Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
When getting along with people, how you speak is the first important thing.
Because those invisible hurts are often hidden in words.
Relatives tend to be very relaxed and casual when they get along with each other. Even if you say the wrong thing, you don't care much.,I always feel that each other is a family member.,Anything can be forgiven.。
But it is precisely because they are relatives that they will be more entangled, and they will be even more unable to let go of the contradictions and quarrels between each other.
Even, for a sentence that is not listened to, remember it for many years.
Whether it is a relative, or a brother or sister, if you say the following words, your fate will be over.
02. For the sake of profit, he said things that hurt feelings
In "There Are Nine Phoenixes in the Family", the old lady gave birth to nine daughters.
Everyone has their own temper and character, and often makes the family uneasy.
The three phoenixes and the five phoenixes are natural enemies.
No matter what they do, the two of them have to sing the opposite tune, with guns and sticks, and they will not give in.
In the era of scarcity of materials, Sanfeng ran to Wufeng's house because of dissatisfaction, smashed her pot, and cursed her for having no food.
And when Bafeng's business failed, and the creditors came to the door to make trouble and surrounded the five phoenixes, Sanfeng fell into the well instead.
She closed the door and drew all her firepower to the five phoenixes.
The two of them have quarreled and fought for a lifetime, but neither of them has fallen into the good.
On the contrary, they paid a heavy price, and the affection between sisters has long been fragile.
Between relatives, if they say hurtful things because of interests.
Sometimes, a sentence will leave a wound in the other person's heart that is difficult to heal.
No matter how many years have passed, the pain in my heart is always clear, and the knot in my heart has never been untied.
Marshall Luxemburg said: "We may not think that our way of speaking is violent, but it is true that language often causes pain for ourselves and others." ”
Among relatives, the most taboo is to put interests above family affection.
For the sake of interests, they hurt each other's feelings, and this fate is about to come to an end.
03. For the sake of selfishness, cut off relations with them
In our village, there was a young man named Yang Hong.
When he was very young, his parents died. It was his uncle who raised him, and he was also his uncle's only relative.
Later, he graduated from college, stayed in the big city to work, and also made a rich girlfriend, ready to talk about marriage.
The girlfriend's family is willing to provide them with a wedding room and a banquet.
also promised to use his family's resources and connections to support his career, and the only requirement was not to be involved with people in his hometown.
Yang Hong thought of everything his future father-in-law promised him, and he was moved.
He gave his uncle a sum of money and offered not to interact with each other in the future, and there would be no more relations.
Later, even though he lived a humble life in front of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, he often remembered how well his uncle treated him. But he didn't dare to call his uncle anymore, and he didn't dare to go back to see him.
Between relatives, if they are too selfish, they only think about themselves in everything, and take advantage of the feelings between relatives, and they will eventually be abandoned by their relatives.
It is really undesirable to sever relationships and family ties for the sake of selfishness.
In the end, you will realize that you are wrong.
There is also kindness between relatives, which cannot be denied at any time.
If it is for their own selfishness, they cut off the relationship, and their fate with each other has come to an end.
04. Slander relatives and discredit them
Relatives have a deep relationship with each other, and they also know better where each other's weaknesses and weaknesses are.
Some relatives, when the relationship is harmonious, will not hide anything from you.
He will reveal his secrets and discernment, and see you as the most trustworthy person.
But when there is a dispute between them, or when each is its own master, it becomes an enemy on the opposite side.
And people who have no bottom line will take advantage of the secrets and weaknesses of their relatives to wantonly slander their relatives, so that their reputation will be discredited, and there will be no day to turn over.
He will use the most despicable means to hit his relatives and take revenge on them. Leave them in the abyss, and despair.
In his Fragments, Democritus wrote: "Resentment between relatives is much more embarrassing than resentment with outsiders." ”
No one will forgive a person who deliberately slanders himself and destroys his reputation, especially if this person is still his own relative.
If you slander your relatives at will, you will definitely get family estrangement.
When relatives have come to this point, there is no room for redemption.
05. Summary
In this life, it is God's destined fate to be able to become relatives and shed the same blood.
If you don't know how to cherish it, consume it wantonly, and continue to hurt your relatives for the sake of interests and selfishness, you will end up betraying your relatives and leaving your relatives.
Manage family affection well, with a grateful heart, maintain courtesy exchanges, and let life be full of more warmth.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.