There is such a hot topic on the Internet, why is my mother never happy, and always makes the whole family feel bad??
The netizen's answer tells the truth!!
Chinese people like bitterness and hatred in their bones, and the culture is also there, there is a feeling of deliberately pressing down, and I always feel that the struggle of not being able to eat and drink water is particularly inspirational. When mopping the floor in the morning, I thought that my father's generation was never embarrassed to eat good things, and the cherries and seafood at home were all kinds of seafood, and I just didn't like to eat them! But then I ate it again, and it can be seen that it is not a physical discomfort, but a spiritual discomfort, because I have not had it since I was a child, and too much extravagance has sprouted a kind of resistance, which is a kind of spiritual self-protection
The main reason is that they had a miserable childhood and as a result, a psychological protection mechanism, and the main reason why I have seen many older people live happily is because of a happy childhood.
Culture, lying down for a day on the weekend will make you feel guilty, in fact, there is nothing, the natural mood is nervous, and disorderly and tedious work can alleviate this mood.
"Enjoyment is sinful" and "self-suffering" are the key to my mother-in-law's emotions, and I feel very honored to "suffer myself". The people around me don't "suffer themselves" together, it's sinful, my husband just keeps jumping between "feeling sorry for her" and "annoying her", there is no way, and the negative energy of getting along with her is bursting.
In fact, it is a kind of emotional control, which simply means that she wants everything around her to run according to her heart after her approval. But there was another problem, she was the one who was controlled by her parents when she was a child, and she didn't have the power of her own when she was a child, even if she was the parent who had the power of life and death in her childhood, she didn't know what to do, but she soon found that at least when she complained, everyone had to stop what they were doing and listen to her.
My Canadian tutor knows about this matter, and some time I said that I was not in a good state and wanted to go to psychological counseling, and the tutor said that this kind of problem must be talked to a professional, and Chinese psychological problems are very famous for not being solved
Because being found to have a mental illness will not be treated and sympathized, but will be regarded as a weakness to use and attack, some of the psychological problems of the older generation can be significantly improved by putting emotions in the baby's body, passing on from generation to generation, endlessly.
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