Author: Wen Qiusheng
Original article, plagiarism must be investigated
01. Introduction
In society, people are accustomed to judging a person's worth and achievements before deciding what attitude to treat him.
The same is true in married life.
Marriage, in fact, is more of a partnership.
Husband and wife, through each other's strength and resources, make life better and allow themselves to enjoy more.
If a person is in marriage, he cannot provide value and assistance to his partner, but needs to rely on him to survive, drag him back everywhere, and gradually lose the respect and maintenance of the other party.
Whether a woman has status in the family or not depends on the man's "mouth".
02. Yelling at women, men are very macho
If a man often yells at a woman without any respect in his words, it means that the woman has no status in the family.
A relative of mine, he yells at his wife all the year round.
His wife can't refute him, he makes decisions about family affairs and never discusses them with her.
He is a very macho man who does not want to treat his partner as an equal. And my relative's wife is incapable and independent enough, so she can only rely on men to live.
Therefore, in daily interactions, I only see men dictating to women and picking and choosing.
All day long, put on a high-minded look.
A man with a very serious machismo does not regard women as his other half at all in his cognition.
Rather, he saw her as a nanny who could be called upon at will, a servant who could only obey him.
Whether at home or in front of outsiders, men only want to show their majesty as the head of the family, without any regard for the face and dignity of women.
A woman who has no status at home has been suppressed, denied, and ignored by men for a long time, and lives a very aggrieved life.
03. Women who are often accused by men live a humble life
In "Our Marriage", Jiang Jing is a full-time wife.
She always thought that the mode of getting along with the male protagonist and the female protagonist would make her marriage happy for a long time.
However, there is a very practical side to marriage, that is, financial resources determine the status of the family.
Jiang Jing has no financial resources, so she is destined to only look up to her husband and can only obey his words.
She tried her best to be a perfect wife, sensible and decent, generous and well-behaved, and worked hard to take care of the house, wanting to gain her husband's approval.
And her husband has never faced up to her dedication.
On the contrary, she felt that everything she enjoyed was provided by him, and Jiang Jing should be grateful to him.
When he was happy, he was kind to Jiang Jing. When you are upset, throw her aside and treat her with accusations, indifference, ignorance, and nonchalance.
Although Jiang Jing was very aggrieved in her heart, she had no choice but to continue to endure it and continue to be a full-time wife with a glamorous appearance and a humble interior.
A woman who has no status in the family will often face accusations from men, and all her efforts will be ignored and denied.
There is a kind of woman who is looked down upon by men in marriage: that is, a very humble and not independent woman.
No matter how she pleases and how she pays, she never gets the recognition and respect of men, and lives a humble life.
She thought that her humble forbearance could be exchanged for the respect of men, but instead she let herself fall into a deeper whirlpool.
04. The higher a woman's status, the more men respect her when they speak
The higher a woman's status in marriage, the more a man will care about her feelings and respect her when he speaks.
A woman's position in the family is not given by men, but earned by herself.
When a woman has independent financial resources, a stable career, and a clear plan for her future, and will not give up because of anyone's compromise, she will live a stronger and more powerful life.
In marriage, she and the man can rely on each other and can shoulder the burden of life together. And at critical moments, give men support and assistance.
In life, she has always been self-motivated and never complacent.
It can also urge men to progress together, improve together, and obtain a better future.
Women use their own strength and attitude towards life to win the status they have won for themselves, and they will also be sincerely respected and appreciated by men.
Men will show respect for you in words.
For example, ask for your opinion on everything, express sincere recognition and praise for women's contributions.
He will give you his good temper, all his patience. Be honest about the importance of a woman to him, and affirm the status of a woman in the family.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
No matter how much a man loves you, a woman must also know how to improve herself and make herself better and more shining.
Strive to show your strengths, stand on a higher platform, and get closer to your dreams step by step.
When you become a better version of yourself, you don't need to look up to others. He has become a light that cannot be ignored.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.