Life, like a delicate painting, sometimes elegant like ink, sometimes intense like an oil painting, and love is the most brilliant stroke in the painting, which gives color to life and brings throbbing to the soul.
However, in this colorful world of love, many women are often confused. They gave all their sincerity, but what they got was indifference and neglect, and they couldn't help but ask themselves: Did I love the wrong person?
In fact, it's not that you love the wrong person, but that you love too deeply that you lose yourself. When the personality and charm are exhausted, the feelings are like dust blown away by the wind, and it is difficult to reunite.
To conquer a man's heart, a woman needs to learn a unique trick – learn to say "don't".
Leo Tolstoy said, "When there is life, there is happiness." ”
And the beauty of life often comes from the courage to say "no".
First of all, we need to understand that a woman who is too submissive will often make a man feel bored.
is like that glass of boiled water, although it quenches your thirst, it lacks a trace of charm.
A woman who is accustomed to being submissive, she lacks assertiveness, has no personality, and her life is like a pool of stagnant water, without any waves. In such a life, men will gradually get bored, and their hearts will drift apart.
On the contrary, a woman who dares to say "no", she has a distinct personality, she dares to reject a lifestyle she does not like, she has the courage to express her preferences.
Such a woman will make men's eyes shine, and her unique charm will deeply attract men's hearts.
As Shakespeare said, "There are a thousand Hamlets in the hearts of a thousand readers." ”
In every man's heart, he longs to have a different her.
So, how do you learn to say "don't"? First of all, we need to be brave enough to express our preferences. When a man makes an offer, if we don't like it, be brave enough to express it.
Don't be afraid that rejection will hurt a man's heart, because true love is built on mutual respect.
Men will also learn to respect our ideas when we express our preferences, and they will pay more attention to our feelings.
Second, we need to learn to say "don't" appropriately.
The "don't" here does not mean blindly rejecting all the man's proposals, but to selectively refuse.
When we feel that a certain proposal is not for us, we can express our thoughts tactfully and give the man a chance to explain.
At the same time, we can also put forward our own suggestions to make men feel our sincerity and intentions. This way of getting along will make men cherish us more, and it will also make each other's feelings deeper.
In addition, we need to learn to show our charm in rejection. When we reject an offer from a man, it doesn't mean we have to give up our image.
Instead, we need to show our demeanor and temperament in rejection.
We can refuse a man's request with a smile and express our position in gentle language. In this way, we will make men more fascinated, and they will silently sigh in their hearts: This woman is really different!
Of course, while learning to say "don't", we also need to learn to show weakness appropriately. Showing weakness is not a sign of weakness, but a form of wisdom.
When we are in trouble, we can ask men for help; When we feel tired, we can snuggle up in a man's arms. In this way, we will make men feel that they are needed, and their hearts will be closer to us.
As Romain Rolland said, "There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to love life after seeing it as it is." ”
A woman who dares to say "don't", she is such a hero. She dared to face her heart, dared to reject those things that were not suitable for her, and she conquered the hearts of men with her courage and wisdom.
In the world of love, let's not be an overly submissive woman. We must dare to express our preferences and ideas, and dare to reject those things that are not suitable for us.
Only in this way can we live out our own colors and shine in the world of love. Like the blooming flower, it swayed in the spring breeze, attracting countless bees to stop and watch.