Text: Yuan Yunlu
Some people believe that major depression slowly evolved from mild depression, during which it went through a process of quantitative change to qualitative change.
There are also people who believe that if the depressed mood persists and ferments for a long time, it will deteriorate into depression over time.
Such a view seems reasonable, but it does not correspond to the facts.
It seems to be scientific, and even conforms to the "law" of the development of things, but it does not necessarily conform to the Tao - the truth.
First of all, I do not deny that depression comes from depression, but depression is nothing but an external cause that objectively exists, and the key is the internal cause - people's subjective thoughts and attitudes.
Just like an egg hatching into a chick, in addition to the ambient temperature, the quality of the egg itself, this internal factor is the key to change.
Readers should understand that there are many people in real life who have been depressed for several years, more than ten years, or even a lifetime, but they are not depressed.
In fact, there are many people, even if the reality blow makes him unable to figure it out, pessimistic and misanthropic, even if he is depressed and unhappy all his life, but he can still accept the damage caused to him by this reality blow. I don't think my depression is for no reason.
For example, if he is in a bad mood, including various physical problems, he thinks it is reasonable, logical, and in line with cause and effect.
Two people who are in love cannot be together due to external factors, resulting in depression, and this depression makes them unable to sleep at night, and then a series of so-called somatic problems such as unpleasant food and decreased spirit. But they believe that this series of results has a clear causal relationship and logical chain, so they will not feel bothered, let alone depressed, but live with depression. This kind of person will not suffer from depression.
They feel that the cause of their depression is the external factors that caused them in the first place, that is, the damage to the objectivity that caused them a blow to their mind and body in the first place. For example, operating losses, business bankruptcy, debt, being cheated, being framed, chronic diseases (such as cervical spondylosis, insomnia, stuttering), etc. Unless these objective injuries are addressed, it will be difficult to get rid of the gloom of depression.
Before 2008, I was depressed for many years because I was hit by the leadership, and I hated my chest. In 2008, I came out of the "Train Enlightenment" because I accidentally came into contact with a traditional cultural storybook, and I suddenly realized it.
The main task of the counselor is to help the client solve the subjective ideological problem, not the objective harm.
Once you have identified your main tasks, you can help the client with some objective injuries. For example, if the client has emotional agitation, chest tightness, and a burst head, the counselor may use some emotional catharsis or psychological suggestion methods.
I've seen a lot of people with depression who almost all of them go from depressed mood to depression in a few months or even days.
For example, when a child fell into depression because of a failed exam, his parents reminded him, "Why are you so depressed?" Isn't it just that once or twice the exam has been hit, is it so decadent? ”
The encouragement and concern of teachers, parents, and relatives wanted him to regain his strength from the haze. Although he himself wanted to come out, the failure of the exam hit him hard and made him unable to accept the cruel reality. In order not to let his relatives and friends who cared about him worry about him, he could only pretend to smile and suppress his heart. He also wants to behave better in front of others and behave positively, but it is difficult to actually do it. He could only suppress himself again and again, forcing a smile on his face.
However, the law of human emotions is that the more pressure increases, the more uncomfortable it becomes; The more uncomfortable it is, the more pressure it has to be, and the end result is undoubtedly an explosion.
When he sees his classmates, sees others smiling and positive, and sees others studying happily and happily, but he can't reach that kind of sunshine, this is a great stimulation and harm to him. Negative emotions such as low self-esteem, guilt, and guilt arise spontaneously. He will suppress his heart more and try to control his emotions, which will lead to greater mood swings. This made him even more sad and sad.
If you are sad and afraid of being discovered, you will suppress yourself even more - this is mental internal friction.
This kind of depressed person who cannot reconcile with himself may become a depressed person.
People with depression have an excessively introverted personality. This kind of person often pursues perfection and always wants to show his excellent side in front of others, for fear of having bad reviews in others.
This kind of person who lives by looking at other people's eyes is really tired and painful. But there are quite a lot of such people in real life.
If you're going to help someone who is severely depressed, be sure to figure out if it's depression or just depression before you can address it.
Different problems, different solutions. If it's just depression, share your story with him and tell him about similar experiences and insights. The aim is to make him reflect on himself, so as to relieve his hatred of objectivity and finally reach a reconciliation with the outside (objective attack).
"It turned out that it was no one else who caused me to be like this";
"It turns out that I am not the only one who is unlucky, and life abounds";
"It turned out that it was not the objective blow that caused me to be like this, but the deviation of my ideological cognition and attitude."
"It turns out that the real enemy that causes my depression is not objective harm, but my thinking and attitude, my three views."
If you are dealing with someone who is depressed, you should help them to reconcile with their depression.
Why depression? Why is the mood so bad, why is the mood so bad? Why are there somatization symptoms?
These things have to be reconciled with them.
Unsatisfactory things are often eight or nine, and every family has a scripture that is difficult to read. Everyone has depression and unspeakable pain, but most people are not going into real life with depression yet.
Therefore, it is normal to have depression, it is normal, it is not a disease, and it does not need treatment at all.
If you take it seriously and have to get rid of it, it will become depression, and you will really be sick.
If you fight depression, depression will turn into depression.
Depression is like the water of the Yellow River, it comes from heaven and wants to flow to the sea, if you have to cut it off and prevent it from flowing, it will inevitably lead to a flood in the end.
Five thousand years ago, Kun (Dayu's father) governed the Yellow River by taking the method of blocking the river head-on, which led to greater floods. Not a natural disaster, but a man-made disaster!
We say that natural disasters (such as normalized depression) allow people to live; Self-inflicted iniquity – man-made disasters (such as depression) cannot be lived.
Others hurt you, you hate others, and that leads to your emotional problems, which is a curse.
Others hurt you, and you hate others, and that's right. Even if you are physically and mentally damaged, you can still survive.
If you don't let go of yourself and do your own sin, how can you live?
Heaven is evil, you are doing it with others, at least you will direct your hatred at others, this is the normalization of depression; You are doing it with yourself, you are shooting hatred at yourself. This is pathological depression – depression.
As a result, depressed people tend not to hate others, but only themselves.
Nowadays, anti-corruption has become a high-pressure situation, and corrupt officials are afraid of being arrested. Once a catastrophe comes, many corrupt officials will choose to commit suicide. The cause of suicide is mostly depression! This depression is not mental exhaustion (two voices fighting in the head), but a deep fear and anxiety about the future.