Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
Some people say that you can't hide what you really like someone, and even if you cover your mouth, you will run out of your eyes.
In the same way, if a person completely lets go of you, he can't hide it, as can be seen from his subsequent performance.
When your ex has the following six manifestations, it means that he has completely let go of you.
01
No longer mind your affairs
Shakespeare once said, "Love is blind, and lovers do not see the lovely silly things they do." ”
People who fall in love are always blind and stupid.
He will always put your business first, even more than his own.
When he wakes up in the morning, or before going to bed at night, he wants to receive your messages, and he has to dry his hands to reply to your messages when he takes a shower, for fear that he will not respond to you in time when you encounter something.
However, once he no longer loves you and lets go of you completely, his world will no longer revolve around you. There's something about you, and he won't be so concerned anymore.
When you send him a message, he doesn't respond in a timely manner, and he forgets to reply later; What you told him, he forgot in a blink of an eye; When you're not feeling well, he's no longer so nervous that he doesn't even say hello......
These manifestations are telling you that he has completely let go of you and that his life is no longer centered around you.
02
Indifferent to your emotions
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "Lovers will always say a lot of boring things and do some boring things, happiness is to have someone to accompany you to be boring, it is rare that both of you are not bored." ”
When you are in love, there are always endless words and things to do between two people, and they are happy with each other, even if they are bored.
He will care about your every little emotion, he will be happy when you are happy, and he will be more sad than you when you are sad.
However, once he lets you go, he is indifferent to your emotions.
Even if you lose your temper in order to get his attention, he will only think that you are vexatious, and he will not react to you when he turns away angrily, not even a word of comfort.
If your ex no longer embraces you and comforts you as he used to when you have an emotional outburst, but chooses to turn a blind eye and be indifferent.
Then it means that he has completely let you go.
03
No more planning the future with you
Yishu wrote in "The First Half of My Life": "Marriage has nothing to do with love, people always think that they will naturally get married when they are in love, but they don't know that marriage is just a way of life, everyone can get married, it's very simple." ”
Indeed, marriage is a transformation, a transition from love to marriage, from romance to reality.
However, if the person is not going to marry you or even plan for the future with you, then he is not really in love with you or has already let you go.
If a person has let go of you, then he will no longer plan for the future with you, and he will be cold or even ignore any ideas you put forward about the future.
Because, there is no longer you in his future plan, so he will no longer discuss with you what the future will be, and he will no longer imagine a better life with you.
At this time, you should understand that he has completely let go of you and is ready to start a new life.
04
No longer enthusiastic about your family and friends
As the saying goes, "Love the house and the black." "When he loves you deeply, he will also be very warm and caring for your relatives and friends.
Because I love you, I want to fit into your circle and mingle with your relatives and friends in order to get to know you better.
However, once he no longer loves you and lets go of you from his heart, he will no longer be so enthusiastic about your relatives and friends.
Even, when you take the initiative to talk to him about topics related to relatives and friends, he will behave very coldly and act like he has nothing to do with himself.
If your ex suddenly becomes indifferent to your relatives and friends, or even shows obvious impatience or resistance when you bring it up, then he has probably let you go.
05
and maintain a clear sense of boundaries with you
Zhou Guoping once said: "All interactions have a final boundary that cannot be surpassed, which is not clear, but it is certain. ”
In interpersonal communication, a sense of boundaries is very important, but in love, there are often no too clear boundaries between two people.
When you are in love, what is yours is mine, and what is mine is yours; And when the love dies and he lets go of you, the boundary between you will slowly become clear.
At this time, he will deliberately maintain a kind of boundary with you, no longer share his life with you, and no longer care about your daily life.
Even, he will be very clear with you in some things, such as asking AA for meals, asking for the return of gifts for you, etc.
These manifestations are telling you that he has let you go and that you need to draw a line between you.
06
Start a new romance
It is said that the best way to cure a broken love is time and new love.
When a person lets go of you completely, he will choose to start a new relationship to fill the void in his heart.
At this time, his attention has completely shifted from you to another person, and his care and love for you have disappeared.
If you find that your ex has started a new romance and no longer has any emotional fluctuations with you, then he has really let you go completely.
Of course, starting a new relationship doesn't necessarily mean that he has no feelings for you, but it may also be because he wants to forget about you through a new relationship.
But in any case, it shows that he is ready to let go of the past and start a new life.
When a person lets you go completely, his performance will be obvious.
Many times, the reason why you are reluctant to admit this fact is simply because you haven't let go yet.
So, when you find out that your ex has completely let go of you, you might as well give yourself some time to slowly accept this fact and work hard to find a new life of your own.
After all, love is not the whole of life, everyone deserves to be loved and has the right to choose to leave.