1. Hu Ke was lonely in his childhood and lacked parental care
Hu Ke has fallen into a lonely childhood since he was born. As an intellectual youth, my mother was busy with work; My father, who was a technician, was also very busy. Young Hu Ke can only rely on the care of his grandparents like an umbilical cord.
When she was only six months old, her parents had to entrust her young life to her grandparents.
Under the careful care of his grandparents, Hu Ke gradually grew up. Although she showed a well-behaved and quiet appearance in front of everyone, there was a suppressed emotion hidden in her heart, and she was used to burying all her thoughts deep in her heart and rarely confided in others.
Due to the lack of parental care, Hu Ke has been quite introverted and sensitive since he was a child. It wasn't until she was six years old that her parents realized what they owed to their daughter and took her back to live with her.
However, under the care of his parents, Hu Ke has never been able to fully adapt to this hard-won family affection. She always silently obeys her parents' wishes and rarely takes the initiative to express her emotions or share her thoughts with them.
In Hu Ke's mind, his parents are more like strangers than relatives, even though they have done their best to make up for their past regrets. Hu Ke always endured that loneliness alone, enclosing herself in a quiet and indifferent world, and no one could touch the softest and fragile part of her heart.
Second, the road of love after meeting Sha Yi was tortuous and bumpy, and he was forced to enter the palace of marriage
After graduating from high school, Hu Ke was admitted to the Communication University of China, far away from his hometown, and began a new journey in life. During her time in school, she became a "man of the hour" on campus with her outstanding appearance, and was known as the "Three Golden Flowers of Zhongchuan" along with Li Xiang and Zhao Ziqi.
In 1998, after Hu Ke successfully completed his studies, he was favored by a satellite TV station and started his hosting career. However, underneath her kind and lively exterior, she remains silent on the inside.
Hu Ke has always been a restrained and quiet woman, which is different from the image of the host in people's minds.
In order to seek a breakthrough, Hu Ke began to try cross-border showbiz. By chance, she starred in the TV series "Fast Mouth Li Cuilian 2" instead of her classmate Li Xiang, thus experiencing the fun of interpreting different lives.
After a series of successes, Hu Ke was fortunate to sign a contract with a well-known brokerage company and successfully served as the host of a popular talk show!
In this interesting hosting process, Hu Ke was fortunate to get acquainted with Sha Yi, who was about to affect the trajectory of his life. In the process of understanding and falling in love with each other, Hu Ke was full of expectations and decided that this relationship was the sincere love he had longed for for a long time. However, it is a pity that only after two years of love, Sha Yi asked her in a "threatening" tone that if she didn't want to regret the breakup, then she had to agree to his marriage proposal.
It was originally a romantic thing, but it became a little embarrassing because of Sha Yi's words. Hu Ke inevitably felt a little lost at that moment, but after careful consideration, she finally decided to accept Sha Yi's marriage proposal. So, in 2011, Hu Ke, who was already 36 years old, bravely married Sha Yi, who was four years younger than her, and began a new and challenging married life. However, she could not have foreseen at the time that the road of this marriage would be so tortuous and bumpy, full of various difficulties and setbacks that she never expected.
Prior to this, Hu Ke had experienced three failed emotional experiences. She once thought that she was destined to become a leftover girl, until she met Sha Yi. However, looking back now, perhaps she should have been more cautious in the first place, instead of being forced into the marriage hall and thus falling into this slightly reluctant marriage.
3. Married life is not as expected, and there are endless helplessness and grievances hidden
The days after marriage were not as good as Hu Ke expected. Sha Yi's strong machismo style and careless personality made her heart full of helplessness and sighs. He has no interest in household chores, often throwing dirty clothes around, and all the housework is pressed on Hu Ke's shoulders alone.
In the face of Sha Yi's chaotic and disorderly living habits, Hu Ke could only endure it, after all, she was planning to temporarily put down her career in order to have children and devote herself to family life. In just three years, she gave birth to two lovely sons one after another, and she spent every day in a busy household and childcare work, both physically and mentally exhausted. Sometimes, when the children fall asleep, she will cry silently alone, and even suffer from postpartum depression for a while.
However, even in the face of such a predicament, Sha Yi still seems to have failed to fully understand and understand his wife's bitterness at the moment. He still insisted on himself, and pushed all the housework and children to Hu Ke to manage.
Whenever the work task is urgent, he does not hesitate to leave the family and go out for a long trip, completely ignoring the actual situation at home!
As a mother, she longs to devote herself to family affairs and take care of her husband and children. However, as an excellent professional woman, she is also eager to re-enter the workplace and realize her career aspirations.
However, Sha Yi's expectation is only to hope that she will become a full-time wife who teaches her husband and children and is diligent in housework, and for this reason, they have had many heated arguments in parent-child variety shows.
Seeing the children growing up, Hu Ke could no longer suppress the deep desire in his heart. When the invitation to "The Legend of Ruyi" came, she resolutely decided to express her willingness to return to the entertainment industry to Sha Yi.
However, Sha Yi firmly objected, on the grounds that he was worried that it would affect the children's normal life. Faced with her husband's resolute response, Hu Ke burst into tears in an instant and cried bitterly.
At this moment, she finally couldn't bear the bitterness and helplessness of many years, and completely broke out. From a well-known host in the past to a powerful actor today, Hu Ke was once an independent and independent professional woman.
However, since entering the marriage hall and giving birth to children, she no longer seems to be able to find the courage and self-confidence she once had, and can only give up her own pursuit for this marriage again and again, and gradually lose control of life.
Part 4: Crying and complaining about "regretting getting married", and strengthening the determination to regain oneself
Looking back on the past, Hu Ke was a high-profile well-known host and powerful actor. Every year on Chinese New Year's Eve, her busy figure will appear on the CCTV screen on time, hosting one popular program after another.
In the days after marriage, in addition to the tedious housework and the arduous parenting process, she no longer seems to see the dawn of regaining her career. The long-suppressed emotions were finally released at the recording site of various programs, and she cried out the painful voice of "regretting marriage".
Hu Ke's red and swollen eyes and choked voice moved everyone present. It turns out that behind the seemingly happy married life on the surface, there is an indescribable helplessness and grievance hidden in her.
Sha Yi always ignores her emotional needs, has no support for her desire to return to work, and even directly blocks her phone number during an argument, without any regard for his wife's plight.
The details that accumulated in Hu Ke's heart seemed to be unremarkable, but at a certain moment they erupted like a torrent of beasts. She unabashedly said the mantra "It's a pity to get married", and the bright star at the beginning can now only become a full-time housewife at home, such a role change really makes people feel endless difficulties and depression.
In fact, Sha Yi did not have any bad intentions, he just adhered to the concept that he should go out to earn money to support the family, and completely entrusted the responsibility of housework and child care to Hu Ke. However, he did not consider that as an independent woman, Hu Ke also had ardent expectations and pursuits for career achievements.
When Hu Ke's accusation sounded, Sha Yi suddenly realized that there was a great deviation in his concept and behavior pattern. He began to reflect deeply on his inner macho tendencies, and actively adjusted his mentality, trying to pay more attention to and empathize with his wife's emotional needs.
Fifth, mutual tolerance and hand in hand, marriage rejuvenated
After Sha Yi realized his mistake and began to transform, Hu Ke gradually regained his career. She devoted herself to the shooting of many film and television works, stepped into the workplace again, and lived the lifestyle of her dreams.
The two also co-starred in the TV series "Changfeng Crossing", recreating the sweet memories of their first acquaintance and love on the TV screen. Although Sha Yi still shows some stubborn "machismo" habits at times, Hu Ke has also learned to take the initiative to express his opinions, and the two have gradually understood each other's predicament through frank communication.
Over time, they found the best way to balance family and career. In this process, both husband and wife have put in great effort and tolerance.
Sha Yi no longer sticks to the rules, abandons the concept of self-righteousness, and sincerely supports Hu Ke's career development and creates a broader development space for his wife. At the same time, Hu Ke also learned to arrange his time reasonably to ensure that he can spare energy to properly handle family affairs and give his children full care after busy work.
They are considerate of each other's positions and maintain the marriage relationship with tolerance and understanding. The road to marriage is already full of ups and downs, and they have gone through a rather tortuous and arduous journey.
However, as long as we sincerely understand and understand each other, we firmly believe that we will always find the road to move forward together!