In reality, people are such creatures: the more others do, the less we cherish them.
If you don't believe me, please think about it: when we shop, do we not cherish the gifts we get?
I feel that this is a free gift and not worth any money.
In fact, the same is true for people to get along with people. is too active, but is despised by others.
Women with real brains insist on "three don'ts" in their in-laws' house, but they have improved their status. Very good!
01 When talking about marriage, don't stick it upside down
In reality, smart women never take the initiative to "post upside down" when talking about marriage.
In reality, some women feel that they are more than they can reduce the obstacles to marriage.
In other words, if you get more at home, the man will be good to himself.
But in fact, this is likely to be counterproductive.
This will make the man feel that he is very "expensive", so the woman will post it upside down.
This kind of practice, most of the time, will be despised after marriage.
I know an acquaintance whose daughter got married, and her mother-in-law bought her a house and found a job for her son-in-law.
But the son-in-law, on the contrary, thinks he is amazing.
Even the mother-in-law also had a very bad attitude, which made the woman's family angry.
But what about this?
People just have it right, and the woman's family doesn't dare to divorce easily.
It's really, counterproductively.
When a woman gets married, she should never stick it upside down.
Marriage is a matter of two people, a matter of two families. The contributions of both sides should reach a relatively balanced state.
The woman's blind upside down will only be despised by the man.
For the unequal attitude after marriage, bury hidden dangers.
02 Don't do unreasonable housework
In reality, smart women are never so submissive and let the man's family test the bottom line.
Some men's families are always obsessed with "making rules".
I want the woman to be more well-behaved and submissive.
Therefore, there will be a lot of unreasonable demands.
These things, smart women, are never casually submissive.
For example, before marriage, the man's family asks the woman to do housework, wash dishes and cook for them.
In other words, the whole family is waiting to enjoy it, so let the woman work alone.
To tell the truth, if this kind of thing is obeyed, it will be a lot of trouble.
In reality, no one can hold their breath and be happy in marriage.
So, from the beginning, don't be submissive.
If you can, when talking about marriage, you should filter out this kind of family. It's the best.
03 Don't let your mother's family post upside down
In reality, after some women get married, they always default to the fact that they are a family with the man. and neglected his own mother's family.
Even sometimes, I help my mother-in-law's family to exploit my mother's family.
All I can say is that there are endless troubles here.
For example, some in-laws need money and want to buy a house or something.
The woman took the initiative to ask for money from her parents. It looks like you're very filial to your in-laws, right?!
There are also women who are obviously good to her mother. But she can't tell the difference between distant and close relatives.
blindly pleases his mother-in-law and ignores his mother-in-law. Really speechless.
Most of the mother's families are not too strange, but they are okay with their daughters.
Therefore, as a woman, it is necessary to get along with your mother's family and give yourself a strong backing.
If you don't distinguish between right and wrong, and blindly please your in-laws, it is easy to lose your way out.
Very bad.