Is it He Jie's violent temper, or Shang Wenjie's cold and violent?|They can't be at the same frequency

Mademoiselle Bovary

2024-06-02 15:23Posted in Shanxi Entertainment Creators

Text: Miss Bovary

The fifth season of Sister Lang has been so confused that it is not alarming, especially under the backdrop of "Singer" next door. For pure passers-by, the only thing that can be slightly interested is probably the nostalgia of the Super Girl Fast Girl Gathering.

The program team probably also knew that this was a big trump card this time, so for the first performance, He Jie and Shang Wenjie, as the leaders of each team, came to sing a chorus PK.

The card really played. In fact, few people care about the final outcome or defeat, but the important thing is that the stage where they sang "Shouldn't" together became a solid hit.

It's not just because of the memory filter, but what's more interesting is that the combination of harmony and difference is too just right - one black and one white, one sinking and one lifting, one closing and one release, uneven and orderly, complementing each other, they sing the same song in their own ways and styles, and the meaning is long. Obviously, there are only two people on the stage, and they are wearing simple black and white, but they vividly interpret a rich and colorful beauty.

Who would have thought that standing together in 4th place in 05 and 1st place in 06 would produce such a wonderful chemical reaction.

But after a few weeks, another side of the truth quickly jumped out – momentary harmony on stage doesn't mean all aspects of the mix. They are the two of them who have wow everyone together, and they are also the protagonists of the first big beaf (conflict) of the season.

One is a flame, and the other is as steady as an old dog

What's going on?

In short, He Jie's hot face repeatedly pasted Shang Wenjie's cold ass, and then she shook her face angrily.

The specific situation is Aunt Jiang'er: He Jie and Shang Wenjie were assigned to a team, judging from the broadcast clips of the show, He Jie was very enthusiastic about Shang Wenjie and made at least two "goodwill" behaviors.

The first time: offered to sleep in a room with Shang Wenjie, but Xiao Shang fearfully said that she wanted to sleep with Guo Biting, which was a half-joking way to refuse He Dabao;

The second time: In the distribution of lyrics, He Jie took the initiative to propose that she and Shang Wenjie sing the "Huhu" section, but was rejected by the other party. Shang Wenjie hopes that she and Guo Biting will sing by herself, the reason is that this singing chorus is fine, and it doesn't need to be heavy, and Guo Biting's voice is very light, which is just right. Anyway, it probably means that the two singers are stuffed in this group, which is too full, and it is not necessary.

But no matter what the reason is, at this point, He Jie has been rejected twice in a row by the same person, so then, her dissatisfaction is about to come out.

first retorted: "How do you know that I can't take it easy?" ”

When Sa Dingding, who was the captain, said to Shang Wenjie, "You have already taken it twice, don't take it this time", He Jie once again took the opportunity to refute Shang's proposal: "Yes, it's always like this in the picture, it's boring." ”

Later, I didn't even want to borrow the "machine", so I directly pointed out my personal grievances:

"Shang Wenjie, you don't have to, work is work, and jokes are jokes."

"If you're afraid of me, you can sing that part with Zhu Dan, anyway, you can change the picture."

Immediately afterwards, although Zhu Dan played a round and said that Shang Wenjie was considering the timbre, and Sa Dingding was also trying to pull back the main line of conversation at work, He Jie's inner unhappiness was obviously difficult to suppress, and finally she proposed "I'll change the scene first", and then backpacked away, leaving a bewildered face.

That's what happened, a little bit of a subtle contradiction. It's hard to say who's right and who's wrong, I can only sigh that it's really hard for two so different people to get along together.

How different is it? To put it mildly, there is such a big difference between Aries and Capricorn.

As a sun, fire and moon, I know that I often jump between the two qualities repeatedly, the one divided, the one tired...... So seeing the two of them in close proximity to each other is like seeing the concrete presentation of the two little people in the skull, which is both cordial and funny.

The two traits can still be reluctantly reconciled in a person's body, but they are two big living people standing separately, neither of them is a roundworm in anyone's stomach, and the communication is like a dialogue across the sea, and they can't effectively transform the information output by the other party at all, and in the end they can only repeat the habitual actions in their respective channels, which makes each other even more confused.

Let's see how thick the wall between them is.

They can't be at the same frequency

He Jie is a typical "high-demand baby", although she is nearly forty years old and has become a mother, she still desperately needs to be noticed and recognized, and it is very unbearable to be ignored and denied.

So she is a little "self-centered", and always hopes to occupy that C position and enjoy all the brilliance, rather than being anyone's foil and audience; Her acceptance of negative criticism is also very low, and if she is told by her tutor that she is not good at all, she will always be scolded back, and she will never be able to humbly ask for advice.

She is like the most uneasy and troublesome child in the family, she must be hugged immediately when she cries, otherwise she can howl to the earth, and she will not stop until the roof is shattered; When she sees an adult holding other children, she immediately hangs her face, because she feels that she is the only one who deserves to be held in her arms.

So you think such a person, how can she bear to be rejected twice in a row by a person, and in front of so many people?

And Shang Wenjie is different, on the contrary, she is the kind of "super sensible and super-knowledgeable child", always taking care of the overall situation, always caring about the collective, never fighting or grabbing unless necessary, so although she is very capable, she really doesn't like to be in the limelight, but always looks like a Yazi who makes me harmonious and makes me stand on the sidelines willingly.

Chatting privately with the team members, she can praise everyone one by one around the dinner table, even if everyone is not very familiar; and the speech session when she sang "Shouldn't" with He Jie, she was not immersed in the joy of the personal show at all, but never forgot her identity, and after praising He Jie, she immediately described the beautiful and harmonious relationship between herself and the team members.

Our sister Shang is a natural leader!

The archetype of Capricorn is the father, and one of the archetypes of Aries is the child, He Jie should have a feeling of finding a home when she sees Shang Wenjie, but how can the old father, who is the pillar of the family, spoil one person?

Look at He Jie again, a typical emotionally driven player, desire, likes and dislikes, and ambitions, it really can't be hidden.

She accused Shang Wenjie of communiqué for personal vendetta, but in fact, she was treating others with her own heart. When the proposal was rejected, she basically made various outputs with "I can't let Shang Wenjie succeed", focusing on a "Don't think about it if I am denied, don't think about it, don't let me follow you if you reject it", the whole process is an emotion overflowing the screen, and she is not talking about things at all.

Regarding why He Jie likes to post Shang Wenjie, some people say that she is too purposeful, wants to win, and wants to continue the topic and attention of the supergirl combination, this point should exist, echoing the "sense of centrality" I mentioned above, but not all, I think there is such a layer - she pursues the peak experience, strong combination, sparks fly, overturn the audience, it's cool to think about it!

Fire signs, I know, like to pursue that kind of feeling beyond mediocrity, so they are just busy creating miracles, and they don't have time to help the poor and the weak, and plan for the long term.

Looking back at He Jie's love history, it is also a whim, it is true that he dares to love and hate, and he is hearty, and it is also true that he is reckless and reckless. But do you say she regrets it? Probably not, too much planning will make her high-quality points detract.

But those men are willing to cooperate with her to create a good story, and Shang Wenjie is not happy.

Ms. Shang is not the kind of person who will be led by the so-called superiors, after all, Capricorn's life creed is to be objective and pragmatic, and seek truth from facts.

Do you think I'm playing a pull game with you? Nonono, I really, really, think about the timbre; Do you think I'm targeting you? Don't get me wrong, I'm thinking about what we're going to look like on stage.

Ms. Shang speaks in public, never leaking a trace of emotion, and can always be objective, appropriate and thoughtful. After cooperating, he praised He Jie: "A strong opponent is the biggest compliment to me." Hou Cai talked about the conflict with He Jie, and she immediately analyzed it in an orderly manner: "Due to different personalities, different growth backgrounds, and different interests and hobbies, it is difficult for us to have in-depth communication. ”

Some people must think this is fake, but she seems to have always been like this, this is not a performance, but a habit, habitually withdrawing from the scene of the confrontation between the two, and overlooking everyone's grievances and grievances from the perspective of God, even if she is one of these "everyone".

So to sum up, do you think these two people can match the line?

One is self-centered, the other takes care of the overall situation; One is emotionally dominant, and the other is fact-based. Shang Wenjie doesn't want to be a "wet nurse" who meets He Jiegao's needs, she still has to keep her heart and soul for herself and more others; He Jie couldn't understand Shang Wenjie's detachment and calmness, and could only interpret it as arrogance and targeting in a path she was familiar with.

So, who do you stand on?

It is not only He Jie who has "accused" Shang Wenjie for similar reasons, but also Xu Fei, 06 Supergirl, a singer-songwriter, and a man of temperament.

It was originally a happy part of the "06 Supergirl Reunion", but Xu Fei unexpectedly turned on the complaining mode, saying that she never replied to the Weibo private message she wrote to Shang, and she never attended the Supergirl party.

Of course, Shang Wenjie made another official statement, but Xu Fei's resentment was not erased because of this, and the situation was the same as today.

Many people stand for Shang Wenjie, because she is indeed more like a mature social person, at least she is the one who is committed to solving problems, not the trouble maker in the team, having her means stable, decent, not out of control, and good for the heart.

But at the same time, I am not willing to roughly summarize He Jie and Xu Fei as "giant babies" with a lot of things, they have their cuteness, for example, frank ambition and love and hate will make people look more vivid and vibrant, and the orderliness of the adult world sometimes needs to be reconciled with "children's noise, careful eyes and stinky temper";

What's more, no matter He Jie or Xu Fei, the emotions they give to a single individual will be stronger, and you may feel unbearable, but this intimacy will at least make people have the honor of being favored.

And Shang Wenjie's kind of thing, it is indeed more cold, and the decent and friendly side is reserved for everyone, not for a certain person, in private, maybe as she herself said, she prefers to stay by herself.

Strictly guarding the door of the self-world, this is a kind of spiritual cleanliness, or self-protection, it seems to be a good lady, but in fact it is extremely picky. In essence, how can it not be considered arrogant? He Jie and Xu Fei's intuition was not wrong.

So my conclusion is that since it's so difficult to share the same frequency, it's better to keep your distance and not disturb each other. Otherwise, if it is hard to melt, both parties will be tired.

Workplace Tips: How to deal with "rejection and rejection"?

But when people walk in the rivers and lakes, there are always some unexpected narrow road encounters, where can they always be perfectly staggered? Two people with different frequencies bump into each other, there has to be a solution.

So at the end of this article, a set of practical tips are attached, and the "workplace cheats" are exclusively taught: in the face of the scene of rejection and rejection, how should both sides break the situation?

Although Shang Wenjie is very mature and powerful, there is still a lot of room for improvement in the part that rejects He Jie. This package believes that she can improve in the following two areas:

1, don't hide, don't be afraid, hiding and being afraid seem to be elevating the other party, but they are actually blocking her emotions.

Shang Wenjie always looked like "I'm an I-person, I'm afraid of society, I can't afford to provoke and can't hide", it seems that she is refusing by elevating the other party, but if you put the hat of the strong man on her head, her grievances of rejection are even more impossible to see, and when it is piled up like this, it will be even more destructive when it erupts.

And who wants to be feared? No, no one wants to scare everyone away and stand alone.

2. Be clear, fast, and give the other party the least space for reverie as much as possible.

Either be silent, or run away, or half-joking, or don't have a showdown, then He Jie's feeling is "I was pushed away and disliked, but I don't know why", and then the more you drag it out, the easier it is for her to be cranky, and eventually she will turn all kinds of self-doubt into anger and hatred towards Shang Wenjie.

This is similar to the logic of rumor spreading, the more the person concerned does not respond clearly in the first place, the easier it is to breed messy n versions.

You have a showdown with her as soon as possible, maybe she will still be unhappy at that time, or lose her temper, but that kind of release must be lighter than the explosion after accumulating for a long time, and after learning the pain, she can also reverse her movements as soon as possible, so as not to go to the step of throwing face at everyone and affecting the overall rehearsal progress.

Next is He Jie's side, as the rejected party, once you feel unhappy after being rejected, and you can't understand the other party's motives at all, then you have to ask the party before thinking about it.

Key points: Don't affect the innocent, who makes you unhappy, you find someone, otherwise you will only make yourself more isolated; Don't blame, accusations will only cut off all possibilities of communication.

Use this sentence in a one-on-one conversation: what happened + how I felt + how I wanted to be treated.

For example: You don't sleep with me, you don't sing with me, I feel very lost, and I don't know why, obviously the previous cooperation was so good, I think we can still work hard and get along well, instead of deliberately keeping a distance, what do you think?

I feel that Shang Wenjie should be willing to communicate after listening to it, but it is not like He Jie can say it......

In fact, this is not a compromise or a catharsis, but a solution to the problem.

If you have negative emotions and hold them down, they will not disappear on their own, but will shoot them out to the other party in the form of open guns and hidden arrows in the days to come, then the other party is not dead, he will bounce back, come and go, and the invisible attacks are continuous, which is equivalent to the death of Ling Chi in this relationship.

Therefore, long pain is better than short pain, it is better to spread out the problem in an appropriate way from the very beginning, if the two break up, it is just right, such a fragile relationship is not enough; If he responds positively and takes your heart in mind, then not only is the problem gone, but the relationship may be deeper and stronger as a result.

In short, no matter which side it is, the main premise is: don't hold back, don't drag.

People have different personalities and talents, but they share the same desire to be treated with sincerity. It is inevitable that friction will arise because of different frequencies, but it must not be delayed, because if left unchecked, it will not disappear on its own, it will only get bigger and bigger.

Xue Zhiqian sang: In fact, what feelings are most afraid of is dragging. Not only love, but also any relationship in any person, is the most taboo. A truth: no matter who visits in your life, taking the initiative can solve a thousand sorrows.

Author: Mademoiselle Bovary

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