Text by Kusushiba
Maybe you have a lot of friends before you get married, you can chat with the south, the north and the south, you can open the sea and the sky, and you can cherish each other more.
Maybe you will feel that you will have a lifelong fate, even if you are separated from each other, even if you marry a wife, even if you marry a wife and have children, you can still come together, three cups and two cups, complain about your heart, and talk about sorrow.
They also promised each other that no matter how old time passes, the friendship between them will not change.
When my life is confused, you can always relight my life, let me see light and hope, and when I am disappointed, you can always warm my heart and give me strength.
It wasn't until I got married that I realized that I was thinking too simply, some friends were drifting apart, and some friends were no longer in touch.
After getting married, if you don't even have a friend, it often only says two things.
1. They faded out of their lives.
After getting married, it's actually even busier.
Not only to manage a good marriage, but also to manage your own work and interpersonal relationships.
Before getting married, everyone often got together to connect with each other.
After getting married, there is not so much time, so for some ineffective socialization, I refuse if I can.
Especially after having a baby, most of the time is spent on the child.
Sometimes I don't even have time to sleep, so I always take a break to rest.
Basically, I was at home all day, and my friends asked me to go out to play, but I always said that I was too tired, so I refused.
Over time, they faded out of the life of their friends, and over time, they became accustomed to not having their own existence, and over time, the relationship between them faded, and over time, no matter how deep the feelings were, they gradually faded.
Therefore, relationships are to be managed with care.
If you fish for three days and dry your nets for two days, it is often difficult to manage a relationship.
Of course, in fact, if it is a friendship that needs to be deliberately managed, it is often very tiring, and it is often not suitable for you.
Two or three confidants in life can do it, and after you get married, if you invite friends into your married life, then you can also maintain it.
There are still topics to talk about each other, and there is still a connection to each other.
So, it depends on how we handle our relationship with our friends.
Everything is changing, so the way we get along with our friends must also be constantly changing, only in this way will the relationship not be estranged.
Of course, I really hope that everyone who gets married can have their own bosom friends and have a place to talk when they are depressed and can't think about it.
On the road of life, there is a spiritual harbor of one's own, which can make one's life not lonely and gentle one's own years.
Second, I have improved myself, so I don't belong to the same circle.
Maybe before getting married, there was not such a strong sense of struggle, everyone always got together to eat, drink, and have fun, and life was always very good.
But marriage is different, after getting married and forming a new family, when you have children, life is stressful, and you can no longer live the same leisurely life as before.
No matter how you have to struggle, no matter how you have to work hard, so you have to constantly improve yourself and change yourself.
And the circle of friends before they got married is still the same as before, and they have not changed at all.
So we distanced ourselves, and even if we get together again, it's hard to talk to each other.
For such embarrassment, it is natural that they will no longer be contacted.
This is true of any relationship, when you are constantly improving, constantly improving, and others are always standing still, then you can only part ways in the end.
It's not anyone's fault, it's that many times it's not suitable, the words can't be said together, and the road can't go anywhere.
After getting married, you don't have any friends, and most of them do.
In fact, there is no need to be too sad, in fact, there is no need to be too nostalgic, the scenery in the past was beautiful, and the past life was good, but the current life is not bad, but the current life seems to be better.
In life, you meet your own passers-by, and in the end, you can grow old with yourself all the way, not only need fate, but also need each other's careful management.
Don't force yourself into your own circle, what kind of person have you become? What kind of circle will you have? So it's just a phase.
Even if you don't have friends after getting married, but your life is of quality, isn't that a good thing?
Everyone must learn to face loneliness and enjoy the freedom and beauty of loneliness, so that life can be transformed again and again.
It is true that if you understand the above two problems, you will understand that there are no friends after getting married, and these are objective existences.
Don't get into it, go with the flow, everything is the best arrangement.
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