In reality, if there are two parents, one of them will pass away first. Then the children must take on the responsibility of filial piety and take care of the remaining old man.
After all, compared to outsiders, only blood relatives are more likely to take care of them selflessly.
However, to what extent should the filial piety of children be achieved? What are some things to look out for?
It is unrealistic for parents to be completely dependent on their children, and children also have their own lives to deal with. So this balance needs to be grasped.
In fact, children who do these 3 things can solve the big problems of their parents.
01 The normal functioning of life
In reality, the most important thing to pay attention to is life itself. After all, each of us has to eat and drink Lazar. Isn't it?
In reality, after the death of one of the parents, the core problem that the children should solve is to ensure the normal operation of the parents' daily life. Assist in doing just that.
If this is done, 80% of the problems may be solved.
Here's an example.
I know some aunts and uncles whose partners have passed away, and the remaining person may have a chaotic daily routine.
Some people feel that it is not easy to cook alone.
So it's always a mess. Often outside, fried dough sticks, porridge, noodles are eaten. But in fact, the result of eating out is that the nutrition is unbalanced, and there is too much oil and salt, which is very bad for the body.
This is a very real problem for the elderly who have lost their partners.
There are also elderly people who have a chaotic life and play cards for several hours every day. It's really bad for the body.
In reality, this is the first thing that children should pay attention to.
Including some elderly people, they are in a hurry to find their wives and children, and it is also because of this need.
02 Lonely and lonely
In reality, some elderly people are okay, they are more independent mentally, and they can find things to pass the time. It makes no difference whether the children accompany them or not.
But some old people really can't stand the loneliness for a moment. Someone must be there to talk to.
This kind of old man will feel quite lonely and lonely.
Therefore, after the death of the spouse of some elderly people, their children must pay attention to this.
For example, make a phone call from time to time and ask how you are doing. Let's talk about what happened today.
In this way, the old man has a headache and brain fever, and he can know it in time, isn't it?
If you have the conditions, you can live closer to it and it is more convenient to take care of it.
In reality, people are afraid of being lonely and lonely. So there will be a need for friends, loved ones.
This is especially true for older people who have lost their spouses.
Especially when you have just passed away, you must spend more time with you.
03 Understand the focus of the elderly's life
In reality, if one of the parents in the family has passed away.
For the remaining person, the focus of his life will be adjusted.
We should be concerned.
For example, in some families, after the death of one party, the other party lives a chaotic life, often spending money and shopping to relieve loneliness. even made irrational investments and took all the savings with them.
In other words, I met some inexplicable friends and was taken badly.
Or a day of smoking, drinking too hard, and so on.
It is necessary for children to understand these things.
After the death of one of our parents, what we should pay is a little more care and love.
While the other person is still around, get along well.
Don't wait until the parents also die, and then regret it.