Looking at the older generation, it is really not difficult to find a partner, even if the family is very poor, you can also get in touch with a certain family in the next village.
What's even more gratifying is that everyone's marriage is very strong, and the quarrel is also a lifetime, not to mention divorce.
When we are in our fifties, looking at the marriage of the next generation, it is not like that.
I don't know when it began, and there are good daughters in the family who are worried about marrying; A good man will also become a leftover woman. What's even more terrifying is that if you get married, there is still the possibility of divorce, and you will be restless for the rest of your life.
With the development of the times, the concept of marriage has also changed, and parents must keep up with the rhythm and teach their children how to fall in love and manage marriage. Sons and daughters, encourage together.
There is a good saying: "Love often begins with appearance, falls into talent, and is loyal to character." ”
Don't get stuck at the first step of love, and don't let love have no beginning and no end.
People who understand love cultivate their faces, bring fate, and promote love for a long time.
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Put "self-confidence" on your face and treat people warmly and generously.
After reading the allusion of "East Bed Quick Son-in-law", you may wonder why Xi Jian, a powerful minister of the Eastern Jin Dynasty, would marry his daughter to Wang Xizhi?
Several young people of the Wang family have carefully prepared to please Xi Jian, but Wang Xizhi is very casual. What really attracted Xi Jian was Wang Xizhi's talent and calmness.
Wang Xizhi is famous for his calligraphy, but he has painted "Self-portrait in the Mirror", which shows how confident he is in his appearance.
Mi Fu, a calligrapher in the Song Dynasty, saw Wang Xizhi's self-portrait and praised: "Thin as gold leaf, Suo Suo has a sound." ”
In addition to finding a partner, you can borrow the self-confidence on your "face" to strengthen your marriage, and you can do the same.
There was a talented woman named Xue Yuan in the Tang Dynasty, her husband Nan Chucai was an official outside all the year round, and there was a third party.
In the face of her husband's betrayal, Xue Yuan did not be indignant and drew a knife against her, but drew herself with her heart, and then accompanied it with a poem and mailed it to her husband.
When the husband saw the portrait of his wife and read the verse, he was ashamed and immediately changed his mind.
The poem says: "It will be easy to describe with tears, but it will be difficult to write with sadness." I am afraid that the king will forget, and I will draw pictures to see. ”
Yes, how can a man bear to let his wife cry every day? Look at the wife again, she doesn't look bad.
Many people, when they meet someone they like, immediately feel "I have no money, I don't look good, I'm introverted, I don't deserve him". This is completely unnecessary.
Give yourself the confidence that you will soon be able to talk to the other person as an equal, and you will become more beautiful because of the conversation.
If you can wear light colors and dress up cleanly, your self-confidence can also be improved.
When people become confident, they will slowly become outgoing, which will facilitate the opening of emotional outlets. In marriage, couples communicate openly and honestly, and do not think that they are inferior, reflecting the situation of "equal strength".
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Put "shyness" on your face to increase attractiveness.
Many people can recite a few lines of the poems of the talented girl Li Qingzhao.
In fact, her poems contain love, as well as "love strategies".
When she met the man she liked, she didn't have time to avoid it, or deliberately didn't avoid it. Then, write: "When you see a guest coming in, your socks are golden." and ashamed to go, leaning on the door and looking back, but sniffing the green plums. ”
The person you like is right in front of you, so you can't take care of everyone's beautiful image. Instead, pretend to smell the scent of green plums.
The shyness on her face has betrayed her inner world. As long as the other party takes a second look, they will immediately understand that love will come as promised.
She married Zhao Mingcheng, which seems to be the words of a matchmaker, and the order of her parents, but in fact, there is an element of free love.
When you meet someone you like, you are embarrassed to speak, but you can "be embarrassed and blush" to reflect your feelings.
The two young people are blushing, so love will naturally have a drama. Because you care, you will be overwhelmed.
For married couples, being able to blush often shows two situations: one is that the husband and wife are noisy and quarrelsome, and as long as they can be reconciled, they can be further accepted; The second is that one of the husband and wife betrays the marriage, and there can be a sense of shame, which is the beginning of a change of heart.
After getting married, what I am most afraid of is meeting someone who is "shameless", taking betrayal for granted, and taking not wanting to make progress as a daily routine.
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Reject the "negative energy on your face" and avoid rejecting people thousands of miles away.
If you look at the good face and then look at the bad face, you will know "how to lose love".
Leo Tolstoy, a famous writer, wrote "Anna Karenina", "War and Peace", etc.
He and his wife had a great time when they first got married.
His wife, Sophia Biers, is a nagging and a lover of money. When Tolstoy gave the manuscript money to the poor, his wife objected.
In life, his wife nagged again and again, causing Tolstoy to be cold to his family and run away from home many times.
Tolstoy, who was in his eighties, died of illness at a small station, which is a true testimony to his family's disappointment.
As a woman, what I am most afraid of is living as a "resentful woman". complains about life every day, looks at no one well, and always says some oppressive things to his children.
As a man, he is afraid of becoming a violent man, not only yelling, showing his teeth and claws, but also doing things to his family.
You can look in the mirror, but whenever you get angry and complain, your face is distorted.
Rejecting negative energy is the secret of successful love and marriage.
Crying, making trouble, hanging yourself, crying and complaining when you meet someone, looking down on everyone, getting angry at every turn, and blindly commenting on social problems...... These are all to be avoided.
If you want to alienate someone, just be lukewarm and keep a straight face on him. But young people are advised that it is better not to do so.
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Writer Bi Shumin said: "When praising people, don't be as quiet as autumn water, but have seven emotions on your face." Don't think that it's unsophisticated. The progress of others deserves our joy and allows them to perceive our praise and pleasure without question. ”
On the road of love, control your face, quietly praise the people around you, and don't be complacent because of a little achievement.
Tell your children that life will be quiet and peaceful, that life will be simple and steady, that everything will be fine with a natural smile.
If love is too hard, your laughter is the best antidote.
If love turns out for the better, your smile is the best omen.
If love grows old, your smile is the best charm.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The pictures in the article come from the Internet.