Real life needs to be "ruthless".
In this competitive and challenging society, it is not enough to be meek and weak in order to gain a foothold and succeed. As the old saying goes, "If you are not ruthless, you cannot stand firmly". Although this proverb is more straightforward, it conveys a very important philosophy of life - to have a tenacious will and a decisive style of action, otherwise you will be suppressed and eliminated by others in the fierce social competition.
Living in this fast-paced, high-stress era, each of us will inevitably encounter difficulties and setbacks. In the face of these challenges, if we choose to run away or cower, it is tantamount to admitting defeat in the battle against fate. On the contrary, only with the determination of the word "ruthless" can we grit our teeth and persevere, face difficulties, and finally overcome many obstacles.
The "ruthless" mentioned here does not refer to blind stubbornness and recklessness, but to have a clear goal and direction, to move towards the goal in an orderly manner, not to be discouraged when encountering difficulties, and not to give up when encountering setbacks. Just like climbing a peak, although the process is difficult, as long as you persevere, grit your teeth and climb up step by step, you will reach the top one day. The same is true of life, as long as we have enough "ruthlessness", we will definitely be able to open up a path of our own life in the midst of many difficulties.
The phenomenon of the small three forcing the palace
In the field of marriage and relationships, "people are not ruthless, they cannot stand firmly" also applies. We often hear the term "little three forced uterus", which refers to the mistress using various means to force the married husband to divorce so that she can replace her as a legal wife.
There are various methods for Xiao San to force the palace, some will directly come to the door to expose, some will deliberately get pregnant and give birth, and some will spread intimate videos. In the face of this situation, if the original partner chooses to escape or tolerate, it is undoubtedly self-abandonment, and will be completely replaced by the mistress. On the contrary, only by responding tactfully and decisively can we effectively protect our rights and interests.
For example, once you find out that your husband is cheating, you have time to take action and don't give the mistress a chance. can directly confront the mistress and warn her not to meddle in the married man's family; It is also possible to gather evidence and prepare for recourse to law; If the junior is pregnant, he must also insist on a paternity test. We must not lose the initiative at any time, and we must always maintain the determination to be "ruthless" in order to gain the upper hand in this battle to protect marriage.
Of course, sometimes even if you find out that your husband is cheating, you don't necessarily have to divorce him. Marriage is a matter for two people, and both parties have the right to make their own choices. But as a wife, you must have enough "ruthlessness", you must not be swayed and threatened by the various tricks of the mistress, and you must have your own opinions and bottom line in order to take the initiative in this emotional game.
Patience or divorce
When it comes to how to deal with problems in marriage, many people's reaction may be divorce. But even if many wives find out that their husbands are cheating, they will choose to swallow their anger and continue the marriage. They may do this for a variety of reasons, such as children, financial dependency, etc.
Long-term forbearance is not a good idea. The relationship between husband and wife is like a pool of troubled water, if it is not channeled in time, the contradictions and grievances will only accumulate deeper and deeper, and eventually lead to ruthlessness and difficulty in cleaning up. Many cases have proved that long-term forbearance not only does not solve the problem, but will intensify the conflict, and ultimately the marriage cannot be maintained.
When her husband is found to be cheating, the wife needs to make a decisive choice: whether to give in or divorce outright? This requires weighing the pros and cons. If the relationship between the two parties has completely broken down and cannot be reconciled, then divorce may be the best way out; But if both parties still have an emotional foundation, or for the sake of their children, then it is also an opportunity to start anew.
In any case, as a wife, you need to be "ruthless" enough, and you can't blindly tolerate it or be in a hurry. On the one hand, we must have principles and bottom lines, and on the other hand, we must also calm and rationally approach the situation. Only in this way can you make the wisest choice when there are problems in your marriage and avoid unnecessary regrets in the future.
Lin Fengjiao's "ruthlessness"
When discussing the topic of the need for "ruthlessness" in marriage, we have to mention Hong Kong actor Jackie Chan's wife Lin Fengjiao. According to the search results, Lin Fengjiao was a first-line movie star when she was young, and later chose to retire for Jackie Chan's career. Although Jackie Chan has cheated many times, Lin Fengjiao has never divorced, which shows her persistence and dedication to this marriage. Her "ruthlessness" is reflected in this dedication to the family.
Lin Fengjiao could have chosen to divorce after discovering that Jackie Chan was cheating, after all, she was also a first-line star back then and was fully capable of living independently. But she didn't do it, but kept putting up with Jackie Chan's cheating behavior and insisted on this marriage.
On the surface, Lin Fengjiao may be submissive and lose herself. But from another point of view, her approach may be out of her cherishing of this marriage and her dedication to her family. She is willing to make sacrifices for the sake of her family, even if she needs to endure some grievances, this "ruthless" strength is commendable.
Everyone has their own life choices, and Lin Fengjiao's approach may not be correct. But her story at least tells us that on the road of marriage and relationship, women need to be "ruthless" enough to maintain their dignity and rights, and to have the courage to deal with many difficulties calmly.
Whether it is in life, career or marital relationship, we need to have the "ruthless" strength of "people are not ruthless, and they cannot stand firmly". Only with an unwavering determination can we gain a foothold in this society full of competition and challenges; Only by dealing with various difficulties tactfully and decisively can we make steady progress on the road of marriage and affection. Let us all have this "ruthless" energy to pursue an ideal life and defend our due rights and dignity.