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People who like you, create a "sense of intimacy" when chatting
An obvious detail:
Look at whether the idiomatic words used when they chat with you are "I" or "we".
"I want to eat hot pot, what about you?"
"Shall we go to hot pot this week?"
"I hate this kind of thing"
"I found that we have a lot of similarities"
"Shall we go shopping together and watch a movie?"
"I want to go to dinner and watch a movie, what about you"
Can you notice some of the differences?
often use "I", tend to be independent, and keep some distance from you;
In the face of your approach, your pursuit and initiative, TA is more about maintaining his own sense of boundary.
Frequent use of "we" makes your relationship a whole;
What we do, what we like, what we try, they subconsciously see you as someone they can trust, rely on, and have more affection for you.
As the friendship deepens, as the other person likes you more and more, they are more eager to establish a deeper connection with you;
Seeing you as a whole will not exclude you.
It's like when you get along with people you don't know very well, do you keep clear boundaries?
"You are you, he is him, and it is best if you don't interfere with each other."
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The topics shared are progressive
5 points like:
People who like you are just starting to approach you, get to know you, and share themselves with you;
At this stage, the topic he shares with you is happy, positive, and can make you gain more positive emotional value.
8 Likes:
As you get closer and better, he shares a wider range of topics with you.
The content of the chat occasionally includes: complaining, complaining, complaining, gossiping.
This is the first step: from creating lightness to releasing realism.
10 points like:
will unreservedly tell you the true thoughts of his heart, and expose his truest side to you;
This is an unconditional trust and dependence on you, and there is always a strong desire to share in the face of you.
This is the second progression: the sense of realism is opened, from pretending to be perfect to being sincere, and the burden of idols is removed.
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Use a consultative mode of communication, not a commanding one
People who like you will give you enough respect when chatting.
Respect your personality, respect your decisions, respect your opinions.
"We can go shopping first, then eat, and then watch a movie at the end, don't you think?"
"I want to go to dinner and watch a movie, you can come with me tomorrow"
The former is the tone of discussion and the mode of communication, and the latter is the imperative.
I often say:
Since you're going to be in love, you're going to get married, why not find someone to be with you who makes you feel comfortable, relaxed, and yourself?
Happiness should always come first.
At the very least, you have to find someone who can "talk, eat, and sleep", right?
The real liking should be "altruistic" rather than "refined and self-interested";
It should be "involve the other person" rather than "ask the other person to obey your instructions unconditionally".
This is also the criterion for judging whether the other person likes you or not.
If I care about you and like you, I will naturally discuss everything with you;
If they don't like you, standing on a high position and looking down on you, they will only ask you, order you, and force you.
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People who like you won't be "disappointed"
You say, "I bought a new outfit, you can help me see it"
He said, "Wow, this color and style really suits you, and your eye is still as good as ever"
You say, "Met a pig teammate, this game was lost"
She said, "Invite me and let me help you get your revenge."
The top goodwill, the most comfortable mode of getting along, is often "not disappointing".
No matter what you say or do, the other party can always find the right words to respond to you;
It won't embarrass you, it won't let you down;
Even if your food is hard to eat, they will cooperate with you and encourage you instead of mocking you;
Even if you do something badly, they won't deny you because of it.
A relationship that doesn't ruin fun is addictive and fascinating.
Topic:
Have you ever met someone who likes you like this way?
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