In the warm spring of May, the campus is full of youthful vitality. Downstairs in the dormitory, a petite girl carried a suitcase and dragged her tired body slowly. Her eyes were blank, her hair was unkempt, and she couldn't even take care of the most basic grooming. This is Xiao Cui, who has just returned from her boyfriend out of town.
Xiaocui's roommate Xiaomei happened to poke her head out of the balcony, and at a glance she saw the embarrassed Xiaocui, and was immediately startled by her appearance: "Wow, what's wrong with you?" Could it be that you have been attacked by wild men?"
Xiao Cui shook her head weakly and staggered upstairs with her suitcase. She was already petite and delicate, but now her body is even weaker, and it is difficult to even climb the top bunk.
Seeing this, Xiaomei quickly helped Xiaocui to the bed and brought her a glass of warm water. Xiao Cui took a few sips before she came to her senses. She let out a long sigh and said helplessly: "It's because I'm too close to my boyfriend, and I'm physically and mentally exhausted."
Xiaomei suddenly understood, and showed a sly look: "Oh, so that's the case!" That's really hard work for you, too much, huh?"
Xiao Cui's whole face turned red with shame from Xiaomei's joke, and she hurriedly waved her hand to deny: "Don't worry about it, the two of us don't ...... at all."
Xiaomei interrupted her: "Okay, okay, I'll just talk about it." But it's really not easy for you to have a long-distance relationship, you don't usually see each other, and the rare vacation is so short, no wonder you have such a crazy time. "
Xiao Cui nodded, her eyes gloomy: "When we are far away, we miss each other all the time. Video calls don't really make up for the desire to see each other either. This time I was finally able to meet, so I naturally wanted to enjoy the world of the two. It's a pity that the time is too short, and I can only rush by like crossing the street. "
A long-distance relationship is indeed a painful and long wait, and both parties cannot always be by their side to comfort and encourage each other. The most intimate moments between couples can only be pieced together through remote online communication. According to the "2021 Long-distance Relationship Status Survey Report" released by China Jiliang University, about 56% of long-distance relationships have maintained this state for a long time and cannot meet each other. The average waiting time for boys is 72 days and that for girls 61 days. The waiting days are so painful that many people choose to break up because they can't bear the torment.
Even so, Xiaocui and her boyfriend Ah Jun are still sticking to this long-distance relationship. After graduating from high school four years ago, the two were forced to separate themselves because they went to different universities. Although I occasionally use the winter and summer vacations or other holidays to see each other a few times, in general, most of the past few years have relied on mobile phones and the Internet.
In addition to the physical and spiritual desires that cannot be satisfied, the biggest crisis of long-distance relationships lies in the change of long-term environment. In 4 years, everyone will change to varying degrees, and the growth path between each other may gradually drift apart. Fortunately, Xiaocui and Ah Jun have been like-minded friends since high school, and their understanding and tolerance of each other are beyond ordinary people. So that despite the change of geographical location, their hearts still maintain the pure feelings they had when they first fell in love.
Because of this, every time we meet, we must strive to condense all the intimate moments on weekdays. Just like Xiaocui's exhausted appearance after coming back this time, it is the best interpretation.
According to Xiaocui's original words, they were simply "playing" crazy during this holiday - from the mountains to the sea, from scenic spots to special food, they checked in all the classic local projects in the shortest time. In order to spend more alone time, in addition to playing, the rest of the time is spent in my boyfriend's rental house, chatting, playing games, and watching movies...... As if to make up for the past year of missing in just a few days.
In fact, this kind of super-intense love experience is not only experienced by long-distance couples, but also by many simple young couples. For example, many college students talk about long-distance relationships in this state, and when they meet once on holidays, they release their physical and spiritual desires at once.
Of course, this is done to satisfy each other's inner needs, but if it is not handled properly, it can easily lead to physical and mental exhaustion on both sides. Young people, in particular, are often difficult to control and will inevitably go to extremes. This is also an important reason why long-distance relationships are prone to crises and contradictions.
As the saying goes, if you want to hurry, you will accumulate too many suppressed emotions on weekdays, and after meeting during the holidays, you will rely on an impulse to symbolically release all your desires in one breath, and finally both are exhausted and physically and mentally exhausted.
In the long run, this practice is actually unreasonable and unhealthy. After all, no one can be sure how long the long-distance state will last, and if you overdraw your body like this every time you meet, it will only make the relationship more fragile.
Long-distance relationships actually require more wisdom and concentration, learn to control the rhythm when they meet, and stay vibrant. Don't always think about one time to be satisfied, but have anticipation and nostalgia to make the small and beautiful time last longer. In this way, not only can the body and mind avoid overwork, but also maintain the mystery and freshness of the couple, so that the flowers of affection will always bloom and be new.
Of course, even if you maintain your wisdom, the hardships of a long-distance relationship are unavoidable. Long-term long-distance life is easy to make feelings tired and cold. How to maintain a long-term relationship and maintain the strong interest and passion during the love period is something that all long-distance couples need to think about and practice.
Through years of practice, Xiaocui and Ah Jun have gradually explored some unique "secrets". For example, learning new skills together online, encouraging and supervising each other; Giving small gifts to each other regularly, even if it is a greeting card or postcard, can make the thoughts dye a touch of warmth on the long road; Virtual dates, playing sports, playing chess, and watching shows together through video...... These tips undoubtedly add to the fun of a long-distance relationship.
More importantly, they have built a very solid mutual trust. Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship, and it's especially important for long-distance relationships. Because of the long-term separation between the two sides, it is inevitable that there will be all kinds of doubts and doubts. Once there is a crack in trust, the relationship is in jeopardy. Therefore, Xiaocui and Ah Jun will try their best to confess to each other in their daily lives, and confide their inner world to each other without reservation, which not only enhances mutual understanding, but also strengthens the foundation of trust.
It can be said that it is precisely because of this deep trust that Xiaocui can be cute to Ah Jun without any scruples every time they meet, just like a little girl in love. She relied on Ah Jun wholeheartedly, unloaded all her tiredness and uneasiness, temporarily forgot the weight of reality, and only immersed herself in the warmth of the world of the two.
This is also why, even if Xiaocui is over the holiday and parting is immediate, she can still maintain an optimistic and cheerful attitude. She knew that although the flesh would be separated again, the purple thread of affection would always be tied together, and the love would never fade. As long as you use wisdom to manage this long-distance relationship, there will always be an end to waiting, and one day you will be able to dress your sweetheart on a white horse and a red fan, and enter the rainbow palace of marriage.
It is precisely because of this longing and hope that Xiaocui can give Ah Jun a sweet kiss before each parting, and patiently wait for the next time they get together. Ah Jun also supported this temporary state of being away from home with the greatest patience, repeatedly giving Xiaocui comfort and encouragement, so that she could find the motivation to move forward when she was physically and mentally exhausted.