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Some time ago, Happy Dad swiped his mobile phone and saw a particularly ironic news:
A 15-year-old brother, addicted to the "small blind box lottery" on his mobile phone, spent 150,000 of his sister's 170,000 dowry, according to his own words, at that time, fear and regret were mixed, and he directly broke the jar and broke the remaining 20,000 of his sister's dowry, and the 30,000 yuan that his father saved was directly used for eating, drinking and having fun. Now, his old father wept bitterly and said that his family was very poor, and that money was the only asset, and he hoped that the online platform could return the money.
To be honest, this news is really mixed.
Say this family is poor, right?
No matter what it is used for, people do have more than 200,000 yuan in savings, and they can be "used at will" by this 15-year-old son, and more importantly, this money is not spent in a day or two, and it was only discovered in the end;
Say the family is rich, right?
Among the 200,000 yuan, 170,000 yuan is the bride price for marrying their sister, which is the only large amount of money in their family, and it is to buy a house for their son's marriage, and the child's father is also physically disabled, has no ability to work, and can only walk on crutches, leaving more than 30,000 points, which is also their only money! So it looks rich, but in fact, the family is full of holes and has a very difficult life.
The final result was happy that Dad didn't watch it, but he could guess about it, through a burst of media rendering, it was estimated that the money spent on the online platform, removing the things received, could give them some back, but the money used for "regret" in eating, drinking and having fun, don't even think about it. A family that was already in danger suffered another catastrophe. How to live in the future, no one can help them.
In today's society, we can often see some "rich second-generation" children born in poor families, just like the 15-year-old brother in this news, born in a family with no money, but have a consumption concept that does not match the economic conditions. This phenomenon of separation is the sorrow of children, and it is also the sorrow of family education.
The taste of "no matter how bitter it is, you can't be bitter child"
Many parents have heard a saying, that is, "no matter how poor you are, you can't be poor in education, and no matter how hard you are, you can't be bitter about your children".
It means that although the economy in the family is not good, but the child's education still can't save money, what should be learned should still be learned for the child, and the child's growth process can not be too picky, give the child enough material conditions so that they will not have inferiority, sensitivity and other psychological problems.
The words are a good word, but they have been distorted by many parents at the executive level.
For example, in education, no matter whether it is good or not, as long as other children go to it, they must report it to their children for whatever they say, and whether it is useful or not is a later story. As a result, the money was not spent, but the effect was not at all.
Another example is in the economy, it is to be obedient to the child, give whatever you want, always feel that other children have something, if your own child does not have it, it will be too cheap and sorry for the child.
I saw a video on the Internet before, an old man wearing sanitation clothes, cautiously walked into an Apple store, pointing to the latest and most expensive Apple mobile phone to buy. The reason was explained between the words, and it turned out that his junior high school child said that other classmates used Apple mobile phones, and he didn't have a lot of face, so he had to buy one for his father too.
For this mobile phone, the old man took out a lot of money, some new and some old, some hundred yuan, some ten yuan, and a pile of dime and a handful of coins. The clerk on the side couldn't stand it, but the child still insisted and finally bought the phone back.
Will such a family be looked down upon by other classmates just because they bought an Apple mobile phone?
Happy Dad doesn't know, but it's probably impossible.
For wealthy families, meeting some of their children's requirements and letting them use more expensive mobile phones is a normal operation, because they have the material basis to let their children squander, even if it is a year for them, it is just an inconspicuous consumption. For children, they don't think it's anything superior, at best it's just a good choice.
But for ordinary families, buying the same things is to save money, and even the whole family needs to follow the diet for a period of time to accumulate. Maybe today the child wants to eat very expensive food, and you grit your teeth and buy it. The child wants to wear very expensive clothes tomorrow, and you have saved up for a long time to buy them. This kind of satisfaction of gritting teeth, or even standing on tiptoe for the whole family, is likely to cause children to form a mentality of being big-spending and inconsiderate of their parents. When I was a child, it would become even worse when I grew up.
They will not feel how difficult it is to get money, they will only feel that they have a lot of things they need, they need to spend a lot of money, and they need their parents to keep buying and buying for themselves, which seems to be enriching their children, so that children can enjoy the same material conditions as other children, but in fact, it will make children develop a wrong view of consumption, which will affect their lives.
Material wealth≠ spiritual wealth
Therefore, whether it is a rich family or an ordinary family, children should understand that everyone's family conditions in this world are different, some people can easily earn a lot of money, but some people can only earn a small amount of money after working hard all their lives, this is a social phenomenon, we can not change, we can only live a life that suits us according to our actual situation.
For parents and parents, it is to give their children education suitable for their own family conditions according to the actual situation.
The so-called family education that is suitable for oneself here can be to give the child a good character.
Mom and Dad use peaceful emotions to accompany their children, do not consume children in small things, help them find happy materials in ordinary life, and let them find progress in difficulties and setbacks, but high-demand children are not without reason to indulge children, so that children have a cheerful, optimistic and open-minded character, even if the economic situation is not too good, such children will use their emotions to infect the people around them, and they will become popular people.
The happiness brought by material things to people is only temporary, while the happiness brought by emotions is lasting and always exists;
It can be to give the child a hobby that he really enjoys.
Mom and Dad can spend money on hobbies that children really like, and have been creators in the field of parenting for so long, Happy Dad has really seen very talented children, some are talented in painting, and even Happy Dad, a person who has no artistic cells, can see that people are indeed very good at painting. No matter what kind of talent, as long as you find it, give the child perseverance to persevere, to learn to practice, although it seems to be a waste of time to affect learning, but in the long run, hobbies are the best way for children to cultivate a good attitude, perseverance, and perseverance.
Moreover, children with hobbies will be more confident, and their vision will not be limited to what to eat and wear, but to a higher level of spiritual needs.
It can also be to take the children out for a walk.
We often say that we want to take our children to see the world, which is nothing more than to let our children get in touch with the scenery, life and culture that are different from their usual life. It can be to take your children to the park to see the blooming flowers, increase your plant knowledge, and realize the importance of hard work and growth from the process of plant growth. It can be taking children to the countryside for a walk, looking at the running chickens, ducks, cows and sheep, looking at the grass that has lowered its head by the wind, and the heavy ears of wheat, and looking at the life away from the concrete road.
It doesn't take a lot of money to see the world, but it does require a lot of heart from mom and dad.
At last
In fact, for the education of children, the mentality of parents will be more important.
admit that you are an ordinary person, an ordinary family, do whatever you should do, do not deliberately raise your children poorly, and do not slap your rich children with swollen faces and fat people, and give your children a supporting life as much as they have the ability, so it is right.
However, it is easy to see your own shortcomings, but it is difficult to correct them, and I hope that every parent can realize this.
So, how do you think ordinary families should "enrich" their children? Feel free to leave a message in the comment area. #头条创作挑战赛#
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