No matter how good the relationship is, don't reveal the three secrets of your children to others, which "3" secrets?
We often deal with different people in our lives, but in the process of dealing with people, we also need to grasp the balance, and never say what we shouldn't say. After all, these people are all outsiders, and if they talk too much to outsiders, they may also cause trouble for themselves and their families, especially the three secrets of their children, which cannot be easily revealed to others. What are the three secrets? Let's move on.
Children's work arrangements.
In the eyes of the vast majority of parents, they will unconsciously link their children's work with their face, and for this reason, many people will let their children apply for civil service examinations, or enter enterprises and institutions to work. In addition to these jobs, there are also jobs such as teachers, doctors, and banks, which many parents will be excited to show off to others if their children live up to expectations and successfully enter these institutions.
But this kind of thing is still recommended not to do this, because whether the child is excellent or not, the parents themselves know it in their hearts, and there is no need to use it as a capital to show off. For example, if your niece works in a bank, relatives and friends come to you and want you to help you borrow more, but the bank also has regulations, what should you do in this case? What will happen to your children?
The financial situation of the child.
Many elderly people like to show off their children to others, saying that their sons or daughters can earn hundreds of thousands of yuan a year. To them, there is nothing wrong with the idea that having a child is a glory for themselves, but we also need to recognize the meaning of the phrase "wealth is not exposed". After all, the speaker has no intention, but the listener has a heart, and if we often show off our children's financial situation to others, it will make others worry about it.
At this time, some relatives and friends will also borrow money from you in various names, will you borrow or not borrow at that time? If you don't borrow, you will end up right and wrong, and even escalate the conflict between each other, but if you borrow, you need to worry about not being able to get the money back. In order to avoid this situation, we still have to keep our mouths shut, and we must not disclose the financial situation of our children to anyone.
The marital status of the child.
When children reach a certain age, they will face the problem of talking about marriage, which is also an important turning point in life, if the marriage choice is wrong, it will also have a huge impact on the second half of our lives, and even fall off the cliff, unable to turn over. In this case, we need to keep our eyes open and make a good selection, and try to see clearly before getting married, if the person finds a problem after marriage, we also need to stop the loss in time.
But many parents and children have different views, in their concept: marriage is sacred, once married, you can't easily divorce, even if the relationship between husband and wife is bad, you have to make do with it. If you get divorced, you may be disliked and even disgraced. However, as parents, we should try not to get involved in the marriage problems of our children, let alone publicize the conflicts between husband and wife everywhere and listen to others, otherwise the conflicts will continue to escalate.