Marriage is sometimes like the sea, it seems to be calm, but in fact it is turbulent.
There is never a marriage that will be smooth, but more frustrations and ups and downs, if the husband and wife can manage it together properly, they can often be together and happy.
However, if only one party is working hard and the other party continues to slack off, or has other ideas, then the relationship between the two sides will be unbalanced and eventually fail.
One of the most feared is the infidelity to marriage, which gradually tilts each other's marriages.
For a man, feelings arise outside of marriage, mostly from this incident.
1 Chat often, sharing has no boundaries
There is nothing wrong with chatting and communicating with the opposite sex, but there must be boundaries, otherwise the relationship will become more and more ambiguous.
I've seen a story before.
A man loves cycling, so he joins a local cycling circle and rides with like-minded people in his spare time.
Among them, he met a woman who also loved cycling, and at first the two of them just talked about common interests.
I don't know when, the chat between the two broke through the hobby and jumped to each other's emotional state.
Men will tell each other about their conflicts with their wives, or their incomprehension of their wives, in exchange for the other party's patience, comfort and understanding.
At that moment, the man felt that only the other party knew him best in this world, and the relationship between the two gradually became more and more ambiguous.
When chatting between men and women, if there are no boundaries, and saying what should be said to their wives to other women is actually allowing the other person to enter their hearts.
As a result, the relationship between the two people has also quietly changed, and it has also buried huge hidden dangers in their marriage.
2 Chatting a lot, being overly caring
Husband and wife, because they care and care about each other more than others, will make the relationship closer and closer.
The care between two people is unique and cannot be given to others, otherwise it is easy to have problems.
However, there are some men who care too much about each other in chatting with other members of the opposite sex, and gradually push their marriage to the brink of separation.
I had a reader friend share my story before.
There was a new female colleague in his company, because she was assigned to the same project team, so the leader asked him to take it first, the purpose was to hope that the female colleague could get familiar with the business as soon as possible.
At first, his help was limited to the scope of work, but as the two people came into contact more and more every day, women would also come to him when they encountered problems in life.
A man's concern for a woman is only work, but from life and emotional care, and he will even send her home after work.
Although neither of them said it explicitly, both realized that the relationship had changed.
The two people are no longer the original colleague relationship, but have become an inexplicable ambiguous relationship, although the man knows that this is not right, but he can't give up the other side.
Feelings are like this, if your concern crosses the line, then the relationship between two people has also changed.
When you are with the opposite sex, you must know that some care can only be given to the person you love the most, not for any opposite sex, if you don't have a good grasp of proportion, then you will slowly go to the other party's heart.
3 Chat a lot and praise too much
When people interact with each other, praise can give people affirmation and encouragement, and can also promote the deepening of mutual relationships.
The same is true between the opposite sex, if they chat with each other often, the man's excessive praise for the woman will quickly bring each other closer, and it will also make the man's heart pay more and more attention to each other.
Because every time you praise yourself, you give yourself a psychological hint again and again: the other party is the best.
The more this is the case, the more you will feel that the other party is what you like, and the wife at home seems to have too many shortcomings compared to her, and she will become more and more annoying.
Therefore, when a man chats with another woman, if he always praises the other person too much, he will become more and more lost, and the relationship between the two people will slowly cross the line.
There is nothing wrong with praising when interacting with people, but to praise beyond the sense of proportion is to put all your attention on the other party, which will only make you more and more concerned and obsessed.
In the long run, the initial ordinary relationship between two people will also change fundamentally, allowing themselves to fall deeper and deeper into the wrong feelings.
4 Summary
To be precise, the chat and communication at the beginning did not completely develop towards extramarital feelings.
It's just that some men don't grasp the scale, proportion and bottom line of communication, and make a wrong step or step in getting along with the opposite sex, and eventually fall deeper and deeper.
In this case, when you communicate with the opposite sex, you must correct your position, restrain your words and deeds, and keep an appropriate distance, do not give the other party the wrong signal, and do not give yourself the wrong opportunity.
Cherish the person who loves you the most in your life, and care about the happiness around you with your heart, so that your feelings will last a long time and be sweet!
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