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Today's topic for you:
What do you think of the "parental unkindness theory"?
Some of the real experiences shared by netizens below may give us some inspiration and insights
Yes, love can't be forced. Love is an art, love comes out of love.
It's not for you, or your dad and I would have left a long time ago.
The character is stable on the outside, but it is only unstable for the children [tears]
Your parents love you, not kindness. Well, there is debt. Love is pure.
The Internet is full of parental unkindness, which just shows that many parents are unqualified.
My dad said I couldn't afford to pay him back, but when they separated, the court sentenced me to my mom, and they snatched me back, and I never said that I had to go with them, and he had to rob me, and I couldn't afford it
I feel that since the post-80s, parents will feel, thank this little angel for choosing us to be her parents, experience the happiness of being parents, yesterday my husband also said, Dad thought that if you have a second child, we will ignore you somewhat, and feel distressed, or just spoil you.
Whether there is grace or not is also the child's most right to speak, and it is wishful thinking, no matter how good it is, it cannot be overstated. People stay at home, and I have to drag him out to invite him to dinner, so no matter how delicious the food is, it can't be a reason for me to ask for credit.
I saw a sentence that I felt particularly emotional. What the child reciprocates is the parents' share that does not ask for anything in return.
Compulsory education, freedom of marriage and love, personal freedom is not allowed to be bought and sold... These ancestors worked hard to win the sovereignty of women and children, and the mountain of my father was tightly blocked
Parents' gratitude is just to make it easier for parents to control their children [covering their faces]
What does En mean? It's that your parents say that you have to pay back if you have benefits, the ultimate transactionalism
Mothers are fine, mainly fathers, and many fathers actually don't love their children.
That's right, parents can't change a person's character, for example, my father is essentially a person with a problematic character, and becoming a father does not make him a person of high moral character.
Some parents act by telling their children that you have to repay your parents for not killing! This is a very cruel truth.
Right. There is no grace in giving birth to children, and it is definitely graceful to provide for children to go abroad, buy houses, etc. On the contrary, those who cannot even guarantee the basic livelihood of their children, and who are psychologically and emotionally suppressed and abused, are guilty.
To sum it simply: the social trend is coercing her to give birth to children, and she does not dare to have the slightest resistance. Dare to admit that he is a rat and a rat, in essence, he has defeated most of his cowardly and incompetent parents.
Children are generally able to listen to reason, but many times they cannot understand it. More often than not, parents are unreasonable, and then children follow suit.
Finally, someone understands that the child is not needed for life, the unconscious state is good, dragged out by the desires of two people, there is no choice, the process is irreversible, and if you want to go back, you have to experience physical pain and mental fear, and a catastrophe from heaven. Treat the child as a human being, life makes him happy more than painful, regret is less than happy, and giving feelings in return is the right solution.
Raising children knows the kindness of their parents, which is not entirely true. It should be after having a child that I know what my parents did back then. Parental kindness should be the child's feeling, and parents should not talk about parental kindness all day long.
Whoever is kind to whom depends on who has the right to speak
Many people defend their parents' kindness only because there is no love in their parent-child relationship and they can only rely on debt to maintain it.
Companionship and care are graces, and as pure providers, there is no grace.
Many people have raised their children all their lives and spent time, energy, and money, but they have not penetrated into the emotional communication in their hearts, and their children actually have no feelings for them.
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