Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Some people say that children are like angels, the most precious gift that love gives to their parents, which will bring them happiness and hope.
In the "Song of Persuasion of Filial Piety", it is written: "Ci Wushang feeds back, and the lamb is still kneeling." People are not filial to their relatives, it is better to grass and trees. ”
Some children are here to repay the favor, which can make your life more complete and add a lot of joy.
Some children, like enemies from previous lives, come to you and bring you endless calamities.
Whether your children are filial to you or not, you can see at a glance. If your children have the following phenomena, they will have no "conscience" in the future and will not be filial to you, so they must plan well in advance.
02. When you go home, you never pay to your parents, let your parents bear it
Next door to my house, there is an old couple living there. Their son and daughter-in-law are out of town and don't come back often.
Every time the son and daughter-in-law come home, the old couple are sad, and there is no happiness of family reunion at all.
Once, I talked to them about this by chance, and I learned that the two of them went home, did nothing, and ate picks and chooses, and a meal can cost thousands of yuan.
I can't count on them for any work at home, and the old couple has to do their laundry, cook, and tidy up their rooms.
After staying for a few days, the old couple can be tired and have back pain.
Later, having a grandchild, they sent the child back directly.
They became the shopkeepers, didn't care about anything, and said that the old man would enjoy the joy of family.
If children are not filial, they will always cause trouble for their parents, and let them bear their responsibilities and burdens.
Even when they grow up, they will ask their parents to do a lot of things for them, and they will take their parents' efforts for granted.
After returning home, they let their parents pay for everything, and such children are very inconsiderate of their parents. Naturally, they will not be filial to their parents.
Such children do not know how to care for and love the elderly. When she needs her parents, she will come home to see them. If his parents need his care, he must be too troublesome to count on.
03. After returning home, I will be empty-handed, and I will inevitably search when I go out
Whether children will be filial to their parents can be seen from the way he comes home.
Some children, when they come home, never think about what their parents need, and they don't want to do anything for their parents. Returning home empty-handed, enjoying everything his parents had arranged for him.
And some children, when they go home, will be considerate about whether their parents are in good health and whether they need to buy any electrical appliances.
I will bring home the fruits and daily necessities that my parents love to eat, thinking about making my parents happy and making their quality of life better.
In the former, he didn't do anything when he got home, never bought any gifts for his parents, never fulfilled his filial piety, always reached out to his parents to ask for them, and searched for them when he went out.
Only know how to ask and enjoy the resources of your parents. I always want to be loved, but I don't know how to give back.
If children do this regularly, their parents will be old and unable to take care of themselves, and it will be difficult for them to fulfill their obligation to provide for them.
The latter can see the needs of their parents, truly appreciate the nurturing grace of their parents, and cherish the fate between their parents and themselves from the bottom of their hearts. Only such children will be truly filial to their parents.
04. Treat your parents' money as your own money and sit on empty seats
Jiang Pengfei in the TV series "Golden Years" has never been to work in his life.
He relied on the property given to him by his mother and lived a good life.
As long as he is in trouble, he will go to his mother to be coquettish and ask for money. Even though he is fifty or sixty years old, he still reaches out to her to ask for money to live.
Until, he invested with his mother's savings and lost a lot of money, and the old bungalow was also used to pay off his debts.
He couldn't bear the blow and ended his life.
However, a mess was left for her daughter to clean up, and the old mother had no one to take care of her, facing the crisis of being sent to a nursing home.
The old lady has been delicate all her life, but the white-haired person sends the black-haired person when she comes. In his later years, he lost his son, lost his savings, and had no support.
Children who do things in a way that is not measured, and who only know that they rely on others to live, can't even take care of themselves, so don't expect him to be a filial child.
As a parent, don't spoil your children too much and don't let them spend your money blindly.
Sanmao said: "Comedy in the world does not need money to be produced, and most of the tragedies in the world are inseparable from money." ”
If children are not responsible and lack the ability to solve problems, they only know how to spend lavishly. In the future, when the family has no money, he will not be able to be filial to his parents.
Children who are incapable and not independent, naturally, cannot become the pillar of the family and cannot shelter their parents from the wind and rain.
05. Summary
As a parent, at no time should you be completely dependent on your children.
Napoleon said: "There are not enough people to rely on, and you can only survive on your own." ”
If your children show selfishness, refusing to support themselves and earning money through hard work, you must not be soft-hearted and do not let them take it.
You should leave some savings for yourself to ensure your quality of life.
At the same time, it is necessary to cultivate correct values in children, so that they can learn to be independent and know the hard work of making money.
Let them experience the hardships of the world and suffer some trials, so that they can understand how much effort their parents have put in and how great this love is.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.