Behind the sky-high bride price: the woman angrily reveals the amazing secret of her newlywed husband, where is the marriage going?
Recently, a news about a woman asking for a bride price of 580,000 yuan for marriage, but after marriage, she found that her husband had borrowed 500,000 yuan, which aroused widespread concern in the society. The woman asked the man for a high bride price when she got married, thinking that she could exchange it for a happy married life, but after the marriage, she found out that her husband had taken on a huge debt in order to make up the bride price. Faced with such a reality, the woman was furious and even considered divorce. So, what exactly is this incident all about? What should we make of this phenomenon?
It is reported that the woman and the man met soon and entered the palace of marriage. In the process of discussing marriage, the woman's family put forward a bride price of 580,000 yuan. In order to marry the woman he loves, the man scraped together this bride price at all costs. However, after marriage, the woman finds that her husband's financial situation is extremely tight, and sometimes he is even unable to maintain his daily expenses. Under the woman's questioning, the husband finally confessed the truth: in order to make up the bride price, he borrowed a high debt of 500,000 yuan from relatives and friends.
This news is undoubtedly a huge blow to the woman. She was angry and disappointed, believing that she had been deceived by her husband. She believes that it is disrespectful and irresponsible for her husband to take on such a huge debt in order to marry her. The woman said that she originally thought that the bride price was just a kind of respect and recognition from the man's family, but she didn't expect such a terrible truth to be hidden behind it.
In the face of his wife's anger and disappointment, the husband also felt very guilty and helpless. He explained that in order to marry the woman he loved, he only wanted to meet the woman's requirements and did not consider the consequences. He admitted his mistake and promised to pay off his debts as soon as possible and work to improve his family's financial situation.
However, the woman did not buy her husband's explanation. She believes that her husband's actions have seriously damaged the trust and affection between them. She said that she could not accept a husband who was burdened with huge debts in order to marry her, and such a marriage no longer made sense to her.
This incident has aroused widespread concern and discussion in society. Some people believe that the high bride price demanded by the woman's family is unreasonable, and it is even more undesirable for the man to take on a huge debt in order to marry the woman. They called on society to abandon this bad habit and advocate a healthy and rational concept of marriage and love.
At the same time, some people expressed understanding of the woman's reaction. They believe that it is normal for the woman to be angry and disappointed after learning the truth. After all, she originally thought that the bride price was just a kind of respect and recognition from the man's family, but she didn't expect such a terrible truth to be hidden behind it.
This incident also makes us think about the question: how should the bride price in marriage be viewed? As a traditional custom, the bride price reflects the respect and recognition of the man's family for the woman to a certain extent. However, with the changes of the times and the development of society, this custom has gradually exposed some drawbacks. An excessively high bride price requirement will not only bring a heavy financial burden to the husband's family, but may also affect the relationship between the husband and wife and the stability of the marriage.
Therefore, we should advocate a healthy and rational concept of marriage and love, and abandon excessive bride price requirements. In the process of discussing marriage, both parties should be honest with each other, fully communicate, and jointly negotiate a reasonable amount of bride price. At the same time, the man should also act according to his own financial situation and ability, and not take on huge debts in order to meet the woman's requirements.
In short, this incident is a wake-up call for us: in marriage, we should respect each other, be honest with each other, and share family responsibilities and obligations. Only in this way can we build a healthy and stable marriage relationship and create a better future together.
Of course, in addition to the bride price issue, this incident also reflects some deeper social problems. For example, some people may have a biased perception of marriage, believing that marriage is a transaction that needs to be balanced through material exchange. This concept not only distorts the essence of marriage, but also easily leads to contradictions and conflicts in marriage.
Therefore, we need to strengthen marriage and love education and guide people to establish a correct concept of marriage and love. We should understand that marriage is based on mutual respect, understanding and support, not a simple material transaction. In the process of talking about marriage, both parties should pay more attention to the compatibility of each other's character, personality and values, rather than paying too much attention to material conditions.
In addition, we need to be mindful of the inappropriate behaviour that some families may take when they are under financial pressure. For example, borrowing money in order to make up the bride price, slapping a swollen face to make a fat person in order to maintain face, etc. These behaviors will not only bring a heavy financial burden to the family, but may also affect the physical and mental health of family members and the harmony and stability of family relationships.
Therefore, we need to promote open communication and understanding among family members. In the face of economic pressure, we should act according to the actual situation and not sacrifice the happiness and stability of the family in order to cater to the eyes of the outside world. At the same time, we should also strengthen social support and protection to provide more help and support to families who are experiencing financial difficulties.
To sum up, although this incident is an individual case, it reflects some deep-seated social problems and problems in the concept of marriage and love. We need to start from multiple angles, strengthen marriage and love education, advocate the concept of rational marriage and love, pay attention to family economic pressure, and other aspects of work, and jointly create a healthy, harmonious and stable marriage environment.