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01 flash marriage
Zhou Bingyi died only a few months ago, and Hao Dongmei married a red second generation to live abroad.
In the original book, it is written: "Hao Dongmei's second husband is also the "second generation of red", almost seventy years old - her friends who live abroad are the threads and bridges they build. He already held a U.S. green card, and at first he ran around the country and abroad to do business, but then when he got tired of running, his son took over. A friend told Dongmei that the father and son's business is quite big, and they are both overseas Chinese who are patriotic the longer they go abroad. ”
How is Hao Dongmei doing after her second marriage?
"Hao Dongmei is a little fatter, and her complexion is very good. She went to South Korea for plastic surgery, recovered quickly from minor surgery, felt five or six years younger all of a sudden, and looked satisfied to find her home again. ”
This shows that Hao Dongmei has lived well after her second marriage, her husband's family is wealthy, and he has long since taken a back seat, and he has a lot of time to accompany Hao Dongmei.
Compared with Zhou Bingyi's busyness when he was alive, Hao Dongmei, who is nearly seventy years old, has long been sober in the world.
In her life, she experienced the separation of her parents, educated youth went to the countryside, and fell in love with Zhou Bingyi; Although he lived with his mother after middle age, her husband Zhou Bingyi was busy with work, and the two lived apart for many years.
She has long had enough of this life, and she yearns for the days when the husband and wife are with each other more than work.
It's a pity that Zhou Bingyi was forced to stay with Hao Dongmei because of illness.
During the time when Zhou Bingyi was sick, Hao Dongmei did her best to take care of his life and did what she wanted to do most with him - travel around the world.
During that time, she longed for half her life.
Zhou Bingyi finally counted Hao Dongmei's regrets and compensated for Hao Dongmei's company by traveling.
After Zhou Bingyi's death, Hao Dongmei had nothing to worry about, there was no mother and Zhou Bingyi in this world, her two most important people were gone, and the life of the remaining one was very lonely.
She has no children, Zhou Bingyi can't let go of her the most before her death, no parents, no children, no lovers, life alone is very difficult.
So Zhou Bingyi asked her to find a new person to spend the rest of her life.
02 Zhou's family's understanding
When Hao Dongmei got married, she asked Zhou Rong to be a bridesmaid, and she said to Zhou Rong: "I made this decision for your brother." When he was dying, he asked me to promise him to do so, and of course, I needed to find my own home. ”
Of course, Zhou Rong understands Hao Dongmei's approach very well, she once wrote in her book: "If my sister-in-law is no longer my sister-in-law one day and becomes someone else's wife, not only will I not feel regret, but I will often bless her in my heart - a good woman cannot be widowed for a long time......"
When Zhou Bingkun first learned that his sister-in-law Hao Dongmei had remarried, he felt very uncomfortable: as soon as his brother died, his sister-in-law broke off relations with their Zhou family.
Later, he read his sister Zhou Rong's book and understood his sister-in-law's approach.
Even Zheng Juan said that even if my sister-in-law remarried, she would still be our relative.
The Zhou family expressed their understanding and support for Hao Dongmei's approach, especially Zhou Rong's approach, which is really different from other women.
This is also the reason why Hao Dongmei remarried and asked Zhou Rong to be a bridesmaid.
Because Zhou Rong can always empathize with her from a woman's point of view.
03 Secrets
For Hao Dongmei, she remarried at the age of nearly seventy, in addition to Zhou Bingyi's deathbed entrustment, she also has her own secrets.
She knew Zhou Bingyi from her girlhood until the older leftover girl married him.
Zhou Bingyi is affectionate and righteous, she understands him better than anyone else.
He spent his life for the people, for the cause, for the sustenance and instructions of his mother-in-law, and for the fulfillment of his responsibilities as a son of man.
There are many things, and the easiest thing to ignore is the lover around you.
Therefore, Hao Dongmei has a complaint against Zhou Bingyi, as a husband, he has very little company for Hao Dongmei, plus he has no children, which has become the default estrangement between the two people.
Although Zhou Bingyi didn't say it, Hao Dongmei still felt uncomfortable in her heart, and Zhou Bingyi's affairs in the Soviet Union and Olya also made Hao Dongmei uncomfortable.
She understands that if two people have been separated for a long time, they will always be unfamiliar, which is not conducive to the cultivation of husband and wife feelings.
But in the face of Zhou Bingyi, what can she do?
She said would he listen, and if she asked him to stay with him, would he be able to do it?
The answer is no.
As a result, she was gradually forced to get used to this way of life, and she remembered Zhou Bingyi's help to her as a girl and her loyalty to their relationship.
She also sympathized with Zhou Bingyi when he was forced to become their family's son-in-law.
Hao Dongmei is full of gratitude to Zhou Bingyi, he was her benefactor in her girlhood, her lover in her youth, and her reliance in middle age.
What kind of relationship can be so long-lasting?
Therefore, she treats the Zhou family sincerely, and after Zhou Bingyi fell ill, she also did her best to take care of her and perfectly fulfill the responsibilities of a wife.
After Zhou Bingyi died, it was time for her to find a suitable person to spend the rest of her life.
She wants to use her lifetime to travel around the world, to experience life with her lover by her side, to feel young, to become a better version of herself.
Even Zhou Bingyi once had an Olya, and she also had to have different feelings and live the life she had hoped for before.
So, she had plastic surgery, went abroad, felt it, and lived well.
Although not having children has always been her regret, then try your best to live yourself to reduce this regret.
After all, living alone is lonely, it is better to find a new home and enjoy life to the fullest.
In Hao Dongmei's cognition, she knows that a woman must have time to live for herself in this life.
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