A male member asked me: "Teacher Li, I just don't understand, after falling in love with a girl, I even prepared a foot wash for her, helped her wash her feet, helped her wash her socks, and thought about leaving anything delicious for her, I hoped she could treat me better, but why didn't she care about me at all?"
Li Zhenfang:
Seeing this classmate's question reminded me of my first love at the age of 22, and how innocent, cute, and beautiful I was. I thought that as long as I was good to the girl, the girl would be sincere to me, I thought that as long as I helped the girl wash her feet, wash her socks, serve her tea and pour water, the girl would die hard to live a good life with me.
But that's just what I thought. I don't think it's important, it's what others think.
And these things I do are not what boyfriends, men should do. All these things I did were done by the nanny, and by the eunuch waiting for the princess.
Do babes like babysitting? Does a princess like a eunuch?
The beauty looks down on the nanny, the princess looks down on the eunuch, and if she looks down on you, she will naturally not respect you, and she will naturally sneer at you and call you around.
Because you're not a man in her heart at all.
It's hard to hear, and what I'm saying may not be what you want, but I'm only right. If you want to listen to it, if you don't want to listen to it, you don't have to read on.
Because you're a member, I have to tell the truth, whether you need the truth or not, I have to say it.
What a girl wants is a man, a man who can lead her and protect her, not a slave, not a nanny.
Therefore, as we said in the audio lesson of "Love Method", men must have backbone when they fall in love. If you have no backbone, you will have no personality, and you will kneel and lick. The men who kneel and lick are all not good.
Even if you have money, as long as you kneel and lick a girl, then even if you have good conditions, the girl looks down on you and looks down on you, and she thinks you are not worthy.
When a man chooses a wife, you should choose a woman who can look up to you and be gentle with you, rather than choosing a woman who oppresses you everywhere.
The woman who oppresses you will make you exhausted and mentally discouraged, which will lead to the hindrance of your career, and finally your whole life will collapse.
A man can't choose a wife, he doesn't have the wisdom of love, and his life is very miserable.
So, which man do you see who can fall in love by washing girls' feet, pouring foot washing water, and washing socks?
What a simple, innocent boy. You just want the girl to be nice to you, but you can't even satisfy this little wish, don't you think you're pitiful?
When a man falls in love, when you take the woman as the core, you find that this love will make you sad, if the pattern continues, then there is only one ending, and that is to wait for the breakup.
Sooner or later, it will be divided, even if it is married, it will be divided.