We may have seen and heard: there is a kind of person who does not have a single tear when faced with the death of a loved one.
Didn't even attend the funeral, but did it hastily.
As if everything had nothing to do with him.
Is this kind of person indifferent? Or even cold-blooded?
In fact, looking at people, you can't be so one-sided. It depends on what the reason behind it is.
What is it that causes them not to shed tears. It is necessary to dig into this.
01 Poor relationship
The reality is that not all relatives are compatible.
In the same family, some people are closer to each other.
There are also some people who just don't call.
It's something that can't be helped.
There is even a deep estrangement between some relatives and a strong festival. These all form a knot in the heart.
So the lack of affection between the two parties is also understandable.
For example, a person has been despised by his family since he was a child.
Most of the money in the family went to other siblings.
So what kind of mood will he be in himself?
If there is a complaint, it is understandable, right?
In reality, we don't want to unilaterally conclude that someone is cold-blooded just because he didn't shed tears.
Such a judgment may be too arbitrary.
After all, we don't know how people actually get along with each other.
Don't be so one-sided, draw conclusions and cause misunderstandings.
02 Everyone's way of reacting is different
The truth is that each of us reacts differently to death.
Some people are directly in a mess and slumped.
But some people are normal on the surface, but they can't let go of it in their hearts.
Everyone's reaction is different. Instead of a unified howling and crying.
It's human difference.
Once upon a time, I watched a film and television drama where there was a male protagonist who suddenly lost his wife who loved him.
And then he looked no different. But in fact, he has been working for several months, and he can't stop, and he seems very excited.
Later, his colleagues advised him to stop and go for treatment. He realized that in his own heart, he had always been unwilling to accept this fact.
So, I am using work to escape and numb myself.
This is also another form of grief.
The truth is that it's not about the pain at the funeral, it's about really loving and remembering.
It is normal for some people to have a strong personality and are not willing to show it.
03 Lack of human touch
In reality, there is indeed a group of people who lack human touch.
He didn't care about the death of his loved ones. It may not be as good as a small episode in his life.
There are indeed such people, who lack human touch.
I have seen similar examples at the funerals of relatives.
One of his brothers, on weekdays, seems to have a good relationship.
But the reluctance to attend the funeral is really hard-hearted.
To be honest, this is what seems to be a good relationship on weekdays, but it is just pure coping, lacking real affection.
All in all, we should judge whether a person is cold-blooded or not, not just by his reaction at the funeral.
Some people are good at acting, and they are not filial and bad in every way on weekdays, but at the funeral, they are very good at playing filial piety.
And some people don't shed tears because of their personality or because they have suffered unfair treatment.
We should not look at people and things too one-sidedly. Otherwise, it is easy to form prejudices.