the children of relatives, they often play together on weekdays.

But what I didn't expect was that not long after the subject posted a circle of friends, this relative posted a circle of friends "Be a man or should be low-key" Yin and Yang subject.

Not only that, but the relatives also ignored the subject for the next month.

The subject really wondered that one of the children of relatives was in elementary school and the other was in junior high school, and they had nothing to do with their own graduate school entrance examination.

After being silent for a while, the subject later understood that the last thing he should do was to post that circle of friends.

After the post was exposed, many netizens empathized with the subject's experience.

In "Three Fools in Bollywood", it says: "When your friend fails, you are sad; When your friend is successful, you will be sadder. ”

There is also a related concept in psychology called relative deprivation.

It is said that when people compare their situation with some kind of standard or some kind of reference and find themselves at a disadvantage, there is a sense of deprivation.

This feeling in turn creates negative emotions, which can manifest as anger, resentment, or resentment.

That said, most of the time, no one around you really wants to see you live better than they do.

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I saw a hot post. Netizens went abroad for the first time, and they couldn't help but be excited, and after being excited, they posted a number of moments of friends, showing the beautiful scenery they saw in a foreign country and the food they had eaten.

However, after she received a message from a colleague, her mood was instantly poured with cold water.

It turned out that after seeing the netizen's circle of friends, the colleague sent a message to the netizen privately, telling her to send as few moments as possible, or she could choose to block the people in the company.

After hearing this, netizens were very puzzled, thinking that they had asked for leave through normal procedures, and their work had been explained accordingly, so why bother to block their colleagues.

The most important thing is that you are spending your own money when you go abroad, so why can't you share your joy with everyone.

Seeing that netizens didn't understand, colleagues could only say more bluntly:

"Who knows who won't see you upset and chew the root of your tongue."

This netizen colleague who has insight into world affairs has won the favor of everyone on the Internet.

I remember that Chen Guo, a teacher at Fudan University, once asked a friend around him frankly: "I'm doing well, you don't seem to be so happy." ”

Because whenever she has a happy spring, her friends are always depressed when they see her.

Seeing this, the friend said without concealment: "I hope you are doing well, but I don't want you to be better than me." ”

Gu Long said that the closest person is often your enemy.

Many times, the jealousy of the people around you is enough to drive you crazy beyond imagination.

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Edmund Burke once said, "The man who stands across from us is the most important person in life." ”

Get along with people who are not as good as yourself, and you will only get weaker and weaker; On the contrary, if you associate with people who are better than you, you will become better and better.

Douban netizen @非木曾 is a very competitive person. Whenever I meet someone better than myself in my life, there will always be a feeling of jealousy in my heart.

It's just that those days didn't make him happy.

Later, he slowly changed his mindset from "I am jealous of you" to "I learn from you".

This change in mentality not only made his life happier, but even allowed him to learn a lot from those who were better than him.

Confucius once praised a student as a gentleman, and his basis was: "If there is no gentleman, what is the case?"

To put it simply, it means that it is because the student is in the pile of gentlemen that he becomes a gentleman.

I remember Li Ka-shing once said:

"The more people you come into contact with and the higher the level, you will find that:

The more inferior and lacking people are, the more they can't see the good of others, and they like to trample on each other and tear each other down;

And the more well-behaved and educated people are, the more they can see the excellence of others and know how to support each other. ”

Put aside your personal prejudices and appreciate those who are good, and you will see your own growth.

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