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In the emotional life, especially in the concept of emotion, women are actually still in a relatively inferior position.
Men tend to misunderstand women in two ways, on the one hand, about women's "firsts"; on the other hand, about women's reproductive rights.
Men care a lot about a woman's first time before getting married, although in front of others, they will say they don't care, but in men's hearts, they all hope that their girlfriends, "first time" is their own.
According to online digital surveys, 83.6% of men will be exceptionally kind to their girlfriends because they are the first time.
Especially when men don't love women, if men have a woman's first time, they will love each other a little more than before.
No matter how developed this society is, no matter how open the emotional concept is, men really just want to have it when it comes to women for the first time.
In fact, in the final analysis, behind the man's love for women and virginity, it is still because of lack of confidence in themselves.
First of all, because men's possessiveness is at work, men will feel that the girlfriend still has the first time, which means that she is a clean woman from the body to the psychology.
No matter how men change their minds, there may be some deep-seated views that they can't change.
Women never mind if a man has a first time; men, most of the time, mind whether a woman is a "first time".
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Men hope in their hearts that the woman they really like is clean, like a blank piece of paper, and is controlled by themselves.
Men will feel that when a woman truly loves a man, the woman's body is willing to belong to the man completely.
After getting a woman's first time, a man will have a particularly great sense of accomplishment and will also satisfy his inner desire to conquer and possess.
People in the past would have valued women; people now are playing down this concept.
Secondly, behind the man's concern for a woman's "first time" is still due to his inner lack of confidence.
When a woman doesn't have any object of comparison, she will feel that men are very powerful, she will feel that men are omnipotent, and men can find the greatest confidence and the greatest sense of existence in women.
On the contrary, when a woman has an object that can be compared, the man will be easily jealous, he will care about the woman's feelings, and even ask the woman: "In the end, is he strong?" Or is the ex strong? ”
When a woman has a comparable object, a man's psychological insecurity will emerge, and he will have no sense of security in his heart.
Men will be proud to have a woman's first time; men will also feel inferior because they can't have a woman's first time.
Like men often say, can't ask men if they are okay? Anyway, it's a man, it must work.
The emergence of this concept actually shows that men are not confident, afraid of women to compare themselves with their exs, thus appearing insecure psychology.
Of course, these two psychological feelings are men's subjective feelings, and men do not consider women's psychological feelings while considering their own feelings.
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Whether it is a man who feels proud because he has a woman's first time; or because a man, without having a woman's first time, has a lack of self-confidence, in fact, this is unfair to women.
The love of one person and another should not be judged by such a "virgin complex" standard.
There are even men who feel that a woman who does not have a first time is a woman who does not love herself.
Using this criterion to judge a woman's morality is also unfair to women.
A woman's body, from beginning to end, is her own, and who she loves and who she wants to be with is her greatest freedom.
The confidence in men's hearts never comes from a woman's first time, and it should be said that most men who have achieved nothing in their careers will care about women's first time.
Men's self-confidence should not be based on objectifying women, but should be based on their own abilities, should be based on their own careers.
A man's love for a woman should be truly pure love, because he loves her, so he likes her, not because she has a first time, to decide whether to like her.
Finally, men also have the view that if a woman is involved with too many men, it means that the woman is complicated.
Specifically, it is such a meaning, men talk about 10 or 8 girlfriends before marriage, everyone will find this man very attractive; if before marriage, women talk about 10, 8 girlfriends, most men will be very contemptuous in their hearts, and they will also avoid such women.
In fact, this is the embodiment of unfairness to men and women in the emotion.
Of course, if men are clean and want women to be clean, then under such the same standard, this view is irrefutable.
If men don't do it, but strongly demand that women have it, then this is unfair to women and a typical double standard in feelings.
In fact, returning to the essence of feelings is that when you really love a woman, you will not have any requirements for her, because true love is sincere and from the heart.
Boys will only have special requirements for women when they are not so, when they love a woman, and men will only make demands on women when they are not so confident in their feelings, and women cannot accept them.
The love between two people cannot be measured by whether there is a "first time".
Because of true love, the long-term feelings of two people have nothing to do with the first time, and it has nothing to do with the "virgin complex".
Dear women, if you meet a man in a relationship who demands you for the "first time", you must stay away as soon as possible.
If men use this to hurt and attack you, you must not choose to be stupid, and even feel that men really love you.
In fact, true love will not hurt, and the people who bring you hurt will not be able to talk about loving you more.
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