In the matter of old-age care, the most painful thing is not the old people who have grown old, disabled or even demented, but the little old people who take care of them!
It turned out that medicine was not as advanced as it is now, nutrition was not as adequate as it is now, and people's life expectancy was only sixty or seventy years old. Pension is not a problem.
"Life is rare for seventy years", and there are very few people who can live to be over 70 years old. The old man is sixty or seventy years old, and the children are forty or fifty years old. Physically, taking care of the elderly is not a big problem. Besides, in the past, there were no three or five children in that family, and once everyone shared this physical strength, it was not a problem.
Another is that in the past, medicine was not developed, and the old man lingered in bed for three or five months and left. That's like now, medicine is too developed, as long as it is not a terminal illness, doctors always have a way to make you live a long life. Anyone under the age of 70 is considered middle-aged. Over 70 years old is still a young among the elderly! It is all too common for old people to live to be eighty or ninety years old!
This is a problem. When the old man is eighty years old, his children are basically retired. When the old man is 90 years old, his children are 70 years old, and he is also a young old man.
Although medicine is now advanced and nutrition is sufficient, the parts that have been used for sixty or seventy years are almost worn out. Around seventy, it's no problem to take care of yourself, but it's really a bit unbearable for them to wait for their parents full-time.
Some parents are wise enough to accept going to a nursing home. Some people can't accept going to a nursing home, but they can accept a babysitter. Some parents can't accept these things, and feel that the purpose of "raising children to prevent old age" is to let them support their old age when they are old, and they must be served by their children themselves. If you don't wait, you will cry and make trouble, and hang yourself, saying that you are not filial. The sixty or seventy-year-old man was supposed to live for his old age, but he had to become the main force of the old man.
It is now a common social problem for the young elderly to take care of the elderly.
The original problem was not very prominent, but now that the elderly are living longer and longer, this problem is highlighted. Another important reason why people are reluctant to touch this issue is that they are afraid of being said to be unfilial by others.
In China, unfilial piety is a very sensitive topic. Once a person is labeled as unfilial, he may be able to deny everything about you! I even think you're a heinous villain. How many people can't say the bitterness in their hearts, so they can only endure it silently.
When serving the elderly, if the physical strength is within the physical tolerance, the vast majority of children will accept it and will try their best to endure it. However, the most painful thing is that the effort is thankless. Their efforts are not only not recognized by their parents, but also by their other siblings.
The one who is the hardest and most tired, and who contributes the most, is often scolded the most. In the eyes of his parents, he may also be the most unfilial one. He was even blamed and complained by his parents and other siblings, shedding blood and tears. No one understands the psychological pressure they are subjected to, no one cares about the exhaustion of their bodies, no one helps them solve the problems they encounter in life, and everything is silently borne by them. Until the day when I ran out of oil and couldn't bear it.
How many little old people took care of the old people, the old people were okay and lived well, but the little old people boiled their bodies one after another and left. There is an old man who is nearly 100 years old, and 5 of his 6 children have survived.
And the most tragic thing in this is that the old man is disabled and long-lived, or sober but strong, for children, it is definitely a double torture of physical and mental.
Some people also say that your parents raise you young, and you should support your parents when they are old. Nine times out of ten, the person who said this did not take care of an incapacitated or powerful elderly person for a long time.
Raising a child is not at the same level as providing for the elderly. The child is small, and he is becoming more sensible day by day, and he has infinite trust in his parents, and what his parents say is what they are. If you are disobedient, your parents can still teach you and educate you. The child has been running around for more than a year.
Waiting for the old man to be so compared, the body of more than 100 catties is getting heavier and heavier day by day. The point is that I don't trust you yet, and I don't listen to you yet. I've been strong all my life, my body is like this, and I still want to command my children. There is always a set of fallacies in the brain, and they don't trust their children at all. I often make a mess of things that you have planned well, and you can't say it yet.
waited for him every day, and said that you were not filial. He couldn't take care of himself anymore, and he beat and scolded the children who were waiting for him when he was not satisfied. What's even saddest is that whoever takes care of their parents is the least filial in the eyes of their parents. When waiting for the parents, the other children ran away, and the time for accusation came, so that the waiting children really had tears in their eyes and blood in their hearts.
Some people say that if they had a choice, they would rather take care of 10 children than take care of an elderly person like this!
I hope that the whole society will face up to this problem.
Give more care and understanding to these little old people who are waiting for the elderly, and share their psychological and physical burdens as much as possible. For every family with old people, it can't just stay at the level of having money to contribute and making a strong contribution. Some children feel that if they pay for it, they have the right to blame the one who contributed. In fact, the most torturous thing is the relative who faces the old man every day, and the pain they endure not only comes from the body, but also from the spirit. And mental pain is invisible and cannot be quantified. Among relatives, we should also care for them spiritually, be considerate of them, and relieve them!