Attitude towards the people at the bottom
Hide your true character
J· K. Rowling once said:
"A person's true cultivation should not be seen in how he treats people who are higher than his own status, but how he treats people who are lower than his own status."
This is because when a person treats people with a higher status than himself, he will instinctively curry favor, and the attitude and self-cultivation he shows are likely to be disguised.
But once he faces someone weaker than himself, he will take off his disguise and naturally expose his truest side.
The more inferior people are, the more they like to show their identity by suppressing others, so as to elevate themselves.
"You guys who run takeaways are not qualified to take our elevator!"
This is what Xiao Bian, a sophomore female student, said when she delivered food, and the customer made it difficult to humiliate her.
During the summer vacation, Xiao Bian became a part-time delivery driver.
One day, she was delivering food as usual, but she encountered something that made her particularly devastated.
On this day, a female customer ordered a bowl of beef noodles for 17 yuan, and Xiao Bian hurried to the community after picking up the meal.
Because it wasn't that the owner couldn't get into the elevator, she called the female customer to ask if she could help brush the elevator or use another way to pick up the food.
What she didn't expect was that the female customer opened her mouth and sarcastically said:
"Can't you climb stairs, it's not like you don't have long legs!
The 4th floor is not high! ”
The first time he encountered this situation, although Xiao Bian was full of grievances, he still climbed the stairs to deliver the beef noodles to the door.
When it was over, she realized that the next order was about to time out, so she started to rush non-stop.
On the way, the female customer from the previous order called her to get back.
Xiao Bian was so frightened that she quickly turned around, and the female customer threw the bowl of noodles directly on the ground on the grounds of spilling the soup, splashing Xiao Bian's body.
What followed was endless insults:
"These dishes you sent are like this, how can you eat them?
It's not easy to deliver takeaways, and if you don't go to college at such an age, will you deliver takeaways? ”
Which Cheng thought, the female customer still had a bad attitude, and called again and again to urge.
After getting the meal, he still kept humiliating Xiao Bian in his mouth, "I can't go to school well, and I can't deliver takeaways well." ”
Xiao Bian in the video couldn't stop crying, and she could feel her grievances across the screen.
A person's attitude towards the people at the bottom is his own upbringing.
Although no one has ever seen this female customer, it is not difficult to know that she has a poor character and is afraid of bullying.
Mu Xin said:
"A well-bred person never prevaricates with a coachman, a bathroom waiter, anyone who delivers things."
In fact, the more educated people are, the more they know how to let go of their sense of identity, and the less they will be cheap and cheap.
It's about putting others in your heart and being considerate of them from the bottom of your heart.
"Those who are on the mountain, do not look down on those who are under the mountain"
Liang Zhongchun said in "The Pretender":
"Anyone can succeed, don't look down on the little people around you."
People are born in a life, the situation is changeable, 30 years in Hedong, 30 years in Hexi.
No one is going to be at a high level all the time, and no one is going to be at a low point all the time.
Maybe the people you despise now will leave you in the dust in the future.
If you don't know how to put others in your eyes, then you will only be slapped in the face.
Netizen @Emory once shared a piece of his own experience:
As an intern, she went to a banquet.
At that time, a small leader of their company was verbally attacked by a senior executive in the same industry.
The high-level rhetoric was sharp, from the dress to the business ability, the small leaders were suppressed to nothing, and the atmosphere once dropped to the freezing point.
Instead of getting angry, the little leader replied with a smile after the senior finished speaking:
"Thank you for your advice, I will change it if I have it, and encourage it if I don't."
The high-level saw that the small leaders were as weak as a ball of cotton, and they looked down on it even more in their hearts, so they gradually lost interest in provoking.
The next day, a colleague secretly told the big boss about it.
While talking, he laughed at the little leader for being too embarrassed, and he didn't fight back when he was bullied.
When the big boss heard this, he praised it and said:
"This man has a bright future."
At that time, all of their interns were puzzled why the little leader was so weak and bullying that he would be greatly praised by the boss.
It wasn't until years later that she understood.
As the big boss said, the small leader came out to start his own business a few years ago, started his own company, and the results were also quite outstanding.
On the other hand, the senior executive was fired by the company because of a serious work mistake, and later ran over many industries, but he never did it for a long time.
In life, there are many people who do the same.
If you have a little achievement, you don't know how thick the sky is;
When he gains power for a while, he is arrogant and has no one in his eyes.
As everyone knows, no one's life is destined to be smooth, and lonely scenery is always accompanied by alternation.
What you don't look down on today may be your situation tomorrow.
Chen Daoming once warned the majority of young people in a certain program:
"Those who go up the mountain should never look down on those who go down, because he has been beautiful, and you are still under the mountain;
The people on the mountain should never look down on the people under the mountain, because at any time, the people under the mountain will climb up, and they must be themselves. ”
Life is a marathon, never look down on those who don't look as good as you at the moment, stretch the long front, you may not be able to have the last laugh.
The more you are in a high position, the more you must know how to treat others as human beings.
Because, what the future holds, no one can predict.
Karma is interlocking
There are clouds in the "Dharma Sentence Sutra":
"Evil deeds are reaped as a seed of suffering, evil suffers sin, and good is blessed by itself."
It was only at a certain age that I realized that all kinds of things that a person goes through in a lifetime have cause and effect.
What you sow, you will reap.
Your attitude towards others determines how others will treat you.
In the final analysis, what kind of life you will experience and what kind of results you will get is actually in your own hands.
In "The World Speaks New Words", there is an allusion called "Gu Rong Shi Shi", which says:
In the last years of the Western Jin Dynasty, when Gu Rong was in Luoyang, he was invited to a banquet.
Between the staggering, Gu Rong found that the face of the servant serving the barbecue on the side was full of desire for barbecue, so he gave the servant his share to eat.
The people who went to the banquet together laughed at Gu Rong and said:
"Why should you give him meat to eat if he is only a servant?"
Gu Rong disagreed, and replied:
"Where is the man who carries meat all day long, but does not know what it tastes like?"
What Gu Rong didn't expect was that he saved his life at a critical moment in an effortless act of giving meat.
Later, the Xiongnu attacked Chang'an, and the city of Luoyang was broken.
Gu Rong had to take refuge in the south, and there were dangers all the way.
Gu Rong was surprised to find that at every critical moment, there was always someone guarding him.
After asking, I found out that the other party was actually the maid who accepted the barbecue back then.
There is an "echo law" on the web, which means:
"Whatever you make, you hear."
The same goes for interacting with people, the kindness and respect you unleash on others will one day be reciprocated to you.
The good deeds you have done in a moment of compassion may one day be able to pull you in times of distress.
The bridge you build for others now may become the road paved under your feet when you move forward in the future.
As the saying goes:
"There is no good luck without a cause, and there is no bad luck without a cause.
Every time good fortune comes, it is the interest you have saved;
Every time bad luck comes, it is to compensate for the past. ”
Indeed, karma is interlocking.
In the face of the weak, if you are contemptuous and disdainful, you will only be exchanged for indifference and spittle;
On the contrary, if you reciprocate with kindness and respect, you will surely end up with respect and good luck for yourself.
Life is a cycle, and if you want to receive rebates, you might as well learn to deliver kindness first.
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Liu Cixin once said:
"Weakness and ignorance are not obstacles to survival, arrogance is."
The most taboo thing about being a man is to have too much sense of identity.
In a high position in the workplace, if you don't know how to communicate with others on an equal footing, you are destined to not be able to exchange for the hearts of people who are desperate;
In the scenery of life, if you can't really respect others, it will inevitably make people stay away.
Between people, it is a heart-to-heart exchange.
If you despise others, others will naturally despise you;
If you respect others, they will give you respect.
Zhuge Liang said:
"Don't be a slut because you're expensive."
When you reach a certain age, you understand that having no sense of identity is the highest nobility of a person.
I hope you and I can let go of our sense of identity, be humble, treat others equally, and be able to be calm and self-consistent in the face of any situation in life!