There is an old saying in Guangdong: "The same person has no fate, and the same umbrella has different handles." ”
They are all human beings, but their fates are different. It's all one commodity, but the quality is very different. The gap in the fate of people is even greater than the gap between humans and huskies.
Some people have a stable life all their lives, some people have worked hard all their lives, some people have turned evil into good fortune all their lives, and some people have been unlucky all their lives. Not everyone has a good life.
Whether your life is good or not has nothing to do with money, fame and fortune, it mainly depends on these 5 points.
1. In a dangerous situation, whether the life character is "hard" enough.
Everyone has suffered natural and man-made disasters, how can some people escape the catastrophe, and some people are taken away by natural and man-made disasters? Everyone is sick, how can some people recover smoothly, while others are taken away by the disease?
It's all a matter of "fate". Those who have successfully escaped the catastrophe have a relatively tough life, and unless their qi is exhausted, they can withstand most of the catastrophes.
And people who can't escape the catastrophe are relatively fragile, not to mention avoiding natural and man-made disasters, maybe crossing the road, there is a possibility of being hit by a car.
Whether the life is hard enough not only determines the party's ability to resist risks, but also determines the length of the person's life. Those who have a hard life will live a long and blessed life; Those who are weak have a short life and are blessed.
Some people wonder what to do if they are weak. Just four words, do your duty. Anything that is beyond your duty, try to stay away. In this way, the personality will naturally become better.
2. In the realm of success, whether you know how to "retire after success".
"Tao Te Ching" has a saying: "The hall is full of gold and jade, and Mo can keep it; Rich and proud, self-blame; After retiring, the way of heaven is also. ”
The wealth that fills the whole room can't be kept by countless people. Because of the momentary success, you are proud, and most of them will cause trouble. succeeded, and chose to retreat bravely from the rapids, so as to be able to protect himself.
Liu Bowen, who dominates the country, is considered to have no last resort, but also relatively upright and a little nosy, so after he retired, he still asked Zhu Yuanzhang for advice. Zhu Yuanzhang was suspicious of Liu Bowen and also used Liu Bowen to indirectly let Hu Weiyong poison him.
After poisoning Liu Bowen, Hu Weiyong became even more arrogant and did not know how to restrain at all, Zhu Yuanzhang took the opportunity to liquidate Hu Weiyong, as well as the forces of Lord Huaixi, and connected many people.
Why was Liu Bowen poisoned? Because he didn't know how to retire, he committed Zhu Yuanzhang's taboo. Why did Hu Weiyong, who was a chess piece, also die? Because he didn't know how to retire without success, he was bound to die.
3. In a bland situation, whether you can "break the thief in your heart".
Wang Yangming, the first sage of the Ming Dynasty, said: "It is easy to break the mountain and the thief is difficult." ”
If you want to defeat the thieves in the mountains, you only need to use a little trick, and you can be caught. And if we want to defeat the inner demons, it is not as simple as using a little strategy, but we need to shake hands with our inner self.
Many people don't understand, is the inner demon really so terrible? For example, complaining at every turn, living like a resentful woman, this is "the devil in the heart".
To put it bluntly, the heart is overly irritable and full of anger, like a powder keg, which explodes at one point. In this way, how can we live every day well, how can we live this life well?
The key to a good life is not the so-called money, fame and fortune, but to overcome the demons and accept yourself and everything in reality. In this way, the heart is good, the magnetic field is positive, and the life grid will develop in a stable direction.
4. Conduct oneself in the world, whether it is "balanced".
The so-called "one yin and one yang is the Tao". Everything in the world has both a yin side and a yang side. Only the combination of yin and yang will be biased towards balance.
I've always believed that balance is more important than anything else. Just like the environment of nature, it is too hot to stand it, too cold and not suitable, only lukewarm and hot is the most suitable for the reproduction of organisms.
Take the word "make money" as an example, if you make too much money, for example, if you have a net worth of more than 100 million, then both black and white will target you, and your life and money will not be saved in minutes; If you can't make money and have no income, you can only eat the northwest wind as a family.
It's not good to earn too much, it's not good to earn too little, only "enough" is the truth. As one celebrity once said, after founding a large company, I miss the happy times when I was a teacher.
Why does this celebrity miss being a teacher? Just four words, I was scared. If you don't know how to balance, others will help you do it. Therefore, balance is the long-term way.
5. Whether each choice is "just right".
This life is made up of countless choices. What major you choose determines your career direction; What job you choose determines your career;
What partner you choose determines your marital status; What marriage model you choose determines your family situation; How you choose to educate your children determines your situation in middle and later life......
With so many choices, it is a test again and again for those who have difficulty in choosing. Many people will sigh that they can't choose this way, they can't choose that way, how difficult is it to choose?
It's not that the choice is difficult, it's that we have too many desires and too many demands. If you think about it, you only have the level of being admitted to an ordinary university, but you are reluctant to be admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University, isn't this just that your heart is higher than the sky?
The real good life is not to do something big or go to what position, but to achieve "just the right fit" in the matter of "choosing". Whatever person you are, you can choose whatever direction you choose, and if you are a little self-aware, your life will naturally be good.