People are floating in the rivers and lakes, and they can't help themselves.
Whether you are social or not, you have to mix in the group and meet all kinds of people.
Someone helps you, someone ignores you, someone calculates you, and someone crushes you.
What's even more uncomfortable is that you don't know who you'll meet next time, and you don't know if it's friend or foe.
When you meet someone with a bad character, you will immediately think of protection. But how to get revenge? If I was a little careless, I didn't eat the mutton, and I made a commotion.
Cao Cao at the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty can be described as an old Jianghu, after years of hard work, formed his own circle and gained a foothold in the Central Plains.
Many people think that Cao Cao is a treacherous person, as said in "Three Kingdoms: The Biography of Cui Yan": "Taizu is jealous, and those who are unbearable, Lu Guo Kong Rong, Nanyang Xu You, and Lou Gui are all punished for their old and ungodly opinions." And Yan is the most deplorable in the world, and he has been wronged so far. ”
In fact, Cao Cao is very measured, doing something and not doing something, which is convincing.
He has three sentences, which are aimed at different people with poor character, who can cure diseases and save people, but also turn their faces ruthlessly, and can also use people as a mirror, if we can understand it, the social routine is right.
01
"If a lady is filial to her relatives, isn't she also loyal to you! What I ask for is also": tolerate people's mistakes, be generous.
When Cao Cao was in Yanzhou, he appointed Bi Chen as a special driver.
At this time, Lu Bu's strength was very large, and Zhang Miao and Chen Gong went to seek refuge in Lu Bu. In order to expand his credit, Zhang Miao kidnapped Bi Chen's mother, younger brother, wife and children, so as to force Bi Chen to also work for Lu Bu.
Bi Chen said goodbye to Cao Cao nervously.
Cao Cao said: "This is what I asked you to leave, not that you abandoned me." ”
Bi Chen went to Lu Bu's camp and became Cao Cao's opponent.
In the third year of Jian'an, Cao Cao destroyed Lu Bu and captured Bi Chen.
Cao Cao untied Bi Chen and said: "A person who is filial to his parents is not a villain, but a loyal person." You're the talent I need. ”
After such a judgment, Bi Chen was further reused, and indeed made more contributions to Cao Cao.
Confucius said something similar.
One day in the Spring and Autumn Period, Confucius passed through Pudi with his disciples and met a group of barbarians, stopped them, and prevented them from going to defend the country.
After some negotiations, Confucius promised not to defend the country. But out of Pudi, Confucius still made a detour to defend the country.
The disciples were puzzled, why did they do this?
Confucius said, "The gods will not approve a covenant made under duress." ”
In a word, let the disciples follow Confucius more firmly.
One knows right from wrong. If he becomes a villain because of coercion, he is not a real villain.
Think about it, even in the circle of poor character, there are still one or two people whose conscience has not been extinguished, and even did good deeds. In the den of thieves, there are also good thieves.
According to a person's specific behavior, empathy, find the "pseudo-villain", and then tolerate it and help it correct, this is the big picture.
02
"The people of the world take more of their false names, less than verification, see the flamboyant and glamorous, easy to mutate, dazzle their blackmail, and do not revisit their vulgarity": unbearable, hard-hearted.
Under Cao Cao, there is a very famous person named Kong Rong.
He is a descendant of Confucius, a well-read poet and book, and has become famous since he was a child for "making pears".
But Kong Rong is in Cao Cao's camp, often singing the opposite tune and looking for trouble.
In the era of not having enough to eat, Cao Cao cherished food, forbade everyone to drink, and mainly ate to be full.
But Kong Rong was not happy, and said in the book: "Wine is a virtue for a long time." The ancient sages and emperors, and the gods set people to help all nations, and they couldn't succeed without wine. Therefore, the sky is shining with wine stars, and there is Jiuquan County in the land, and people are determined to drink virtue......"
On weekdays, Kong Rong also opposed Cao Cao's strategy of filial piety, saying: "What kind of relatives does a father have for his son? The original intention of the discussion is just the result of my father's desire......"
If a scholar does not take saving the world as his own responsibility, nor does he be filial to his parents, then his character is really corrupt.
In the end, Kong Rong was executed and his entire family was arrested.
Cao Cao commented on Kong Rong: "Very famous people are often vain and too vulgar to be ......"
People are bad to the bones, then don't put up with it, dare to suppress it. After all, society needs justice, and it is necessary to eradicate the moths of society.
There is a saying in the countryside: "When you see a snake, you don't fight three points for a crime, and you don't kill for seven points." ”
If you turn your face to someone with a very bad character, either you don't start, or you don't have a chance to turn over. It is this logic that Kong Rong's family was destroyed by Cao Cao.
You must know that a person with a very bad character, once he falls out with you, but he can still "resurrect", and the object of retaliation is you.
Therefore, when I turned my face, I was soft-hearted.
03
"Dong Zhuo's crime is violent all over the world, and we are in harmony with the public, and we do not respond to the righteous soldiers, and this is also a righteous action": take the lead in setting an example and be a righteous person.
At the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, when the people were struggling to make a living, Dong Zhuo held the emperor hostage and further persecuted the masses, causing public outrage.
Yuan Shao, Han Fu, Kong Ling and other princes gathered together to crusade against Dong Zhuo.
But the princes were thinking about their own interests and had a wait-and-see attitude.
Yuan Shao, as the leading brother, did not take specific actions.
Cao Cao persuaded Yuan Shao: "Dong Zhuo is a sinner, we came to crusade against him, but we didn't respond positively, how can this be justice?" ”
After speaking, Cao Cao took his few men and began to attack Dong Zhuo's camp.
This time, Cao Cao's behavior was undoubtedly to hit the stone with an egg, and he suffered a defeat in Xingyang Bianshui, and he was also hit by an arrow.
There is a word called "Glory in spite of defeat."
A defeat made Cao Cao a righteous man in the eyes of the masses, so more and more people defected to him later. Dong Zhuo was finally exterminated.
When you encounter a large group of people with very bad character, you can't go it alone. You have to have the light to attract more righteous people, so as to form a strong camp and suppress the opponent.
Since ancient times, evil has prevailed over good. Your righteousness will make people with poor character fearful, and you will also raise your arms and respond to every call.
In many places and units, there are small circles, and if you, as a righteous person, dare to shine your own light, you will have a strong cohesion.
It's not you alone in taking revenge on someone with a bad character.
04
Crowds, like the field in the field, you are the one who grows the corn, but you can't guarantee that the corn field is free of weeds.
So you have to get rid of the weeds again and again and protect the corn. That's why we keep taking revenge on people with bad character.
Find valuable weeds and turn them into friends; uproot the heinous weeds; Cover the weeds with the weeds.
Classify the people around you, and then deal with them in different ways, and you have a great chance of winning.
Of course, it is also here, to advise people with very bad character, the sea of suffering is endless, and turning back is the shore.
A person with good character may suffer losses, but there must be no harm.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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