"I Live Elsewhere" Shanghai Line, after Xia Guo and Yu Jian had a long-distance relationship, the two of them soon had new problems, first Yu Jian's mother was sick, Yu Jian wanted to ask Xia Guo to help register in a big hospital in Shanghai for the sake of prudence.
Then Xia Guo had a birthday, Yu Jian wanted to rush over to accompany her, but received the news that her mother had been deceived, so she had to ask Wen Ya to help give the cake to Xia Guo, and Wen Ya's words made Xia Guo and Yu Jian estranged. Xue Yuming took the opportunity to enter and persuaded Xia Guo to break up with Yu Jian.
Xia Guo rushed back to Leshan to see Yu Jian, Yu Jian and Xia Guo broke up first, and this childhood sweetheart's relationship officially ended. Soon, Xia Guo and Xue Yuming started a new relationship.
Does Xue Yuming really love Xia Guo?
At the beginning, I was really not optimistic about the relationship between Xia Guo and Xue Yuming, and I always felt that Xue Yuming was too scheming and too purposeful.
Xue Yu obviously knew that Xia Guo had a boyfriend, and he also thought about her, whether it was at work or in private, he was different from everyone else.
After Xia Guo and Yu Jian had a conflict, Xue Yuming was even more blunt, asking Xia Guo to mention the breakup first, telling her that the person who mentioned the breakup first would not be so painful.
Xue Yuming's words and deeds always give people the illusion that he wants to "soak" Xia Guo, that is, the feeling that he doesn't really want to be with someone, but just wants to have fun.
Coupled with Xue Yuming's early years and Li Qiuman's unmarried daughter, this makes it easier for people to doubt Xue Yuming's character. And Li Qiuman is also a ruthless character, Xia Guo is mixed in among them, and it is difficult to have good fruits to eat.
But later, Xue Yuming and Xia Guo's relationship was exposed, in order to keep Xia Guo's job, Xue Yuming took the initiative to resign, and deliberately defended Xia Guo in front of his colleagues, which can be seen that Xue Yuming really has Xia Guo in his heart.
Li Qiuman said that over the years, Xue Yuming has made many girl friends, but he will not stay for anyone, and the password at his home is always changed every few months. After being with Xia Guo, Xue Yuming did not change the password again.
Lucy got married, Xue Yuming accompanied Xia Guo to choose gifts, the teller took the opportunity to recommend the diamond ring to them, Xue Yuming refused, Xia Guo's eyes showed disappointment, and later, Xue Yuming secretly went to order the diamond ring.
In the finale of "I Live Elsewhere", Xue Yuming spent a lot of effort preparing to propose to Xia Guo, but unfortunately he fell short and was recognized by Xia Guo in advance.
Many colleagues in the company have said that Xue Yuming is an unmarried, but this unmarried is willing to put a lot of effort into proposing to Xia Guo, which is enough to see that he really loves Xia Guo.
It's just that some people's love says more than they do, and Xue Yuming does more than he says.
Xue Yuming is a standard realist, he is not good at decorating love with romantic vows and sweet words, but really uses his actions to execute love, and because of this, Xia Guo met him, and he really met a "nobleman".
Xue Yuming refused Xia Guo to go abroad with him.
After Xue Yuming resigned, although he did not worry about finding a job with his ability, there were not too many opportunities to find a job that satisfied him in all aspects.
So when the company in Singapore provided him with this opportunity, he was entangled, Xue Yuming didn't want to give up this job, and he was worried about his long-distance relationship with Xia Guo. Because he knew that Xia Guo's last relationship ended in a different place.
It's not that Xue Yuming doesn't have confidence in himself, but he is worried that Xia Guo has a shadow on the long-distance relationship. Sure enough, after Xia Guo found out about his offer, his face changed.
Xue Yuming lost his job in order to protect Xia Guo, of course Xia Guo couldn't selfishly ask Xue Yuming to give up working abroad, so she proposed it, and she went with Xue Yuming.
Unexpectedly, Xue Yuming refused. Xue Yuming told Xia Guo that she went to a brand new place, she was not familiar with anything, she was not suitable for anything, everything had to start from scratch, and after a long time, she would lose herself.
Xue Yuming's refusal, in Xia Guo's eyes, was that he was unwilling to take her away and was unwilling to be with her all the time, and Xia Guo was very sad about it.
So far, we can also see that Xia Guo, who went to Shanghai, although she has a better career and has seen more of the world, her essence has not changed, and in love, she is still a woman who is particularly lacking in self.
Xue Yuming refused Xia Guo to go abroad with him, not because he didn't want to be with her, nor because he was afraid that she would become a burden to him, but because he didn't want Xia Guo to sacrifice his career for love. Because he went to Singapore, he was developing upward, but for Xia Guo, he gave up everything he had.
If the maintenance of a love must be at the expense of a person's sacrifice, it means that this love is not a good love; If the departure of one person in a relationship makes it difficult for another person to live, then this person is not a person with an independent personality.
Xue Yuming's departure made Xia Guo painful. But after Xue Yuming left, Xia Guo felt more and more that in the days to come, with him and without him, it would not have much impact, and she herself could live well.
At this point, Xia Guo has become a woman who can really be independent in love. This is thanks to Xue Yuming's decision and persistence.
Good love is to make each other better.
After watching the finale of "I Live Elsewhere", I looked back and tasted it, only to find that Xue Yuming's attitude towards love is really textbook-level.
Love needs to be paid, but it should not be sacrificed.
Xue Yuming staged the difference between giving and sacrificing. He quit his old job for Xia Guo, because for him, quitting a job will not ruin his career, but it can protect Xia Guo and this love very well, which is worth it.
When he won the job in Singapore, he cherished this opportunity, this job can be taken to the next level, and the impact on love is only a long place, not necessarily lost, so he still chose a career after struggling.
At the same time, he didn't let Xia Guo give up his career for their love, because on Xia Guo's terms, if he went to Singapore with him, it would be another sacrifice, and her future development would be very difficult, and it was likely that she would never reach the original height again, so he would rather spend a lot of effort to pursue her again after coming back than agree to take her with him.
In their love, Xue Yuming has a better career, Xia Guo is his own boss, and he really has ideological independence, although the process is stumbling, they have become better themselves.
Let's look at Xia Guo and Yu Jian, the plot gives Xia Guo two choices, but it is obvious that neither of these two choices is good enough. Because from the very beginning, they were thinking about who was going to sacrifice for whom and who should be sacrificing for whom.
The result? Xia Guo, who stayed in Leshan, became a full-time mother who revolved around her family and children, and she had lost herself. Xia Guo, who went to Shanghai, also parted ways because of mutual resentment.
When a choice in love is to make you miserable, make you sacrifice, and make each other constrained, then it is foreseeable that no matter which choice you make, the result will not be too good.
Only the kind of love that "no matter what choice I face, I am always me" is a healthy and beautiful love. Good love is when we have it, when we are happy and satisfied, and when we have to separate, I can live well myself.
Xia Guo learned all of this after meeting Xue Yuming. Xue Yuming is really the "nobleman" on Xia Guo's life road, such a nobleman, if you meet one, you are lucky enough.
More people have to grow up after meeting the wrong person and being bruised all over their bodies.
About the author: Xiang Xiang Acacia, a woman who likes to read and write, focuses on the creation of articles in the emotional direction of film and television, as well as the analysis and solution of problems in the emotional field, I hope my words can accompany you warmly.