#头条创作挑战赛#
Hello everyone~ I'm Hachi
According to the survey, most mothers believe that it is an obligation for mother-in-law to take care of the baby, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is reciprocal "help me take care of the baby and provide for her for the elderly".
However, when the words "mother-in-law has the obligation to help me take care of the baby" came out of my mother's mouth, it completely changed its taste.
So it's better not to say it, there is no need to say that a smart mother-in-law will help her daughter-in-law with a baby. When he speaks, he will become a self-asked mother-in-law to bring a baby for himself, so the difference between saying and not saying is also very obvious.
In my mother's cognition: my mother-in-law helps me take care of the children, helps me share the pressure of raising a baby, and gives her a happy old age when she gets old. If you don't help me bring it, she won't care when she's old.
In the mother-in-law's cognition: helping the daughter-in-law to take care of the baby is to share the pressure of the children and have more time to spend on work, but the old man does not have any return, but because of the mother-in-law, it is not an obligation to take the baby.
Yesterday, I also talked to my mother in the group about the issue of my mother-in-law helping to take care of the baby, and most mothers agreed that it was an obligation.
The mother-in-law raised her son, but also laid the foundation for her happiness in her old age, so the mother-in-law can choose not to take the baby, so the mother-in-law is not obliged to help her daughter-in-law and son take the baby, but the smart mother-in-law does not do this.
A smart mother-in-law will choose to help bring the baby, and the mother-in-law is also a mother, and they all hope that their children can live happily, and they will have grandchildren with a happiness index and a higher quality of life in their later years.
There is also a mother who asked: It is an obligation for a mother-in-law to help take care of the baby, but what about the mother-in-law?
This sentence made most mothers speechless, should they pay if they don't contribute?
Maybe many families will not give their daughters money, and occasionally choose to help take care of the baby, but there are very few who regard bringing the baby as a profession, which is the status quo of most families.
Therefore, whether it is a mother-in-law or a mother-in-law, there is no obligation to take care of the children for herself, but she has the obligation to provide for the elderly, so the smart mother should not tell the mother-in-law openly that if you don't help with the baby, it will not only make the relationship tense for a while, but also affect the family atmosphere and relationship.
Smart mothers-in-law will definitely hope that their children will live better and better, and many mothers-in-law will also help their daughters-in-law take care of their babies naturally, and they also hope that their sons and daughters-in-law will have more time to work.
Therefore, mothers should not arbitrarily define the mother-in-law with the baby is an obligation, if the mother-in-law is willing to bring the baby to herself, then the mother's happiness index will be higher, if the mother-in-law does not help herself with the baby, mothers should not complain, help themselves, give her a better happy living standard in her later years, if not, you can do your best.
After all, it is the obligation of children to provide for the elderly, even if they ignore it, the husband is also obliged, whether it is from the legal level or social customs.
What do you think about mother-in-law with a baby?
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