Gao Xiaosong said: "Life is not only about what is in front of you, but also about poetry and distance. This sentence was a sensation, and everyone unanimously accepted it as the truth. In fact, these people who seem to be full of hope hide scarred hearts under their glossy exteriors. There is no such thing as "easy" in the adult world.
We may envy the lives of others, but we don't know that there are also hidden envious glances from others in the corners that we have not noticed, just as the poet Bian Zhilin wrote in "Broken Chapter": "You stand on the bridge and look at the scenery, and the people who watch the scenery look at you from upstairs." The bright moon decorates your windows, and you decorate other people's dreams. ”
Everyone is someone else's scenery, the scenery in our eyes is very likely to see the scenery is not as good as listening to the scenery, what is the real life, only you know best.
I once swiped such a small video on the Internet, the picture is a tired and depressed face, accompanied by not cheerful background music, and the person in the camera only uses two words to answer the question from beginning to end, which sounds a little perfunctory, but it deeply pokes into the hearts of everyone hiding behind the screen.
"Hey, you look so gentle." "Pretended."
"You seem to be having fun every day." "Pretended."
"That, your kindness, empathy......" "It's also pretending."
"What does the real you look like?" "Crying, confused, depressed, depressed, and irritable are the real me."
Look, there is no so-called "sensible" in life, those who are too sensible have just learned to hide and learn to disguise, they pretend to be adults every day, because they are old, because life can only be like this, or because of something else.
In short, since growing up, there are no fairy tales in the world, pretending to be a personal specialty that you don't want to admit.
If you want to wear a crown, you must bear its weight. Many people only see the glamorous side of others, but they can't see how the other party grits their teeth behind this glamorous and tries their best to bear the blows from failure over and over again.
Success will not be accidental, but failure is something that everyone must experience in their life, this world has always been more misunderstanding than understanding, don't be naïve to think that all your efforts can be understood by others.
Misunderstanding is the norm in life, and understanding is the rare accident, otherwise there would not be a saying since ancient times that "a thousand gold is easy to get, but a confidant is hard to find".
"Understand" is a very difficult word to understand, everyone nods more than once in life to indicate that they understand, but there are few people who really "understand", those so-called understanding is just to hear the literal meaning, as for the inside, there are too few people who can really understand, and it can even be said that there are no at all.
There is a sentence in "The Ordinary World": "In this world, not everything that is reasonable and beautiful can exist or be realized according to one's wishes." "Wishes are beautiful, but reality is difficult to follow the mind to present the wish perfectly.
People, once they enter adulthood, must accept the inadequacy of reality, and can no longer be like children who cry and roll on the ground for a candy and a toy.
In the adult world, everyone has their own suffering, and those sorrows that cannot be dissolved will no longer be on their faces, and they will naturally put on a smile mask when they get up early in the morning to make themselves look energetic and positive. No one can hear that the depressed heart in the chest is "scolding the mother".
Too many people survive the rest of their lives secretly, just because they "understand" things, for this and for that, they finally choose to live affectionately, pretending from beginning to end, just like they are born with only "joy" and no "sorrow" emotions.
Fu Seoul said: "The collapse that can't be hidden is just a scar, and the collapse that can be hidden is a medal." "That'...... I would venture to ask, how many medals do you carry in your arms?
There is never a shortage of hiding in life, some people hide themselves and appear a little introverted and indifferent, and some people hide their true emotions and show extra enthusiasm. When a person reaches adulthood, every day after the catastrophe is the aftermath of the disaster.
Whether there are poems and dreams in the distance, no one can be sure, but the only thing we can be sure of is what is in front of us.
I advise you not to be depressed, I advise you not to be confused, although I am the same, full of panic all day and night.
Ernest Hemingway wrote in Farewell, Arms: "Life has always left us bruised, but in the end, those wounded places will surely become our strongest places." ”
Life is hard, you just need to face life as you are, many times, although the confrontation is meaningless, and even toss to the end of yourself will be bruised, but as long as we have fought hard, the scab can grow armor.
Believe me, every day of the rest of my life is worth celebrating.