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Everyone should have that kind of moment when they can't hold on, they want to change the status quo, but they can't do anything, they want to move forward, but they don't have the slightest strength.
I've been through it too, so I know that in moments like this, we really want someone to pull us along.
But ah, human nature is often very realistic, everyone likes to put icing on the cake, but few people are willing to give charcoal in the snow, so we can only rely on ourselves.
I believe that after going through it, you will grow and mature, you will become stronger, and you will become more comfortable when you face such a situation again.
So, as a friend, I share these three sentences with you, which are also what I tell myself every time I feel that I can't hold on, or when I really want to find someone to rely on.
Trust me, you'll be able to get out of it.
There is no empathy in this world
The so-called empathy is nothing more than our fantasy. Because there is no empathy in this world at all, everyone wants to be understood by others, but in the end they can only understand themselves.
You don't need to be sad and painful because of this, you have to understand that this is human nature, and when you understand this truth, you will be able to work harder to carry yourself out of the situation.
To put it bluntly, don't expect anything from other people and events other than yourself, so that you will live more calmly.
Of course, I don't mean that everyone will be an island, sometimes, you will feel that someone understands you, and sometimes, you will feel that there are people around you who are always taking care of and pampering you.
These are really good, but they should never be your expectations. You have to understand that you can only get more kindness if you are strong enough, and this is the reality.
After you understand this truth, go and work hard for yourself, grit your teeth and survive those moments that you thought you couldn't survive, and believe me, you will become stronger because of it.
It's like after I've experienced many lonely moments and started to habitually rely on myself, I find that although it's a little tired, it's really grounded.
I will never feel that life has been difficult to pass, and I will no longer be sad because of the rejection of others, because I know that I am my own dependence.
I hope everyone can have such tenacity, and I believe that as long as you grit your teeth and persevere, and pass one level after another, you will become strong and live happily.
Talking won't solve anything
As an emotional tree hole for everyone, I am very happy to listen to you and solve your emotional problems for you.
However, I also have to tell you that confiding really can't solve any problems, at most it can only give your soul a little comfort.
Therefore, when you encounter a hurdle that you can't get over, you can talk about it properly, and you should try your best to get yourself out.
Of course, it's not impossible to confide, it's not completely useless, and I hope you can find the right person to do it.
Because many people don't necessarily mean it to you, you think that if you say so much from your heart, the other party may grab your weakness and hurt you even more.
In order not to become such a big injustice, my advice to you is to find the right person to confide in, such as me in the emotional tree hole.
Because the people around you know you too well, they will also have a lot of intersections with you because of it, and the words you say when you are emotionally upset may bury hidden dangers in the future.
The emotional tree hole on the Internet can become a channel for you to express your emotions for a while, and it will not have any intersection with you in the future, which is the safest way.
In short, you can confide, but only in moderation so that you can better protect yourself.
As for what to do after talking, I think it's about trying to find a way to get out, to make yourself stronger, and to tell everyone that I can.
Trust me, no one is stuck in something, and you can get through it.
No matter how difficult it is, it will pass
"It will pass", this sentence has accompanied me year after year. When there is a problem in the relationship, I tell myself that if I persevere, it will pass, and when there is a problem at work, I also tell myself this, even in the face of the departure of my loved ones, no matter how heartbreaking, I tell myself this.
So, I really came out again and again, and I found that the power of the spirit is really effective.
I know you've probably told yourself that, but you find that it doesn't make much difference. Yes, it is impossible to solve your actual problem in a practical sense, but it will definitely make you persevere a little more when you can't get through it.
Sometimes, it may just be a little more perseverance and things will take a turn for the better.
I have a friend who has been unhappy in the past few years, and his parents were sick until they died, which made him anxious, and there were problems with the hard work he had been working hard, and his girlfriend also left him at this time.
He said that at that time, all thoughts were lost, and he thought about dying, but he always told himself that if he held on a little longer, it would pass.
Suddenly, one day, he received a call from the investor, saying that one of his previous projects was very optimistic and they decided to invest.
It was during that time that he also met his current girlfriend, a woman who was very capable, caring, and willing to work hard with him.
He said that life is like a roller coaster, swinging at the bottom of the valley for so long, and suddenly rushing to the top, which makes people a little dizzy.
Looking at his success and happiness, I feel happy for him, but I also know that he has experienced those darkest moments, and he really almost can't hold on.
We never know when a turning point in our lives will arise, but we all know that as long as we persevere, everything will be fine.
So, hold on a little longer, it has to be like this.
These three sentences have accompanied me through many darkest moments, those moments, I thought I couldn't hold on, I thought I might have to give up, but fortunately, I came over.
So my dear, you can too, you have to believe in yourself, and you have to save yourself.
When there is no one in this world who can save you, be the one who can save yourself, come on.