William James, a professor at Harvard University, said:
"Sow an action, reap a habit; Sow a habit, reap a character; Sow a character, reap a destiny. ”
To live in the present moment and get better and better, in addition to having a goal in mind, it is more important to focus on the present.
When you start from the subtleties and improve from the little actions, you will slowly gather strength and become a good habit that will benefit you for life, which is the best way to prosper yourself.
Destiny is not far away, but in your own hands, and in your own attitude towards life.
To be precise, if a woman wants to prosper herself, the best way is inseparable from 12 words: possess skills, stabilize emotions, and think independently.
1 To have a skill is to master a skill
Saying goes:
"Three hundred and sixty lines, the line is the champion."
No matter what you do, as long as you can master a skill and let yourself have profound skills, you can make achievements and bring you blessings for a lifetime.
For a woman, the premise of Wang herself is to have the ability to be independent, which is not to ask herself to be alone, but to have the ability to take care of herself, in order to reap the greatest meaning of life in life.
And to achieve this, you must have certain skills, no matter how small you are, you can shine, no matter how unpopular you are, you can live a brilliant life.
The most important thing is that when a woman has certain skills and can support herself, she has the confidence to live well in the moment.
One person can take care of himself, two people or have a family is more able to take care of their family, and more importantly, when you have the value of your career, you will have more say in the relationship between husband and wife.
When you have a skill, that is, you have the ability to make money, even if you wait until you are old, you will still have savings, which will make you less anxious and more secure.
2. Stabilize emotions and be able to deal with life's problems better
"The Mean" says:
"Joy, anger, sorrow and joy have not yet occurred, and they are in the middle; It is said to be the sum of the middle sections. ”
This sentence is to say that everyone has emotions, and they can't be "medium", but they can control their emotions; If you can achieve "harmony", it is a middle and emotional stability.
For a woman, if she wants to prosper in this life, whether she wants to live a prosperous life, or let herself live a proud life, stable emotions are very important, which can be said to be pivotal.
In the real world, many times it is clear that you are facing a small thing, but because your emotions are not stable enough, it is easier to make things worse and worse when you lose your mind.
Emotions are like the devil, and when you can't control it better, then it will slowly consume you.
If you want to prosper yourself, the most indispensable way is to let yourself have a stable mood.
Psychologist Festinger said:
"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is determined by how you react to what happens."
Because of this, we must let ourselves have a stable mood in order to better deal with life's problems, and we will not lose a lot because of bad emotions.
Don't quarrel when you encounter something, don't worry about things when you encounter trouble, wait when you want to get angry, and don't make decisions when you're angry.
When your mentality is stable, every day will go smoothly.
3. Thinking independently can keep you awake
Writer Yataro Matsuura said:
"The information we get in search engines is often second-hand or third-hand, and most of it is far from the truth."
Now is an era of information explosion, and when you are exposed to information that is difficult to distinguish between true and false, everyone will inevitably be overwhelmed and even make wrong judgments without paying attention.
For a woman, if she wants to live well in this life, only by learning to think independently can she keep her head clear, not let herself be easily deceived, and she will not be casually followed.
The real ability to think independently is to look at things from multiple angles, and it is also to understand the truth of things through multiple channels, only when the more you know and the more information you have, the easier it is to become a person who understands.
With the strengthening of their ability to think independently, they will become their irreplaceable competitiveness, no matter what things or problems they encounter, they can calmly deal with them, analyze them objectively, and truly find solutions to problems.
If you always listen to the advice of others and don't consider whether it is suitable for you, then you can only rely on others forever, or you are at the mercy of others, and you have no ability to think back.
Therefore, we must let ourselves slowly have the ability to think independently, be able to see the direction of the future clearly when the situation changes, and know better where to go when the relationship is pulling, and will not let yourself make wrong choices or become involuntarily.
If you want to have independent thinking ability, you must use your brain more on weekdays, think twice before you act, review and summarize in time afterwards, and slowly improve your thinking ability.
4 Summary
If a woman wants to prosper herself, she never relies on others, but through her own good habits, or slowly improves her ability, and makes herself better and better little by little.
The most indispensable thing is to have skills, stabilize emotions, think independently, start from the small things in daily life, change from little actions, and truly turn yourself into a butterfly and a phoenix.
May you move forward in your life, live up to expectations, not only live a shining life, but also live more and more charming!
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