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I am Song Meiying, 60 years old this year, and I have been at my eldest son's house since I retired.
I have two sons, the eldest son has studied well since he was a child, has strong ability, was admitted to university and found a high-paying job, and is a filial and promising son in the mouth of other people's parents.
However, as others say, the more filial a child is, the less he is favored by his parents. On the contrary, children who will come to the situation are more favored by their parents. My wife and I still like our sweet-mouthed little son.
Although the youngest son is not good at learning and his ability is average, and even after dropping out of high school, he broke into society and did not make a name for himself for several years, but we still think that the youngest son is caring.
02
However, the eccentric son always can't support the wall with mud. No matter how hard we tried to find a job for our youngest son, he always fished for three days and dried his nets for two days.
But the eldest son has been self-reliant and hard working since graduation, bought a house in a big city early, gained a firm foothold, married a wife and had children, and the life of the younger son is not known how many times better.
Therefore, when the eldest son proposed to take us over for the elderly, we still secretly subsidized the younger son 3,000 yuan a month. Anyway, when I went to my eldest son's house, we didn't need to pay for any expenses.
During this period, I also went to my youngest son's house and helped them take care of their children for three years. It's just that as soon as the child went to kindergarten, the little daughter-in-law's face changed and she disliked me for getting in the way.
03
I was very self-aware, so I had to go to my eldest son again. Anyway, my wife is still helping to take care of my grandson, and my eldest daughter-in-law can't do anything to me.
Since then, my wife and I have lived in my eldest son's house for a long time, and in the past 10 years, we have not spent a penny, all our pensions have been saved, and we have also subsidized our younger son from time to time.
On the contrary, we don't spend a penny at the eldest son's house, even our clothes, shoes and socks throughout the year, the eldest daughter-in-law also takes care of everything, only let us care for the elderly with peace of mind.
As for the headache and brain fever of the old couple, who were sick and hospitalized, it was basically the eldest son and daughter-in-law who contributed money and efforts, running up and down the ground to serve. The youngest son, who is far away, always uses the excuse that he is busy with work, and basically never comes to see him once.
04
Although the youngest son didn't take care of us, we still thought about their family of three. Especially when we learned that the youngest grandson was about to enter elementary school, but the existing house school district was not good, and the youngest son and daughter-in-law borrowed money everywhere to buy a better school district house.
Thinking that no matter how bitter the adults are, they can't be bitter to the children, and they can't let the children lose at the starting line from the beginning, so I discussed it with my wife and secretly transferred all the 500,000 yuan in the card to my youngest son.
With such a sum of money, the youngest son really got his wish to buy a new school district house, and the youngest grandson also went to a high-quality primary school, which makes us feel that all the efforts are worth it.
The younger son's family affairs are over, and I thought that we would be able to retire in the eldest son's house with peace of mind. As everyone knows, as the two children grew up, the eldest daughter-in-law proposed to change to a larger house to facilitate the living of three generations.
05
The eldest daughter-in-law wants to change to a bigger and more spacious house, and I naturally raise my hands in agreement. Anyway, we have already made up our minds to follow our eldest son and daughter-in-law to support our old age. Where they move, we move with them.
As a result, as soon as the eldest daughter-in-law changed her words, she began to complain of bitterness, saying that over the years, although the eldest son has the ability, everyone in the family is counting on him to raise him, and it is a mortgage and a car loan, and I hope that we as parents can lend a hand and sponsor one or two.
The words of the eldest daughter-in-law made me a little stunned. I didn't expect them to suddenly ask us for money. After all, even when they got married and bought a house, they were self-reliant and never asked us for help.
My wife and I looked at each other, our savings for many years had already been subsidized to our son, and Kari only had a monthly pension, not much, only 5,000 yuan.
06
Under the expectant eyes of my eldest son, I couldn't say no, so I had to stuff the bank card to my eldest son, saying that let them do it themselves, and all our money was in it.
Seeing that I took out my bank card so actively, my eldest daughter-in-law's eyes lit up and thanked me repeatedly. It's just that after the couple went to the bank, they came back with gloomy faces
The daughter-in-law also viciously threw the card back to me, saying that you should take your empty card to your youngest son to support the elderly. You don't pay a penny for your retirement in our family, but you don't have a penny left in your savings, and all of them are subsidized to your youngest son.
The eldest daughter-in-law became more and more angry, and in the end she simply cried, saying that her in-laws were supporting the elderly in her own home, and she was serving the sick and serving, and she had to take care of the family, but in the end, the in-laws could only see the younger brother-in-law's family in their eyes, and all the money was only given to the younger son.
07
Seeing my eldest daughter-in-law crying, my wife and I looked at each other, a little embarrassed and a little helpless. The palms and backs of the hands are full of meat, and the youngest son is difficult to become like that, how can we let it go?
After the eldest daughter-in-law vented, she calmed down. I thought we had escaped this dispute, and I was secretly glad for a long time.
As a result, only two days later, the eldest daughter-in-law said, Mom and Dad, you are in Cao Ying's heart in Han, and you are in the eldest son's house to support the elderly, but you give the money to the younger son, you better go to the younger son to support the elderly, I can't afford to support an eccentric old man like you.
I hurriedly looked at the eldest son, but the eldest son defended the eldest daughter-in-law and advised us to pack our bags and go to my brother's house for a while. When your eldest daughter-in-law is discouraged, I will find a way to bring you back.
I know that my eldest son's words are just perfunctory, and he has gone out of this house, will we still have a chance to step into this house? It's just that the words of intercession came to my mouth, and I swallowed it back.
Perhaps, this is really self-inflicted, if I hadn't been so partial, maybe I wouldn't have been driven away by my eldest daughter-in-law when I was old.