Hello everyone, I'm Cao Dao.
Two days ago, there was a husband and wife conflict news that made headlines.
The wife bought a skirt for 380 yuan, and the husband scolded her for scolding her, saying that she was a loser.
It's not to force people to return the goods, and it's called saving money!
Many netizens commented one after another, overwhelmingly supporting the aggrieved wife.
It is said that the husband picks the door and is powerful, and regards his wife as an ATM and a fertility tool.
The word of the crowd was noisy.
I didn't want to get involved, but a fan came to ask me what I thought.
After thinking about it, I think this matter still needs to be said.
Why?
Because the way partners get along is related to the happiness of every family.
How should husband and wife consume each other?
How to understand and accommodate each other in the face of differences,
It's a cliché and often overlooked.
My three thoughts on this news are:
1
It's only 380 yuan, and it's too little to buy a decent skirt!
Not to mention the current inflation, a hundred times for a meal.
From this wife's point of view, it is rare to add a new dress to herself, and she should be happy.
But if you turn your face, you can "return", who is not depressed?
For a family, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, the monthly fixed expenditure will be several thousand.
380 yuan is placed here, which is not a dime.
It's really unnecessary to have to make a fuss about this little money.
What's more, women put so much effort into their families.
Busy and busy, before and after the saddle, shouldn't you also treat yourself?
Men smoke, drink and play games at every turn,
How can a woman buy a skirt and it will be earth-shattering?
You don't see it, the comment area is full of rebellions, all in solidarity with this wife.
The so-called "husband and wife are originally birds of the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster comes" is not a casual talk.
If you are good to her, she will naturally be good to you.
If you can't get along with her in everything, and expect her to do her best for this family, it will be difficult.
From this point of view, a little sweetness in life, a woman should not only want, but also must!
Men, don't say that women are losers at every turn.
Spending money is what she deserves, and if she doesn't spend money, she can't live up to herself!
2
The wife's "loser" is often forced out by the husband "picking the door".
In my opinion, this husband is not only a little picky, it is simply unreasonable.
380 yuan, which is equivalent to a week's living expenses?
Co-authoring a family for a week, just this amount of money to support?
I thought, it's a bit of an exaggeration, isn't it?
Not to mention the price of daily necessities, let's just say that 380 yuan is not enough to buy vegetables and make a good meal.
Not to mention the large expenses such as children's education and medical and health care.
But this husband is biting 380 yuan, not saying that his wife spends money lavishly.
Let's ask, with this amount of money, what reputation can be saved?
If you look closely at the cases, you can see that all of them are husbands complaining about their wives' spending money indiscriminately.
Either it costs money to buy clothes, or it is a waste of buying bags.
I've never seen a wife complain about her husband's ruined family!
Why?
To put it bluntly, it's not that men "don't pull out a dime" and women "use money like running water"?
On the surface, men are the pillars of making money to support their families, but in fact, women are not virtuous helpers who pay silently?
In terms of ambition and vision, I think women are even better.
Let's just say that the wife in case 3 sees the appreciation potential of the wasteland at a glance.
Regardless of her husband's obstruction, she insisted on investing.
The couple not only made a lot of money, but also lived a rich life ever since.
But at the beginning, how did this husband scold his wife?
It's clear that she spends money indiscriminately and loses all her family property!
Husband and wife are both prosperous and loss-making.
No matter how a woman loses, she is still a petty fight.
If she could afford to lose, it wouldn't be a bad thing.
The most feared thing is that men don't want to make progress, and they will only pick and choose.
On the paper, it is to save money, but in fact, it is a family photo.
In the long run, how much better can the relationship between husband and wife be?
3
The conflict between husband and wife is often just the appearance of the difference in the "consumption concept".
What is reflected behind is the difference in values and attitudes between the two sides.
The wife values the quality of life, and the husband cares about the economic benefits.
I just want to save money, and I can't wait for the word "slamming the door" in every corner.
Just imagine, life is stumbling, and trivial things can be quarreled.
No matter how much material you have, you can't fill the gaps in your heart.
To outsiders, it may be just a fuss.
But for the parties concerned, it is all the "private account" of sesame mung beans.
It's hard to say whose point of view is more reasonable.
The key is that couples learn to empathize.
In terms of money trade-offs, leave some space for the other party.
Don't talk about "losers" at every turn, and don't blindly want to "save money".
Family financial management is about dynamic balance.
Neither can be extravagant and wasteful, nor can you pick the door to the house.
Plan for the future, but also have fun in time.
Only communicate calmly and tolerate each other's differences with love.
Only husband and wife can cross the "firewood, rice, oil and salt" and go to "poetry and distance" together.
Speaking of which, I would like to give a little advice to all couples:
1. Communicate regularly and clarify the consumption concepts of both parties.
Everyone's values are different and their needs are different.
Between husband and wife, it is even more important to do it
"Sexual affairs do not avoid relatives, financial affairs do not avoid neglect"
Where it should be flowered, it should be willing to be flowered, and where it should not be spent, it should be done in moderation.
Second, the family finances should be managed by husband and wife to avoid unilateral decision-making.
After all, they are all adults, and a family should not have a "Yiyantang".
Since you form a family, you must learn to respect each other's opinions and be considerate of each other's difficulties.
3. Consume in a certain amount and live within your means.
The good qualities in life should not only be reflected in material comforts.
Sometimes, a simple and delicious dinner, a leisurely walk,
It can also add countless spices to life.
Instead of struggling with a skirt of a few hundred dollars, think about how to run this home.
Only by feeling the other party's dedication with your heart, it is not easy to be considerate,
Only husband and wife can walk together through firewood, rice, oil and salt, and foam each other to the end of the day.
4
Going back to the original news, I would like to give my husband a few words of advice.
Don't be too stingy.
380 yuan to buy a skirt, not extravagant, not a few times a year.
Don't be too selfish.
The wife usually works hard for the family, and she should also satisfy her own wishes.
Again, don't be too ruthless.
If you smash the pot and sell iron, you have to let your wife return it, and it is not good to hear it out.
Academic Impressions.
The wife's hard work over the years is really more than 380 yuan.
Your 380 may be just the tip of the iceberg.
But her firewood, rice, oil, and salt are burning every minute.
No matter how good the skirt in this world is, it can't compare to the love that is in love.
You owe each other and work out each other.
When two people come together, it's a lifetime thing.
Happy couples rely on tolerance, not care.
I hope you can learn something from the 380 blocks.
共勉之。
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Husband and wife get along, the most important thing is to understand each other.
In the face of differences in ideas, don't jump to conclusions.
Communicate more, understand more, and find balance together.
Although the consumption is small, it is connected to the lifeblood of marriage.
Be considerate of your partner and treat each other with more respect.
This day can be more and more prosperous.
What do you think about this?
Is there any secret to the concept of consumption between husband and wife?
It's better to chat in the comment area.
I'm Caodao, see you next time!