In the long river of life, we are often stumped by various emotional entanglements, among which the discussion about love is particularly hot.
Recently, a video of an "86-year-old man marrying his first girlfriend" has attracted widespread attention on the Internet.
While people are sighing for the reunion of the two old people, they can't help but feel a trace of sympathy and distress for the original wife.
However, I think we don't need to be too entangled in the question of whether a man loves his original partner, because everyone's life trajectory deserves to be respected, and love is not the only criterion for measuring the value of life.
"If life is only as first seen, what is the autumn wind and sad fan." This sentence of Nalan Xingde expresses people's good memories and endless emotions for their first love.
However, in real life, we often have to deal with more complex relationships and life choices.
For the 86-year-old, his reunion with his first girlfriend and his marriage hall are undoubtedly a great joy in his life. But at the same time, we should also understand the meaning and value of the original wife in his life.
"Husband and wife are birds of the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster comes." Although this old saying is somewhat pessimistic, it also speaks to the reality of marriage. However, in the story of this old man, we see another possibility.
He and his original wife have spent decades of ups and downs together, and have experienced the ups and downs and changes of life together.
In this process, they may not have much romance and passion, but they have a deep family affection and tacit understanding. This kind of tacit understanding and family affection cannot be replaced by any love.
"Love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families." This phrase speaks to the complexities and responsibilities of marriage. In marriage, we have to deal not only with our partner, but also with our families.
It is his personal choice and freedom that this old man can reunite with his first girlfriend and enter marriage in his later years.
But we also have to understand that this choice does not mean his denial and betrayal of the original wife.
Because everyone's life is unique, we can't use a single standard to measure the value and choices of others.
As one netizen said: "It's good if both parties don't get married, if not, then what is the person who has been with him for a lifetime?" ”
Although this sentence is somewhat poignant, it also speaks to people's concern about marital fidelity and responsibility.
However, we must also realize that in marriage, loyalty and responsibility are not only loyalty and responsibility to the partner, but also loyalty and responsibility to one's own life.
This old man was able to bravely pursue his love in his later years, which is also a kind of respect and pursuit for his own life.
"Love is not the whole of life, but love is the spice of life." This quote tells us that while pursuing love, we should also pay attention to our own life and growth.
For the old man, his reunion with his first girlfriend and his marriage is not the whole of his life, but a good memory and experience in his life.
At the same time, we must also see that the years he spent with his original wife were also an indispensable part of his life. Together, these two experiences form a colorful picture of his life.
In the journey of life, we will encounter all kinds of people and things.
Sometimes we feel lost and sad because someone is gone, but we also need to understand that everyone is a passerby in their own life's journey.
We can't force others to stay in our lives forever, but we can cherish the time and experiences we have with them.
As one celebrity said, "Life is like a journey, you don't care about the destination, you only care about the scenery and mood along the way." ”
Finally, I would like to say that love is not the only measure of the value of life. While pursuing love, we should also pay attention to our own life and growth.
No matter what age and stage of life we are in, we should maintain a positive attitude and enthusiasm for a better life. Only in this way can we leave more good memories and experiences in the journey of life.