I once read such a sentence:
"The road is simple, and the key to achieving a person is not what he has gained, but what he has let go."
In fact, this life is a process of constantly picking up and putting down.
Only by knowing how to break away and know what is most important can we liberate our hearts and travel lightly.
Really smart people have learned to organize themselves and spend their time and energy on things that are truly valuable.
Tidy up the room, the house is complicated
There is such a question on Zhihu:
"My life is a mess, how can I change it?"
One of the highly praised answers was:
"When you're struggling and you can't do anything about the life in front of you, clean the house, start with the smallest things, and start to change."
Actor Liu Tao once encountered the most difficult test in her life, her husband's investment was bankrupt and depressed, she not only had to act to make money, but also had to take care of her two children.
But even so, she didn't forget to tidy up the housework and clean the room every day.
When the floor is dirty, it is immediately mopped, and even a strand of hair has to be picked up;
The clothes you usually wear are also folded one by one and sorted in bags.
Later, Liu Tao participated in "Flowers and Youth", and won unanimous praise from netizens for his strong storage ability and finishing skills.
Lu Yu once said:
"Liu Tao is a person who looks weak, but she is very stubborn in her heart, she likes everything to be organized, from life planning to storage and tidying."
As the old saying goes:
"There are a few clear windows, and there is a place to sit and lie down."
When a person begins to tidy up his room, he gets not only the comfort of living, but also the satisfaction of his heart.
I've always liked this sentence:
"Home is a harbor, and only a clean room can nourish life and make you feel more at ease and move forward."
The cleaner a person's room is, the more regular their life will be, the more positive their spirit and state will be, and the more likely they will be to succeed.
On the contrary, people who give up tidying up their rooms because they are lazy will have their lives tangled up in complicated things over time.
Truly wise people will always take the time to reorganize their rooms and make life simple and pure.
Organize your emotions and give up complaining
Writer Liu Na said:
"Emotions are a gun, and when we pull the trigger of emotions, the muzzle of the gun is actually aimed at ourselves."
Human emotions are like clouds in the sky, unpredictable.
If we don't adjust in time, we will get stuck in our emotions and let our lives spiral out of control.
I once watched such a short film:
When washing up in the morning, the man put the watch on the sink, and when his wife saw it, she casually put the watch on the dining table.
During breakfast, the son accidentally broke the watch, and the male protagonist was very angry and reprimanded his son, and blamed his wife for taking the watch.
The wife explained that she was afraid that the watch would get into the water, but the man said that the watch was waterproof, so the two had a big quarrel.
The male protagonist went out to work angrily, and when he was about to arrive at the company, he found that he didn't take the briefcase, and returned home immediately.
But there was no one at home, and his key was in his briefcase, so he had to call his wife.
When his wife hurried home to deliver the keys, she accidentally knocked over a fruit stall on the road and had to pay a sum of money before leaving.
Later, the male owner finally got the bag, but he was 10 minutes late for work, not only was he criticized, but his wife was also deducted from full attendance because she was late.
In psychology, there is a famous "Festinger's Law":
10% of life is made up of the things that happen to you, and the other 90% is determined by how you react to those things.
The beginning of this story is an accident that cannot be controlled by manpower, but 90% of the misfortunes that follow are actually caused by emotional out-of-control.
There is no one in this world who does not have troubles in life.
Everyone will have a time when they are depressed, and the fool will only complain, but the wise will know how to adjust.
Just imagine, if you have 86,400 yuan and lose 400 yuan, will you throw away the remaining 86,000 yuan together?
Of course not.
So, why do you have 86,400 seconds in a day, and you make the remaining 86,000 seconds unhappy because of 400 seconds of bad mood?
As Zhou Guoping said:
"No matter how short life is, living with a smile, enjoying with a smile, suffering with a smile, this is life."
When we learn to accept our emotions, organize our emotions, and face life with a positive attitude, you will find that beauty is quietly coming.
Organize the circle and let go of your worries
Writer Su Cen said:
"You don't have to invite too many people into your life, if they can't get into your heart, they will only mess up your life."
In this life, we will meet many people, but not all relationships are worth your painstaking maintenance.
Previously, many viewers discovered that the old drama bone Chen Daoming turned out to be the voiceover of the hit drama "The World".
The deep and magnetic tone, full and deep line skills, makes it hard to believe that the person acting is over the age of six.
Looking at his past, it is not difficult for us to find that Chen Daoming's circle in life is simple, and he has always lived independently and soberly.
In his spare time, he plays the piano, practices calligraphy, paints landscapes, and studies what interests him.
And his friends around him always joke that he stays at home alone, which is far less meaningful than going to a dinner.
Chen Daoming smiled indifferently:
"Isn't it a kind of practice to calm down and do something useless but quiet and beautiful, instead of drawing on fame and fortune?"
Not pleased, not sophisticated, not pleasing anyone, and not attached to anyone.
Even though he has received more and more attention, he still insists on his own way of socializing.
Sometimes, we always think that the more friends the better, but in fact, three or two friends are far better than thousands of general friends.
When people reach a certain age, they must learn to streamline their circle.
Cherish those who should be cherished, give up those who should be abandoned, and always leave time for those who deserve it.
Everyone's energy is limited, only by learning to subtract their own circle can they clear the burden, give up their troubles, and get over the better.
Organize your thoughts and dismiss your thoughts
The reason why people suffer is that they think too much, and when a person is surrounded by distracting thoughts all day long, his mind and heart are not purified.
As the writer Mr. Yang Jiang said:
"Your problem is that you think too much and read too little."
Only by constantly examining oneself and cutting off useless distracting thoughts can one get rid of harmful delusions and live a wonderful life.
Go player Wu Qingyuan, Mr. Jin Yong once compared him to a "peerless master" in the game of Go.
When he was six years old, he became obsessed with playing chess and practiced selflessly every day.
At the age of ten, he stepped into the top Go circles and began to play against the most famous players.
At the age of thirteen, Wu Qingyuan won the five-dan chess player Inoue Kohei who came to China and became famous.
In his memoirs, he wrote about a detail before the competition:
Every time I go to Japan to play chess, I always read through the Tao Te Ching.
Because of the idea of "no action, no self, and no desire" in the "Tao Te Ching", he can completely put aside all distractions, sort out his thoughts, and deal with the game calmly.
Everything in the world is complicated and prosperous, not to mention the thoughts in people's minds.
If we don't clear up our delusions in time, we will easily get caught up in all kinds of trivial matters and disturb our minds.
The philosopher Schopenhauer once said:
"The largest prison in the world is the human mind."
Most of the confusion in life is essentially brought about by ideas.
Only by constantly organizing our thoughts can we see things for what they are.
A truly wise person will always keep a clear head and clear thinking, and will not let life lose its original rhythm, but also laugh at life.
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Mr. Lin Yutang once sighed:
"The wisdom of life lies in gradually clarifying and filtering out the unimportant impurities and retaining the most important ones."
Life is a process of cutting down the complicated and simplifying, and the real smart people never stick to the outside, but adjust themselves in a timely manner.
Learn to tidy up the room, so that you can stay away from complexity and tediousness and reap happiness;
Learn to sort out your emotions in order to give up complaints and entanglements and avoid trouble;
Learn to organize the circle in order to eliminate external interference and live oneself;
Only by learning to organize our thoughts can we cut off distracting thoughts and delusions and move forward steadily.