In the world of love, every woman wants to be loved and cared for by a man. However, there are women who unknowingly make men lose interest. So, what exactly do these women who make men dislike have in common?
1. Selfishness
In the context of the relationship between the sexes, there are women who seem to live in their own world, looking only at their own feelings and needs.
is like Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life", in the early marriage, she almost only focused on her own emotional and material satisfaction, and completely ignored her husband Chen Junsheng's thoughts and feelings.
She is always self-centered, constantly asking Chen Junsheng to meet her various requirements, from various luxury goods to all aspects of life, but she has never really experienced Chen Junsheng's dedication and efforts to work hard.
This kind of extremely selfish behavior is like accumulating the weight of exhaustion and disappointment in the heart of a man.
Day after day, the man's enthusiasm and patience are gradually worn out, and finally he can only choose to turn away.
"Love needs to be paid by both parties, if one party only knows how to take, but does not know how to reciprocate, then the relationship is destined not to last long."
Just like the marriage between Luo Zijun and Chen Junsheng, when Luo Zijun only knows how to ask but does not know how to give, this marriage is already in jeopardy.
A truly beautiful love should be when both parties care for each other, support each other, and work together for this relationship.
Only in this way can the flower of love bloom for a long time, instead of withering prematurely in the wind and rain of selfishness.
We should learn from these examples, learn to understand and give in the relationship, and avoid becoming the one who only knows how to take, so as to reap a long and happy love.
2. Don't know how to respect men
Men want to be respected and recognized by women, however, some women don't know how to respect men.
They often laugh at men's shortcomings and mistakes in public, or dismiss men's opinions and suggestions.
This kind of behavior of not knowing how to respect men will make men feel inferior and lost, and eventually cause them to lose interest in women.
is like Gu Jia in "Thirty Only", she is always self-centered in her life and does not consider Xu Huanshan's feelings and needs.
She asked Xu Huanshan to live her way, but she never cared about his thoughts and dreams.
In the end, Xu Huanshan found respect and understanding in Lin Youyou, and left Gu Jia.
"Respect is mutual, and only if you respect others, others will respect you." In a relationship, a woman should learn to respect men, understand their thoughts and feelings, and support their dreams and decisions.
At the same time, men should also learn to respect women, care about their needs and feelings, and work together to create a love atmosphere of mutual respect and understanding.
Only in this way can the relationship be more beautiful and long-lasting.
3. Not having a life of your own
In the emotional world, some women tend to fall into a state of self-loss and show a complete dependence on men.
They no longer seem to have their own interests and hobbies, and the circle of friends they once had gradually faded away, and every minute and bit of energy in life is closely around men.
Such a situation is like putting an invisible shackle on a man.
Men will feel the heavy pressure with them, and the feeling of being bound will become more intense. Over time, this depression will eventually overwhelm them and choose to turn away.
For example, in some romantic relationships, women only pay attention to men's every move all day long, and she has to follow the man wherever he goes, and there is nothing she can do to place her emotions and energy on, and she lives completely in the man's world.
Men may feel a little happy at first because they are valued, but over time, this mode of getting along with each other without self-space can suffocate them.
"Women should have their own lives and spaces, and don't pin all their hopes on men."
Women should understand how important it is to have an independent self. Cultivating your own interests and hobbies can make your life colorful, have your own circle of friends, and have more emotional support and sustenance.
Only by maintaining one's independence and integrity can one show one's unique charm in a relationship and establish a healthy, equal and long-lasting relationship with a man.
Instead of tying your whole world to a man, otherwise you will often end up hurting yourself.
If you don't want to be a woman that men don't like, then learn to change yourself. Stop being selfish, learn to care and be considerate of men; Don't know how to respect men anymore, learn to respect and recognize men; Don't live without your own anymore, learn to be independent and autonomous. Only then will you be able to win the hearts of men and make them truly fall in love with you.