1. Current situation and expectations: The dawn of recovery is still suspenseful, and the peak loop will come when the time comes
On January 4, 2024, at the beginning of the Chinese New Year full of hope, Dandan, who was once desperate, uploaded a touching short video on her social media account.
In this video, Dandan recounted with tears in his eyes: "I thought I would never see the arrival of the new year, however, I survived that difficult time!" She expressed her deep gratitude to all the kind-hearted people who gave her selfless assistance, and it was these kind people who rekindled her love and hope for life.
Although Dandan is now able to perform some basic activities of daily living independently, such as eating, her mobility is still severely limited. In the video, we can clearly see that Dandan needs to rely on furniture such as the edge of the bed or chairs to barely walk a few steps.
Her face was still pale, and there was a hint of worry in her eyes.
What's even more worrying is that in another video released on January 9, Dandan revealed that his condition has recurred, and the tumor seems to have a tendency to recur. She plans to go to a well-known hospital in Hebei Province on March 28 for treatment, hoping to receive professional guidance from doctors, hoping that the dawn of healing will once again illuminate her life path.
When we stared at Dandan in the video, we couldn't help but feel endless emotion in our hearts. This young girl, once subjected to the merciless tricks of fate, has thousands of tumors in her body, and struggles to survive in endless pain every day.
Although she is now free from the danger of her life, whether the road ahead will be smooth sailing is still full of unknowns and uncertainties, we can only silently pray that the god of luck will always be by her side, and that she can overcome the disease and return to a healthy life.
2. Revealing the cause and pain: cancer invades the young body
Who would have expected that Dandan, who was only 22 years old, would have to bear such a heavy blow of fate? One day in 2022, Dandan suddenly felt a sharp pain in her lower back, and she didn't pay much attention to it at first, only thinking that it was an old injury left by an accidental fall down the stairs before.
However, the pain did not gradually lessen as she had hoped, but instead intensified, making it impossible for her to sleep peacefully.
Just as Dandan was suffering from low back pain, a harsh reality emerged – she was suffering from a rare disease called neurofibroma. This disease will fill Dandan's body with countless intricate tumors of various sizes.
"A group of ants are in the flesh and blood, tearing and chewing mercilessly, and the pain goes deep into the bone marrow!" This description is Dandan's true feeling about the endless pain caused by the tumor in his body.
At its worst, the pain lasted for days and nights, leaving her to sleep for just three hours a day.
Despite enduring such great suffering, Dandan still firmly adhered to the belief of survival and never wavered in the slightest. However, the doctor's diagnosis was like a bolt from the blue, completely shattering all her hopes - the disease was like a weed that could not be completely eradicated.
Even if the tumors are removed by surgery, they will quickly grow back again, and the operation itself is like a helpless act of "killing a thousand enemies and losing 800".
Faced with this cruel reality, Dandan's heart was full of despair. She was supposed to have a bright future, but she suffered such a heavy blow in her young years. However, she did not give up because of this, but chose to bravely embark on the path of fighting cancer.
3. Father's indifference and abandonment of daughters: the trampling of family affection by authoritative patriarchy
Dandan was born in a poor mountain village, his mother died young, and his father and grandmother depended on each other since he was a child. However, the trick of fate befell her in 2014, and her only loved one, her grandmother, also left her.
Since then, the last trace of warmth in Dandan's life has also dissipated.
Dandan's father was bound by traditional beliefs, believing that only sons could be seen as real children, and that daughters were insignificant and insignificant. When Dandan was suffering from illness, he turned a blind eye to his daughter's condition and ignored it, even though Dandan's condition was getting worse day by day, he never showed half of his concern.
What is even more shocking is that when Dandan needs to undergo surgery, the hospital requires that a family member must be present to sign, and she begs her father for support and help. However, her father rejected her with a cold attitude, complaining impatiently: "It costs more than 100 yuan for me to go back and forth, and I have to go back to work, and I can't be left unattended in the field."
At the moment when his daughter needed the most care from her relatives, Dandan's father was not only ruthless and contrary to heavenly principles, but even openly said the jaw-dropping cruel words to her: "Since there is no cure, you might as well die and save some medical expenses."
In the mouth of a father, this is undoubtedly a complete abandonment and betrayal of his own flesh and blood.
In the midst of the impact and challenges of stubborn old ideas, Dandan's father treated his daughter's precious life as if it were nothing, and put the supreme patriarchal authority above the flesh and blood affection.
However, such a way of doing things will undoubtedly be strongly condemned and despised in our rapidly developing modern society.
Fourth, the road to seeking medical help: the heart of kindness turns into steadfast waiting
Fortunately, the plot of life is far more warm and touching than the bleakness shown in the movie "Alive"! When Dandan was in despair, there seemed to be only a thin veil between him and death.
At this time, a caring village doctor, Brother Zuo, did not hesitate to lend a hand to her.
As a doctor, although Brother Zuo cannot cure Dandan's rare illness, his word "benevolence" is vividly displayed. After careful consideration, Brother Zuo and his wife jointly decided that no matter what the cost, they would take Dandan to the capital Beijing to find hope of survival.
They knew that this was Dandan's only chance of survival, and that there was nothing they could do but entrust her to a more specialized doctor in the big city.
The journey was extremely difficult, and Dandan's limbs were weak, so he could only rely on Brother Zuo to push all the way forward. Thankfully, Beijing, a city full of human touch, is also home to many warm-hearted people.
A specialist named Dr. Wu was deeply moved by Dandan's ordeal, and although he admits that "it was too difficult", he decided to have surgery to remove the tumors in Dandan's cervical spine and lower back first, in the hope of restoring her mobility.
In addition to the efforts of the doctors, there are countless strangers and well-wishers who have reached out to help. One of the "patients" named Wang Fang, although his appearance is not outstanding, is brave and optimistic.
She not only gave Dandan endless encouragement, but also actively campaigned for her and other patients to seek assistance from the public welfare fund.
With the strong support of many external funds, Dandan was finally able to temporarily get rid of the trouble of surgical costs.
Until June 16, 2023, under the eager eyes of everyone, Dandan was finally pushed into the operating room, and Dr. Wu personally operated after a 5-hour arduous operation. Although the removal of part of the nerve could not be completely avoided during the operation, it at least brought a glimmer of hope for Dandan's survival.
After the operation, Dandan's condition was temporarily controlled and he was able to lie flat on the bed, however, regrettably, when he learned that his daughter was safe, Dandan's father turned around and left almost immediately.
5. Public outcry: a fierce collision of sympathy and indifference
Since the launch of the hit TV program "Life", Dandan, a 22-year-old young "bubble girl" and the misfortunes she has experienced, have instantly attracted strong attention from the whole society! Many people were shocked by this, and they could not accept or even condemn Dandan's father's ruthless and unrighteous behavior of ignoring his daughter's life and death.
Many netizens mercilessly criticized Dandan's father as "ruthless" and "ruthless", and they firmly believe that even if the family's economic situation is difficult, as a father, he must not turn a blind eye to his daughter's life, give up easily or treat it indifferently.
Because everyone should enjoy the basic human right to be loved and cared for, let alone their own flesh and blood?
However, there are also some netizens who have a different view, although they do not agree with Dandan's father's behavior, but try to understand and give understanding from another angle. Some people have suggested that Dandan's disease is a terminal illness with "no cure", and no matter how much money is spent, it is difficult to make substantial progress, so it is better to "turn a blind eye" and choose to give up treatment.
Others, however, point the finger directly at the root cause of poverty. They believe that the fault did not lie with Dandan's father personally, but the entire family has been in an environment of extreme poverty for a long time, which has made him short-sighted and narrow-sighted.
Even as a father, under the burden of financial pressure, he may only be able to see the immediate expenses and not have in-depth medical knowledge.
In short, Dandan's father's behavior caused an uproar on the Internet, triggering a deep reflection and heated discussion on family affection. Will love and the warmth of humanity finally triumph over the cruel reality, or will it be defeated by reality? This has undoubtedly become a philosophical puzzle that is deeply provoking.
6. Blessing and Reflection: Can Charity Heal the Wounds of the Past?
The value of life cannot be measured by money, and everyone should enjoy the basic human right to be cared for and cared for. Even if you live in a difficult environment, as a parent, you must be firm in your beliefs, not lose faith and hope in your children, and not see life as a trivial thing.
Dandan's experience made us think deeply about family affection and human ethics. As a father, the kinship of blood should be a selfless gift, which is also the most essential and innocent side of human beings.
However, the real world often presents an extremely cold side, and how many parents who are deeply troubled, out of a deep-seated mindset, have no choice but to abandon their children's lives or let them go freely in extremely difficult life circumstances.
Those innocent children, they did not choose their own birth, and the value and reward of life should not only depend on the merits of the family environment. We must deeply reflect on the many outdated customs and conceptual shortcomings left over from the process of social development, and strive to ensure that every life can receive equal attention and care.