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Not 100% empathetic
Even if the other party is a person with strong empathy and empathy, it is impossible to fully empathize with you.
When you understand this, there won't be too much confusion and anxiety, and you won't get stuck in a twist.
Can you step out and look at your relationship, why doesn't the other person understand you? Why don't you understand your mood?
It's not about loving or not loving, it's more about "different frequencies".
The other party loves you, but they are a little wooden in the matter of emotional perception;
If you don't know what you say, they may not understand you; Or maybe it takes a long time for him to understand your feelings.
Not everyone can catch your emotions, and when you don't have high expectations, you won't be disappointed.
-02
What's right for you is the best
Never live in "unrealistic fantasies and envy".
You envy other people's spring and snow, envy the romance and ritual between other couples, and always ask each other for some standards that you see and hear.
This in itself is a kind of "embarrassment".
Most of people's troubles actually stem from comparison.
In comparison, it is inevitable that mixed emotions of envy, jealousy, or dissatisfaction will arise.
For example:
Girls and girlfriends get together to eat and chat, during which they share gifts from their boyfriends on their birthdays;
The girlfriend's boyfriend gave her a mobile phone, a watch, and a bag, but the girl's boyfriend only prepared a cake, a dinner, and a lipstick.
She doesn't think there's anything new, and she can't do it compared to her best friend.
But what didn't she expect?
Although her best friend's boyfriend is rich, his heart is not in her, and using money to buy feelings and really get feelings and fits are different.
She can get more emotional value, companionship, support and encouragement in her boyfriend, and the conditions of the two are also equal.
It's the right fit that counts.
Whether the shoes fit or not, you can only know when you wear them.
Other people's standards and ways of getting along may not be suitable for you;
Even if you want to pursue that kind of life, you may not have enough financial conditions to support it.
-03
Good communication is necessary
"Playing straight" is the best way to maintain a relationship.
Don't hide it, don't dig through old accounts, and don't use a gambling mode to wake up the other party to see your needs.
The other party is not a roundworm in your stomach, and it is impossible to read your mind.
Tell the other person what you want;
If you feel uncomfortable, express it in time;
If you want to sit down with the other person and have a good talk, don't drag it out.
If you don't say anything, you always treat it coldly, you are always silent, and it is impossible for the other party to read you.
Most anger in intimate relationships stems from disappointed expectations or the other person's failure to see their emotional needs.
-04
You want to be a "not fun" partner
In fact, running a relationship is not as complicated as you think, as long as you can do it without ruining the fun, you are better than most couples.
What does it mean not to be unhappy?
For example:
The other party shares a happy thing with you, what you have to do is to cooperate with the other party and catch the other party's joy;
The other party has obtained certain achievements, and what they need is your praise and recognition;
The other party complains and complains to you, and you need to stand with him and empathize with him.
What is the act of spoiling the fun? He is happy, and your words make him unhappy; He complains, you start complaining about him, reasoning with him, saying that he is careful; He gets a result, and instead of complimenting him, you deny him.
The more unhappy it is, the worse the relationship.
-05
You don't have to "beautify the other person" or "deny yourself"
What kind of mindset should be in the relationship between the sexes?
Independent, comfortable and relaxed.
The more you glorify the other person, the easier it is to put yourself on the opposite side;
The other party is very good, you think that you are terrible, will you not be worthy of the other party.
The more aura you give to the other person and the more you embellish them, the easier it is for you to deny yourself and feel inferior.
Actually?
The other party is good, and you are not bad.
If you're bad, how can you attract them?
The reason why the other person is with you must be attracted by some trait or value in you.
If you don't have any value, if you don't have any attraction, the other person won't be with you.
Only by calming down can we relax and love.
-06
Don't be stingy with your feelings and thoughts
Many couples have been together for a long time and become "ashamed to express".
I miss each other and I'm embarrassed to say it;
I care about each other very much, and I'm embarrassed to express it.
The more introverted and embarrassed they are, the more obvious the distance between the two people becomes.
Learn to express and tell each other your loves, feelings and thoughts;
Learning to use body movements, holding hands, and hugging can enhance your relationship.
A good relationship requires listening, companionship, and emotional interaction.
Topic:
How do you feel about getting along with someone you like?
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