What is Ambiguity?
In the relationship between the sexes, there is a state of ambiguity, indeterminacy, and confusion.
Unilateral ambiguity is an emotional drama that you take the initiative to send out ambiguous signals, the other party turns a blind eye, and you make up an emotional scene in your brain according to some of the other party's behavior and language in a panic.
Two-way ambiguity is that after your ambiguous signal is sent, the other party receives it and gives you some feedback.
When you don't take the initiative to make a request to confirm the relationship, the other party will not talk about it;
You maintain this tacit understanding, and you are all pretending to be confused.
How to identify the other person's ambiguous signal in response to you?
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Anticipation and fascination
In "The Little Prince", there is a saying that says:
"You come at four o'clock in the afternoon, then from three o'clock I begin to feel happy".
A sense of expectation is a measure of an ambiguous relationship.
For example, you go out to eat and say to the other person, "I'll bring you your favorite coffee when I come back."
When you come back, whether they see the coffee in your hand or not, they will look at you expectantly and wait for your coffee.
This expectation is not limited to a certain aspect, but believes in every promise you give to them.
Looking forward to meeting you, looking forward to going out with you, looking forward to chatting with you......
Only when you miss can you look forward to it; Only expectation can be exchanged for ambiguous certainty.
Fascinated is more of an emotional and appreciative angle.
The other person will be fascinated by certain aspects such as your looks, figure, dress, work ability, personality charm, etc.;
The main way of expression of fascination is generally through "praise".
Unsparingly, unabashedly expressing appreciation for you.
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Temptation and cover-up
The most common state of getting along in ambiguity - temptation.
Temptation of what?
Generally, they will test the other party's relationship status, family status, and requirements and expectations for the ideal partner.
For example:
The other person often talks to you about some topics:
"What type of people do you like?"
"What do you expect from a married partner?"
"You're so good, there must be a lot of people around you who pursue you."
"Looking at your daily standard of living, your family conditions are definitely not bad"
In the process of dating between men and women, you have to know a truth:
If you are not very familiar friends, then every language temptation given to you by the other party has a deep meaning behind it.
Finding out whether you are single, married, or in a relationship will determine how they get along with you next;
Test your conditions, family background, and decide whether they will invest more in you.
When you ask them rhetorically:
"Why, you care so much about my relationship?"
The TA's reaction will cover up, evade, and give you a pull.
How to regain the initiative?
All you need to do is reply: "The person I like is probably the same type as you."
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Opportunities to meet and get along
If you have the chance, the other party will deliberately leave something on you.
Then, they will pretend to send you a message inadvertently:
"Excuse me, my bag looks like it's in your car, right?"
You reply: "I'll see, yes, it's in my car, so I'll send it to you?" ”
There are two ways for TA to respond.
Proactive response: "Okay, I'm just going to have some supper." ”
Pull type responded: "Then put it at your place first, I'll come to you to get it after I'm busy in a few days." ”
Another example:
You invite the other party to eat, give the other party some small gifts, and say, "Wait until next time you invite me~"
If the other party wants to return it to you at the time, it means that TA refuses to be ambiguous;
If they accept it gladly, it means that the next time they invite you alone, it will be the feedback they give after receiving your signal.
Guiding more opportunities to get along with each other is actually to "keep the suspense and expectation", and don't let your freshness run out at once.
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Every body movement is a "killer move"
A true master never needs too much narration or too many hints of language.
Simple body movements, expressions, and even a look in the eyes are all killer moves.
There is a line in the movie "Love Before Dawn":
"I love the way he looks at me when I look away."
The look in the eye is one of the most sultry hints in an ambiguous relationship.
Dodging Eyes: When you look at him, his eyes don't dare to meet yours and quickly move away.
Affectionate gaze: The two of them sit quietly, looking at each other with blurred eyes.
Probing eyes: brief eye contact, quick shift of gaze; Look at each other again, and so on.
In addition to the hints of the eyes, not resisting physical contact and some intimate behaviors are also ambiguous signals.
Pick up vegetables for each other, help each other sort out their clothes, do not refuse each other's occasional physical touch, and do not resist two people being alone......
The more feedback between two people, the faster the progress of the ambiguity.
Topic:
Can you detect the other person's ambiguous signals?
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