Author: Wen Qiusheng
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01. Introduction
There is such a psychology in human nature: the more he is told not to touch the things, the more he will arouse the curiosity and desire in his heart, and make him full of yearning.
The more taboo it is, the rarer it is.
In this kind of secret excitement, it is also difficult for people to maintain enough reason to restrain their inner emotions.
Some women are attracted to married men. Knowing that this kind of feeling is despised by the public, it is not a glorious thing, but it is difficult to get out.
The real psychology of a woman falling in love with a married man is probably the following.
02. I don't ask for anything, but I look forward to it in my heart
Before, I watched the drama "Good Things Come in Pairs", in which Jiang Xi is a person who has lacked love since he was a child.
When Wei Ming released kindness and warmth to her, she quickly fell in.
After she knew that Wei Ming had a family, she was still reluctant to leave, reluctant to let go of her feelings with him.
With Wei Ming, she doesn't want money, nor does she seek profit. No matter how hard life was, she didn't ask Wei Ming for financial support.
Because she always felt that the relationship between herself and Wei Ming was very pure, without any interests and purposes.
She repeatedly accommodated Wei Ming, compromised, and was willing to run for his promotion. In fact, she also expects Wei Ming to care more about her.
A woman with a married man may not want anything, but simply covet the tenderness he brings to herself.
She never took the initiative to ask for it from men, but she silently looked forward to it in her heart.
Moreover, after a woman falls in love with a married man, she tends to become very humble.
She doesn't want men to be embarrassed, so she asks for nothing. is willing to wronged himself, willing to be in a corner that can't see the light, and consumes his youth.
It's just that she is still silently looking forward to it in her heart, and it is precisely because of that trace of expectation that the relationship between the two people can continue.
03, knowing that he can't do it, but he still can't restrain it
A woman who falls in love with a married man is not really happy.
Because, she is always trapped in contradictions and hesitation, and she is anxious all day long.
She also understands that falling in love with a man with a family will not lead to results, but she still can't restrain her feelings.
When a man can't be with her, she becomes very sober and calm. He even planned to leave the man and start his life again.
She may delete men's phone calls, throw away gifts from men, try to break free from the shackles of affection, and seek rebirth.
But when a man comes to her, makes overtures to her, and gives her tenderness, she throws all reason aside.
She covets the tenderness and romance that men bring her, and is immersed in the emotional entanglement of this sense of fatalism, and no longer struggles.
This kind of emotional change will continue to be staged and torment her. Let her love and hate, but she can't get rid of it.
I read such a sentence on the Internet: "Extramarital affairs can never have true love, if there is true love, they will not use that foreign word, if it is an intramarital affair, it is love, and what is outside marriage is always outside." ”
When a woman falls in love with a married man, she is destined to suffer from love, and she is always trapped in the whirlpool of feelings and cannot find a direction.
04. Being morally condemned and feeling "bad"
When a woman falls in love with a family man, she will endure a lot of psychological suffering.
A reader left me a message in the background saying that she was in love with a married man and that she felt she was a "bad" woman.
She is not yet morally corrupt, so she will feel moral condemnation and think that she is a bad woman who destroys other people's families.
In life, she did not dare to make her love affair public. Don't dare to introduce your lover to your relatives, friends, colleagues, etc.
Even though she has many sweet and romantic moments with men and many happy memories, she doesn't dare to share them in her circle of friends and social platforms, so she can only collect them silently.
She knew from her heart that she was an identity that was not recognized and accepted, and her character and bottom line would face the doubts of others.
Falling in love with a man outside of marriage may not have been thought of by a woman.
Falling in love with a married man has completely deviated from his original vision and pursuit of affection, and he is already difficult to ride a tiger.
Perhaps, there will still be a decisive thought in her heart, since she has already borne the infamy and the reputation of a bad woman, she will simply grit her teeth and wait for the day when she will be on the throne.
From the moment a woman falls in love with a family man, her fate has been out of her control.
Enter, no way; retreated, and unwilling. If you want to do everything all over again, you can only dream about it.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
Women, don't love a married man. No matter how many advantages a married man has in him and how many expectations he has in your heart, don't invest in your heart.
The amount of joy and sweetness he brings to you will take away as much youth and hope as he takes away from your life.
To love someone who is truly worthy, to embrace in the sun, to kiss in the blessings of all, and to run for a clear and predictable future.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.