In the realm of feelings, misunderstandings are everywhere and all sorts of things are always going on. Once misunderstandings deepen, relationships are at risk of disintegrating. When dealing with relationship issues, you need to be extra cautious and communicate with your heart.
There are many kinds of misunderstandings, one of which is to misunderstand that the other half dislikes himself. For some women in particular, certain behaviors of men may be interpreted as not loving themselves enough or disliking themselves. However, this misconception is often subjective and is likely to be just an unintentional bias. When you find yourself having doubts about your partner's ideas, it's best to communicate directly with your partner to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings.
For example, some people always think that they are not smart enough and do not trust themselves to complete certain tasks; Or when joking, he will effortlessly say bad things like "you're fat" or "you're ugly and I'm blind." The presence of these thoughts and actions often makes us feel sad and alone.
In fact, it's not disgusting. If you have to give it a definition, it can only be called a low level of emotional intelligence, or a lack of understanding of business.
You have to know that people can be divided into two types of people, one is people with "high emotional intelligence" and the other is people with "low emotional intelligence".
With someone with "low emotional intelligence", you often feel mentally exhausted, and even if you try your best to cooperate with him, he will not be able to understand you and even make you feel uncomfortable.
For example, he is very kind, but because he is not good at expression, he often says things that are not well heard, which leads to misunderstandings and contradictions.
The phenomenon of "lack of emotional intelligence" is particularly common among men, who are often referred to as "straight men". These men usually don't know how to beat around the bush and don't know how to express themselves in beautiful language.
You need to understand that many times the words of "straight men" are not aimed at your dislike, but the embodiment of their words acting first and thinking. Don't be fooled into thinking they don't love you anymore.
In fact, real dislike is not simply dislike, it will carry a stronger feeling of disgust.
As a woman, you have to be aware of the fact that men completely dislike women, and many women misunderstand this.
Always complaining about you and blindly denying what you do
When a man doesn't like a woman at all, he tends to be picky about everything and against everything she does.
He has lost his love for you, so whatever you do, he will have bad feelings and treat you with contempt. This may frustrate you, but don't blame yourself. Facing this situation, staying calm and dealing with it sensibly may help solve the problem.
Even if you do well, he'll always find fault.
When something goes wrong, he tends to blame you right away and put all the blame on you. Such an attitude is highly inappropriate and needs to be dealt with more sensibly and fairly.
When we don't love someone, her existence may be seen as a useless mistake. But when we love someone deeply, even her flaws and inadequacies will become a shining point in our eyes. This psychological transformation is due to our different understandings and experiences of love, and it also reflects our unique emotional experience and deep understanding of that person.
Take coquettishness as an example, for a man who loves you, he will find you cute and cute, while for a man who doesn't love you, he may think that you are posturing.
When men are completely disgusted with women, they will ignore your emotions and feelings and will not be able to understand and empathize with your situation. These are common manifestations and very unpleasant.
When we truly fall in love with someone, we empathize with them, imagine what they think, and understand their hardships and hardships. This love does not need to be forced, nor does it need to be hidden, it is full of warmth beyond ease and formality.
Perhaps, no one can fully feel the feelings of another person, but when there is you in the heart, try to understand everything you are going through.
If a man is completely disappointed in you, then he won't care how you feel. His actions don't take into account your feelings, and even if you're dissatisfied, he won't care.
When it comes to understanding and understanding, he's not doing very well. He takes everything you do for granted, and even feels like you're not doing it perfectly.
In general, when you get along with each other on a daily basis, he never thinks about what to do for you, and he is completely like a "hands-off shopkeeper".
Compare yourself to other members of the opposite sex from time to time
If there is a man who dislikes you, then he will most likely not be able to appreciate your beauty and talents.
Even if you are good-looking, successful in your career, and independent, once he is completely dissatisfied with you, he will think that you are inferior to other women. So don't just focus on physical and material success, but also focus on the relationship with your partner, which is the key to maintaining a long-term relationship.
There is a saying: "Flowers at home are not as fragrant as flowers in the wild." "In the eyes of a man who dislikes you, all the other women seem to be better than you, they have a sparkling personality and seductive charm.
When a man often compares you to other members of the opposite sex, you should notice that he has developed a grudge against you, and this is not just a joke. This behavior is a sign of disrespect for you, and you should seriously consider your relationship.
A man who truly loves you will see you as a unique person and feel that you are perfect in his heart even if you are not perfect. This true love comes from his infinite care and tolerance for you.
Conclusion:
The real disgust manifests itself in all aspects of life. When a man says you're stupid, he's not necessarily disgusted with you, he may just be worried that you'll hurt himself. In life, we should learn to understand the true intentions behind other people's words and deeds, and not easily take other people's words as malicious. Only in this way can we build good relationships and make life easier and more enjoyable.
After that, he must be eager to do it.
Dislike is not only an accusation against you, but also a lack of concern for you.
In the TV series "Dear Yourself", Zhang Zhizhi and Liu Yang are a typical case.
Zhang Zhizhi is busy with housework and going out every day, and has not been recognized by Liu Yang for a long time. Instead, she felt denied and found incomprehensible.
While enjoying the service, he also complained in his heart, hoping that she would become an elegant and gentle woman, which made him feel a little dissatisfied. He was as relaxed as a shopkeeper, enjoying her help.
When Zhang Zhizhi had a conflict with a third party, he immediately protected the woman and slapped Zhang Zhizhi in the face in public. This man has demonstrated his commitment to protecting the vulnerable.
In short, you have to understand that a man who loves you deeply in his heart seems to be critical of you, but he actually loves and cherishes you. Please relax and don't get confused, the relationship between you and him is real.
That feeling that seems to think you're in trouble is a sweet burden for him. And a man who really dislikes you is just a burden to him.