Most parents are able to shelter their children from the elements. But there are very few children who can do their best for their parents.
I once saw such a sad sentence on the Internet: If you can exchange one life for another, then the rooftop of the hospital must be full of parents.
Most miracles in this world happen not because they move the heavens, but because parents carry the weight for their children.
No one can estimate the potential of parents, because the power of love is infinite, and no one knows how amazing the choices parents will make for their children.
Almost everyone has seen similar news, in a pious mother at the foot of a certain mountain, three steps and one prostration, just to ask the gods to save her child.
If it weren't for the fact that there was no way, who would choose to believe that there were gods in this world.
There is no need to question the love of parents for their children, but parents are also ordinary people, as long as they are human beings, they are flawed. What we can believe in is the truth, but what we can't determine is the cognition.
Smart parents will constantly improve themselves to ensure the best love for their children. When a child asks for the following two things, he must refuse, otherwise he will become an enemy.
Ask for family money
Most parents try to accommodate their children's requests. But contentment doesn't mean love, and sometimes it can be hurt.
Wise parents not only love their children, but also think about their children's future. Although they feel sorry for their children's hardships and suffering, they also understand that the road of life can only be walked by themselves, and growth is never easy.
What parents provide to their children can only be short-term material things, and they cannot accompany their children through life.
The ancients have long told us: "It is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish." "It is far more meaningful to impart knowledge and techniques than to give money directly.
Parents who can't figure it out will save money desperately when their children need education the most. Save every penny you save for future "emergencies".
But I never thought about whether I could give my children a rich childhood, so that children have the courage to face difficulties and the ability to overcome difficulties.
Once an adult child asks his parents for family funds, he must decisively refuse. It's not that you don't help your children, but you're trying to make up for the lack of education back then.
Social events have proven to us more than once that those who rely on their parents to pay off their debts, in a short period of time, go into debt again.
If you want your child to live well for the rest of his life, it must not be to leave him money, but to teach him how to deal with problems when he encounters them.
The quick knife can never cut the mess, and the trouble of cutting and tidying up the mess does not come from the external environment, but from the individual state of mind.
When your children ask for family funds, don't blindly help each other, ask about the causes and consequences, and then give appropriate help according to the situation.
As the old saying goes, "A habitual son is like a murderer." "Excessive doting will only make the child's life path narrower and narrower.
The family can take the initiative to give, and must not leave the illusion of "inexhaustible" to the children. Unreserved giving, easy to make enemies.
Ask for preference
Preference is a word that sounds very exciting. Everyone wants to be the only one who is someone else. Extraordinariness brings not only sweetness, but also pain.
This world is always conserved in energy. If someone takes advantage, someone must suffer.
In a family, there is nothing more taboo than the family members are not united.
The family can be said to be the smallest social group. Groups that are not united will never escape being bullied.
As the saying goes, "Home and everything prospers." "Family harmony is not only about prosperity, but also about the ability to resist attacks from outsiders.
Discordant families are like a plate of loose sand, which is scattered with a light breeze. What's more, there is no need for a light wind to blow, and they have already killed each other.
If a child asks for favoritism, he must not agree. Favoritism means giving up fairness and justice. Do not favor one over the other in the treatment of children.
The world is fair, and at any time, the favored person will fall on his heels in other fair circumstances.
A parent's partiality towards a child is not love, and even from a certain point of view, it is a double injury. It not only hurts the children who are not favored, but also causes the favored children to be unable to adapt to the general environment for a long time after stepping into society.
Unprincipled parents will make their children lack reverence, and when their behavior becomes more and more lawless, they will commit a mortal sin.
Everyone is responsible for their own actions, and bitter wine brewing is the sorrow of individual life.
In the face of children's requests for favoritism, we must refuse in time and teach carefully. Only in this way will the child not be confused and detoured.
No matter how confused a person is, there will be a clear day, and no matter how ignorant the children are, they will see the year clearly in their lives.
As parents, we must take responsibility for our ignorant children. Parents who truly love their children will not let their children eat candy at will, but refuse to tell them how terrible tooth decay is.
The child who asks for favoritism is the child who cries and wants to eat candy, and one day he will understand that refusal is deep love, and not refusal is harm.