A peerless good man is actually just a woman's fantasy
Gao Yalin had an accident, and the vast majority of those who condemned him on the Internet were women.
Because it has been 20 years since "Family with Children" was broadcast, Gao Yalin's chubby face has become a symbol of a good man.
Although he is cowardly, weak, and timid, he loves this family tenderly-
took care of the children, endured his wife, reconciled the contradictions in the family, overcame the rigid with softness, and silently acted as the spiritual pillar of this wife full of knives and tofu hearts and a bunch of bear children.
In a couple consultation, my husband complained to me, my wife loves to watch "Family with Children", every time she sees Xia Donghai, she will tell me:
Look at how people are husbands and fathers, you look at you......
At that time, I really wanted to smash the TV!
Now he doesn't have to smash it, because it is very likely that because of Gao Yalin's scandal, this popular "male moral education film" will be taken off the shelves.
In fact, Xia Donghai is not without any problems, as a screenwriter who works from home, he doesn't even do basic housework, and he doesn't care about taking care of his children's lives, his self-care ability is a mess, and his wife is alone in everything at home.
His wife Liu Mei is the head nurse of a tertiary hospital in Beijing, and her income is not low, she is busy during the day, and she has to cook and do housework when she goes home, and take care of the eating, drinking and Lazar of three children and one eldest child.
But even so, such a man can be regarded as the "ceiling of the good man's world".
Women like Xia Donghai because he has something that most men don't have, that is, he is home-centered and a family man, instead of running out every day and leaving his wife and children at home.
The reason why many people are very distressed after seeing the Gao Yalin scandal is because they have regarded Xia Donghai as a "shared father" since they were children, because this "waste father" can at least provide "emotional value" to the family, care about the family, reconcile family conflicts, endure the strong wife in every way, and provide spiritual support and psychological comfort to the children at critical moments.
But Rao is like this, he still collapsed the house.
Many marriages are Xia Donghai in the early stage and Gao Yalin in the later stage
In fact, the same is true of many marriages.
is Xia Donghai, and the man in the later stage becomes Gao Yalin.
Many wives who came to me for counseling said bitterly: There were many men with better conditions than my husband chasing me back then, so I chose an honest man who was very good to me.
But you remember, all men who climb high have an ambitious heart.
The fact that he can pursue a woman with better conditions than him shows that he is absolutely unwilling to be left behind in his career.
After gaining high-class women emotionally, he will also be a "king" in other fields.
Therefore, such a man will inevitably come to the peak of his career after the age of 30.
He is no longer the poor boy he was at the beginning, and he is no longer the "licking dog" who makes women look down.
His success is his charm, and his waist bag is his halo.
At this time, the value of men has increased, and the appearance of women has withered with the years, and the difference between your values has reversed.
At this time, the man will change his face.
In fact, you only need to do a survey to understand that no man wants to be Xia Donghai.
You just let the man look at this picture, and you ask him if he is willing to be Gao Yalin?
In the world of men, women like Liu Mei are absolutely to stay away.
is strong, has his own independent ideas, and wants to control men.
Men instinctively desire to live like Gao Yalin:
Find someone with a huge age difference, one is to enjoy her youthful body, and the other is to be able to completely crush her ideologically, so that she can be completely obedient and do as she is told.
In short, be completely attached to himself financially, intellectually, emotionally, so that he can obtain absolute narcissistic satisfaction and at the same time do whatever he wants.
In a word, it is to "objectify" women.
Gao Yalin broke the news in a show about how he manipulated his wife.
His parents put pressure on him, what's going on! You marry a daughter-in-law and don't even cook!
At first, he still played haha: She's not small.
Mom and Dad continue to "be good for him": then she will have to grow up sooner or later! She's going to have to be a mom in the future! Gotta educate the children! So you have to cook, do the housework!
Gao Yalin also felt that it made sense, so he used the Huairou policy to train his wife to become a chef, Su's, Thai, and any flower style.
In view of this, he received a certificate of merit from the program team:
The certificate reads: China Good Man Award.
In the world of male narcissism, they crave women to do two things well:
The first is to be a pet, and when you're happy, you'll pet you like a cat, and if you're unhappy, you'll be stroked like a person.
The second is to be a mother and serve your uncle well.
And what makes people feel very sad is that there is an iron law in marriage, that is, men are not bad, and women are not loved.
There is really a Xia Donghai-style honest man in front of women, and many women don't even look at him.
There are two kinds of bad men that women love the most:
One is a hegemon-style man.
Although this kind of man is machismo, they are often very domineering in their careers.
His success is his greatest aura, which is enough to cover up his narcissistic and selfish nature.
He is most attracted to women who naturally want to find men to rely on.
And men's resources are hugely attractive to the vast majority of women.
For example, many rich second generations will drive a Porsche to talk to beautiful girls on the street, and the success rate is very high.
If you're driving a little yellow car, it's up to you which woman will take care of you.
But women must remember that long-term relationships must be evenly matched.
Either we are on par with each other in terms of external conditions. For example, we are the right family, you are a rich second generation, and I am also a rich girl.
Either I can fill the position in value, you are the boss, but I understand the heart of a man very well, I can give you the emotional value that other women can't have.
In short, in the end, only men and women with matching values can enter a relationship and it can last for a long time.
Once the values do not match, the marriage will definitely go wrong.
For example, it turns out that both of you are in the system and eat dead wages, and later your husband quit his job to start a business, and his worth is ten times your salary, at this time, the marriage is in danger. Because you live in a different world.
You don't understand his world, and he disdains your world.
They all live in completely different circles, and the marriage will inevitably break down.
One is a hypocrite-like man.
They often wear an honest appearance and are especially forbearing, but if they are not "licking the dog", but "licking the wolf", they make the appearance of loyal dogs, but in fact, they have wolf ambitions behind their backs.
Their acting skills are very high, and you have a lot of nerves, at this time, it is easy for you to live in the fantasy set by yourself.
This kind of man often has beautiful legends in the rivers and lakes, such as Gao Yalin, when a friend was filming "People's Power", because the investor ran away and was on the verge of bankruptcy, he didn't say a word, and invested 20 million yuan, and finally made this TV series popular all over China.
Be righteous to men, and black-hearted to women.
is not because of how benevolent and righteous this kind of man is, but for a man like Gao Yalin, their human feelings are sophisticated, and their lover is brave and courageous for the success of his career.
He stuck a knife in his friend's ribs today so that more friends would sacrifice their lives for him tomorrow, and the deal was a sure win.
But in the eyes of this traditional man, women are like clothes, which can be changed at any time.
To him, women are just playthings, and they are not worth his investment.
That's why I often say that after the age of 30, women should not live in the "world of love" but in the world of interests.
A man like Gao Yalin, he can go to the soup for you, but it will definitely not be because of love, but because the deal of feelings is worth investing in.
But if you are too far apart in terms of external resources, internal emotional intelligence, your beginning is doomed to a tragic end.
So, there are no good men in this world.
Only strong women exist.
In front of a powerful woman, no matter what you are, you will stand upright and be a person obediently.
The biggest awakening of women is not to go all over the world to find good men.
Instead, he picked up the whip, and the honey.