In modern society, young people are often burdened with huge work and life pressure, and when they enter a new stage of life and take on the responsibility of childcare, it will add a heavy layer of parenting pressure. Faced with such a heavy task, many young parents feel overwhelmed.
In order to reduce the burden on their children, some elderly people reached out and wanted to help their children with their children. This is a good thing, but sometimes the lack of parenting knowledge of the elderly can lead to some tragedies.
Grandpa kindly coaxed the baby to sleep, but unexpectedly coaxed the baby into "cerebral palsy"
Doctor: It's this wrong way of putting the child to sleep
"When I didn't give birth to a baby, I didn't think it was too tiring to take care of a baby, and I didn't know until I had a baby, I was going to torture people crazy", Xiaoqi muttered to herself while holding the baby to sleep with two dark circles under her eyes.
Seeing his daughter-in-law with the baby boiled up like this, the child's grandfather also felt very distressed, so he asked Xiaoqi to take a break and coaxed the child to sleep by himself.
When Xiaoqi heard the words of the child's grandfather, she felt a little relieved in her heart, but at the same time, she also had some doubts: "Dad, you don't usually take the baby......"
Halfway through the words, the child's grandfather already knew what Xiaoqi was worried about, so he said: "What's so difficult about coaxing the child to sleep, nothing else, can't you coax the child to sleep?" Rest assured. ”
Seeing that the child's grandfather was sworn and confident, and Xiaoqi really felt very sleepy and tired, he handed the child to the child's grandfather, and the child's grandfather also began to coax the child to sleep.
Not to mention, grandpa really has a hand at coaxing the child to sleep, and the child has already fallen asleep in a moment.
However, the good times did not last long, and then Xiaoqi found that the child seemed to be a little wrong, always had abnormal crying, and had fever and other symptoms, so Xiaoqi immediately took the child to the hospital.
Originally, Xiaoqi thought it was a minor illness such as a cold, but after the doctor's examination, he said that the child had "cerebral palsy", which frightened Xiaoqi.
You know, now that the child is only 7 months old, how can he get cerebral palsy?
After the doctor's judgment, the reason why the child had cerebral palsy was probably caused by the grandfather's sleep before.
"Can sleeping make a child have cerebral palsy?" Xiaoqi is very puzzled, in Xiaoqi's opinion, when the child's grandfather coaxes the child to sleep, he also sways the child, how can the child suffer from cerebral palsy if he does not fall or touch.
The doctor saw that Xiaoqi was skeptical, so he gave an explanation: because the baby's brain is not fully developed and the brain is not stable, when it is violently shaken by external forces, the baby's brain tissue may be impacted, resulting in tears in the baby's brain blood vessels and injuries to cranial nerve fibers.
Mild cases may include headaches, dizziness, or mental retardation, and in severe cases, they may be paralyzed by cerebral hemorrhage, or even separated from yin and yang.
And Xiaoqi's child is suffering from cerebral palsy because of his grandfather's strong shaking and falling asleep.
So, what are some ways to put your child to sleep? In addition to "shaking and sleeping", there are the following 3 types that parents should avoid.
3 ways to sleep are easy to endanger children's health, many elderly people love to use, and novice parents should avoid it
The first type: milk sleep
When coaxing their children to sleep, many mothers like to use milk to sleep, that is, while feeding, coaxing the child to sleep, and finally let the child fall asleep with the nipple or pacifier.
Many mothers feel that this behavior has a good effect on sleeping, but in fact, it has greater health and development risks and life safety issues.
In terms of health, sleeping with a nipple or pacifier in your mouth may lead to abnormal tooth development and dental health problems.
In terms of personal safety, when the child sleeps with the nipple, if the mother does not pay attention to it slightly, it may let the breast cover the baby's mouth and nose, and the baby will be unable to breathe, which will cause serious consequences.
Cases of baby suffocation caused by milk sleep are not uncommon in life, so novice mothers should never use this way to coax their children to sleep.
The second type: cuddle and sleep
Many parents like to hold their children to sleep when they put their children to sleep, because when the child is in the arms of an adult, he will have more sense of security and make it easier to fall asleep.
At first glance, the effect of cuddling sleep is still very good, but it is "hidden" with huge safety problems.
For example, after the child falls asleep, the parent also falls asleep, due to the loss of consciousness, if the child's position changes at this time, the parent is likely to not be able to find out in time, which may lead to a variety of adverse consequences.
Another example is that if the arm holding the child is out of force, the child will fall down, causing the child to be injured, or after falling asleep, the child will be blocked because of the change of position, but the parents do not find it in time, then the child is in danger of suffocation, etc.
Therefore, it is not recommended for parents to sleep with their children in their arms, as it is likely to inadvertently put their children into harm.
The third type: sleeping together
Many parents are worried that their children will "roll" in bed after falling asleep, so they will fall out of bed or suffer other injuries, so they will sleep with their children, for example, some parents will sleep on both sides of their children to ensure their children's safety.
This type of sleeping seems to be very safe, but in fact, it can bring a variety of health and life risks to children.
(1) If the adult sleeps facing the child, the carbon dioxide and other exhaust gases breathed by the adult will accumulate on the child's body, and the child's breathing quality will be affected, which will pose a certain threat to the child's health and personal safety.
(2) Parents are not very "honest" when they are sleeping, especially the father, who may press the child if he turns over at will while sleeping.
As a result, the child's life may be threatened if the child's life is not detected in time or the injury is serious.
Therefore, parents should never use these methods that seem to work when putting their children to sleep.
"Women's Life (Modern Parents)" mentions: "The act of putting a child to sleep is like a 'nightmare' experience for parents. ”
Obviously, getting a child to sleep is not an easy task for many parents, and sometimes it can be a daunting challenge.
However, as long as parents can master the appropriate methods, the problem of putting children to sleep is not unsolvable. For example, the "EASY Sleep Method" is used.
Through a series of scientific and systematic steps, children can easily fall asleep, thereby reducing the pressure and distress of parents.
"EASY" sleep method, let the baby fall asleep independently, not to mention "how fragrant"
● "E" is eat, which is to let the baby eat well
The needs of babies when they are young are very simple, and most of them are physiological needs, such as eating, drinking, and Lazar. Whether you can eat enough will directly affect your baby's sleep problems.
If the baby is able to eat enough, then the baby's digestion time will be longer, which can support the baby through the entire sleep cycle, so as to achieve the purpose of sleeping a full night.
Of course, eating enough is not to let the baby eat, parents should not in order to prolong the baby's sleep time and frequently induce the baby to feed, too much milk may also cause digestive problems, reflux problems, etc., thus affecting the baby's normal sleep.
●“A”即activity，就是让宝宝适当运动
The exercise mentioned here is not to let the baby do strenuous exercise, but to let the baby after feeding, to carry out an appropriate amount of exercise, the purpose of exercise is to discharge the gas in the baby's stomach.
To put it simply, it is burping, which will make the baby more comfortable, in a more comfortable state, the child will be easier to fall asleep, and the sleep quality will be better, and it is not easy to interrupt sleep.
Moderate exercise can not only make the baby feel more comfortable, but also help the baby improve the effect of digestion, and also enhance the parent-child relationship to a certain extent, so that the child can get more sense of security, these factors are beneficial to the baby's sleep.
● "S" stands for sleep, which is to put the baby to sleep
When the baby is full and gets a moderate amount of exercise, parents will be able to take the baby to sleep.
The main thing we pay attention to here is to create a sleep signal for the baby, so that the child will have the desire to sleep when he sees this signal, which is actually the same as establishing a bedtime ritual.
It's just that because the baby is too young, this ritual needs to be simplified into a signal, so that the baby can receive it in a short time, and be affected by the signal and slowly fall asleep.
At the same time, not only should we pay attention to establishing sleep signals for the baby, but parents also need to know how to identify the child's sleep signals, that is, how the child will behave when he is sleepy.
For example, when the baby yawns is sleepy, then when parents find that the baby yawns, they need to start sleeping immediately, so that the baby can fall asleep more quickly and maintain a better sleep condition.
● "Y" is you, that is, the parent
The last point is the important executor in the whole sleep process, that is, the parent. Parents need to insist on guiding their babies to sleep in order, that is, feeding first, then exercising, and then falling asleep.
Whether the baby's sleep can be improved depends on whether the parents can smoothly carry out the previous steps.
"EASY" sleep method pays more attention to the order, so parents want to let their children establish a better sleep state, they need to know how to sleep in sections, and to be prepared for long-term battles, as long as parents have patience and are willing to persevere, then the baby's sleep will definitely be improved.
Write at the end
Healthy sleep is very important, and if we find it difficult for our child to fall asleep, what we need to do is to find out the real reason why your child is not sleeping, rather than "forcing your child to sleep".
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